Client Details-
Name- S
Age- 36 Years/F
Hypnotisability Score- 8/10
Eye Roll Score- 2/4
VAK- 3/8/4
Dominant Sense- Kinesthetic
Second Dominant Sense- Auditory
Pain level before sessions 7/10
Pain level after sessions 0/10
Session 1: Nov. 25, 2025 (9 – 1 pm)
Stages 1-6
History:
S was born in a large middle-class family in South India. S have 2 elder sisters, an elder brother and a younger brother. The way she was brought up is very normal- nothing extraordinarily loving or traumatic. As a middle child of both sex-orders, she didn’t receive much pampering as she was not the first or the last born, or the first male or a female. Mom was very devotional; father was running around for work to meet the family demands. More than mom, S is attached to her sisters. Her dad died when she was 21, unexpectedly. This shook the financial stability of the home. Elder brother didn’t pay much attention to family needs. He married and drifted away with his own family. Both the sisters were also married then. Fortunately, S has completed her degree in Commerce and could secure a job. She took the responsibilities of her family, helped her younger brother to complete his studies. Helped mother to maintain the family expenses. She saved for her own marriage. A self-made, very courageous girl. But the selfishness of her siblings and running around for the family without meeting her needs has made her a store house of anger. Her temperament has led to breaking her mobile phones and utensils and losing her job. When she is mad, she is literally mad. Otherwise, very caring, loving, and a consistent giver.
When she was 29 years old, one of her friends introduced a guy belonging to her caste and city as a potential groom. She liked her fiancée, though fiancée is an amputee, free lance artist without no stable income. She chose him because she liked him and felt an immediate connection with him. The guy didn’t have any bad habits and had a good family upbringing which fueled her decision to move forward marrying him. After marriage, she wanted to start a food business making her sister a working partner. Due to COVID- first and second wave, her hotel business was hit hard. S husband put all the money to start the hotel business. He borrowed money for his wife’s desire. S’s anger issue and impatience fueled the hotel business to fall apart. She couldn’t maintain cordial relations with her employers and even with her working partner- sister. Hotel business had to be shut down with a huge loss. S became more anxious and was not aware of husband’s compounding debt issue. Husband hid the facts from her as she was not mentally in the right frame of mind to face the truth. While husband was borrowing money for S’s business, S was giving away her jewels and money savings (earned before marriage) to her sister’s family. Even after her marriage she was more worried about her sister and brother’s problems than her husband’s. This created a huge gap between the couples, though they love each other very much. 6 years down the marriage road- no child, a marriage where S relatives were against (S felt the need to prove that her marriage was not a failure), huge debt, husband hiding the facts (he is blaming S for anger), S’s pent-up emotions. She had a severe nervous breakdown a year ago, when she had a partial memory loss for 2 weeks, lost her speech and couldn’t remember words. By god’s grace she overcame all those difficulties. In between she did some pitru puja for her husband’s paternal aunt who died very young. After the puja, she suffered physically as well as financially. She is questioning whether to continue the puja or not.
S question was being a responsible and lovable girl, why am I suffering in this life continuously, why does happiness elude me? While everyone is selfish and they are not ashamed, why am I made to feel guilty about being angry? I feel guilty about my husband’s debt issue. I don’t know how to help him, but at the same time, anger is coming did I ask him to borrow this much, without even thinking?
Issues to resolve:
- Root of uncontrolled anger
- Lingering pain in her feet for more than 3 years
- Her husband’s debt issue
- Is pitru puja serving or damaging her purpose?
Theme- ‘Anger’
Day 2: Nov 26, 2025 (8.30 am- 11 am)
We started with a small prayer to Lord shiva, Masters, Dave Elman followed by garden of paradise. She was asked to remember her happy memories.
T: At the count of 1-3, go to one of your happy memories?
C: In school, with my friends- Divya, Aruna and me. We are sitting and having lunch under the tree. I have curd rice and fish curry. We all share and eat with so much fun. It makes me very happy.
T: Very good, shall we go to another one?
C: I am at my home in front of puja room, where I am wearing green and white striped skirt. Both my sisters were standing next to me. I feel very happy. I am 7 years old.
T: Good, memory with your dad?
C: My dad is riding bicycle. It is raining. I am sitting in the front bar. He is protecting me from rain and rushing home.
Then I tried to go back to her toddler memories, in utero- No effect. She couldn’t see anything. I tried asking her to go to some bad memories, no response from her.
I asked her to relax well. Then she was taken to the tunnel, a shiva temple (She is a devotee of lord shiva)
T: Bow down to lord shiva. Place your hands on lingam. Now focus your attention to the question I am asking you and allow lord shiva to answer all those questions through you. Are you ready?
C: Yes
T: Why do you feel intense anger?
C: People are selfish. Brutally selfish. I hate all those surrounding are selfish and I am suffering and it makes me very angry.
