Many times I observed, clients cheats during session
For example, they donot give right answers during induction. They raise finger when they are still not in trance
Do we need special focus to check if client is cheating
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Vikrant
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Vikrant@
Over the years, I have come to see that most clients are not really âcheatingâ us. More often, they are trying to be a âgood client.â
Many people come into a session carrying an invisible pressure to perform. They have read books, watched videos, heard others share beautiful experiences and somewhere inside they develop an expectation that they must âdo it right.â
Sometimes raising a finger, saying âyes,â or reporting an experience becomes an unconscious attempt to meet that expectation rather than a deliberate attempt to deceive.
I remember working with a few clients who later admitted, âI wasnât sure if anything was happening, but I thought it should be happening by now.â
This honesty itself became the doorway to a much deeper session.
To me, this is less about detecting whether a client is cheating and more about creating enough safety that they donât feel the need to perform.
Like if a child is learning to swim, sometimes they splash dramatically and say, âLook, Iâm swimming!â They are not lying; they are eager, anxious and wanting approval.
The solution is not to catch them.
The solution is to help them feel safe enough to admit, âIâm still learning.â
Similarly, when a client raises a finger before reaching trance, I become curious rather than suspicious. I may gently ask a few calibration questions, slow down the process or remind them that there is absolutely no prize for going deeper and no failure in being exactly where they are.
In my experience, the more we focus on trust, rapport and permission to be authentic, the less these situations arise on their own.
Sometimes what appears as cheating is actually anxiety.
Sometimes it is imagination trying too hard.
Sometimes it is the conscious mind wanting to please the therapist.
And occasionally, yes, it may be resistance.
But curiosity usually takes us much farther than suspicion.
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@kobrakulsh well said and its so important to do so on part of the therapist.
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Every word is pure gold. Itâs like you are speaking for all of us. Yes, at times we all want to be âGood Clientsâ and help the therapist unknowingly, itâs like the guilt and silent obligation we have towards the therapy that it MUST happen. We focus on the technique instead of listening to our body then feel cheated when it doesnât bring the desired outcome. So tricky and complex! Thatâs why I donât do well in groups, I feel anxious and pressured. It becomes more like a âshowâ for me rather than actually feeling it, and there are many people like me.
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further to the valuable actually priceless inputs from @kobrakulsh, @hc2101
and the discuss we had yesterday night,
âcheatâ might not be an appropriate wordâŠ
hence we go with the Eriksonian Hypnosis which empowers the client completely to accept and communicate reality as it is and also during the demos you might have seen me use, âIts perfectly alright even if nothing comes upâŠâ because this game is neither played in the conscious state of the client or therapistâs but a very deep level which is ever active⊠Being quiet only makes us aware of whatâs underlying and whatâs moving within⊠but the healing happens at a different dimension
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This is priceless Venu Sir! Before we start any therapy or healing, going within and attaining that quiet state is essential. It feels like we are having à€à€€à„à€ź à€žà€Ÿà€à„à€·à€€à„à€à€Ÿà€° and getting the answers from ourself only. Hard to achieve but not impossible 
one step at a time!
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Like every spiritual journey starts with letting goâŠ. Now is the time to let go of this word 
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Sure Mam, will stop challenging.
May be I also need to be diplomatic in using wordsâ
Thanks
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Thank you, so much Venu Sir. for such a profound reminder that our role is not to force experiences, but to facilitate awareness.
What surfaces, and what remains silent, are both meaningful parts of the process.
And as you said, healing often occurs at a dimension deeper than our conscious understanding and our quiet presence simply allows that inner movement to reveal itself.
Grateful for this insight, Sir.
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Yes, Harmeet,
We all must happily surrender it to the universe. 
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Of course!
âitâ is gone now
Just be you, that makes you- âYOUâ
As long as people are mindful and respectful itâs all good. Some words and diplomacy must not take the essence away
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