T: Ask Shiva, how to overcome this anger?
C: He says “look out for yourself. Your plate is empty while you are trying to feed others. When they don’t care about your hunger you get angry. First, feed yourself.
T: That is wonderful. It is very true, unless you are filled, you can’t fill up someone else’s.
C: How to feed yourself?
T: I need to focus on my growth. What is important for me is that I need to pay attention to what helps me to grow. Stop worrying about other problems.
C: Very good. Now go deep.
T: When did you meet your husband? Go further deep. First time, very first time, it could be very far away. Ask lord shiva, when did you meet?
C: I met him in the pond within the temple. It is this lifetime only.
T: That’s fine. How do you think you can counter your husband’s debt issue?
She took time. After prompting her for an answer-
C: I need to hold his hand.
T: Very good. You being understanding and supportive is sufficient. That is exactly what he is expecting from you. Now, can you ask Lord Shiva how to draw boundaries with your siblings?
C: I should keep away from them, if I must be happy. My journey is alone. If I have to be successful in my life, then I must go alone. If I try to carry them, I will fall off. That is not good. I should not carry their burdens. They can take care of themselves.
T: Very good. See, you have been carrying everyone’s burden on your shoulders. That drains your energy, which makes you lose temper. Can you ask Shiva about child?
C: (quiet for a long time) I don’t hear or feel anything.
T: That’s okay. Can you ask Shiva about doing the pitru puja?
C: The pitru puja I am doing is good. It serves me good. My pitru is a savior. She burns all my karma. From 100%, she has reduced to 50%. I should continue to do this puja. She will protect my family.
T: Very good, now ask Shiva, that why are you are suffering from these feet pain. You would like to walk to his temple over the hills. Yet this pain is stopping you from doing so. Ask shiva, what am I missing to cure these feet pain? Is there any lesson or treatment regimen I need to follow?
C: Nothing. It’s all on my mind. No lessons, no treatment. It’s my imagination.
T: Good, now make an intention to focus on the pain in your feet. As this was purely your imagination, now remove all those pains from your body and place the pain on the feet of shiva. You are removed from all the pains. You are totally pain free. Now you can walk on pilgrimage to your favorite destination. Have you done that?
C: Yes.
T: Very good. Do you have any more questions to ask?
C: No, I think I have answers for all my questions.
Client was taken out of trance slowly.
Integration:
The root cause for her anger was she didn’t take care of herself. She ignored her needs and growth for a long time for the past 15 years, which led to pile up emotion. Client was suggested to focus on self-care practice like yoga, meditation, me-time and to spend on her needs. She needs to focus on her growth rather than problem solving for her siblings daily.
Her husband can solve his problems. The main purpose of wife is to give mental comfort when he comes home, rather than transferring panic or fear to husband. No need to feel guilty about what has happened. He accepts his mistake and he will rectify it. But the client should be nonjudgemental and hold his hand for support rather than fighting over past decisions. The client was told the story that if a child comes crying, the job of the mother is to hold the baby to calm down and place some medicines, if possible, on the wound. The wound will heal. Instead, if the mom beats the baby out of love and frustration, baby will run away from the mom, and this is exactly what the client was doing. The client understood her mistake and said she will reform her reactions from now on.
Her feet pain is her psychosomatic symptom. She was briefed about how that works and was asked to follow up with the pain for next few weeks.
Pitru puja- Husband’s maternal ancestor puja. She was born on the same year the pitru committed suicide. Pitru also had episodes of clinical depression leading to suicide. So, she was worried about her nervous breakdown, financial loss was due to the puja. But she was clarified that it was not the case, and she felt relieved that she was on track only.
Healthy boundaries with her family members is also something she needs to work on. She can’t be a protector for everyone, and she blames herself for all the mistakes they make. The client was advised that if a husband had a heart attack, it is not wife’s mistake of not cooking enough healthily. It is husband’ s problem of not destressing, not having a proper health regimen and diet. All the husband’s faults are not wife’s mistakes, it’s true that both husband and wife must face the consequences. But the right attitude is to face the issue together rather than holding the guilt or anger which doesn’t resolve the issue.
She questioned that her mind is wavering all the time. Though she was listening to me all the time, there were 10 more thoughts which were coming. I said, “Now you know what to focus. Shiva has given the list. When 10 different thoughts come, analyze each thought and match it with shiva list. What is concordant, hold it, rest throw it. Analyze the thoughts, it will subside as time goes on. You will become a better filter.
I asked her to keep a dream diary. She has been dreaming about babies. But she didn’t get any reply. I said subconscious mind will reveal what you can hold at this moment. So, later we can do it again. But for now, work on these agendas.
Follow up:
She said she had a good sleep and felt much better. I called her husband and asked about the leg pain, and he said she hasn’t complained for the last 5 days (previously, every day she used to complain of leg pain). Husband also mentioned S has been emotionally stable without much volatility for the past week.