Session 1
30th october [3.20-8-15 pm]
- Client Details
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Name: Harita
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Age: 50 years
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Gender: Female
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Language: Malayalam and English
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Occupation: Professor
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Current Living Situation: Staying alone abroad; both children are studying in India and her husband is also working there.
- Hypnotic Profile
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Hypnotisability Test Score: 10 / 10
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Eye-Roll Test Score: 1
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Breathing Pattern: Normal
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VAK Profile:
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Visual: 3
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Auditory: 5
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Kinaesthetic: 7
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Dominant Sense: Kinaesthetic
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Secondary Sense: Auditory
- Presenting Theme
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Primary Intention for PLRT:
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To get rid of painful memories
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To understand and heal repeated patterns of narcissistic abuse in relationships (especially
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Emotional pain: 9 / 10
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Fear of abandonment: 8 / 10
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Relationship conflict (core theme): very high, targeted through PLRT
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Emotional blocks: 7 / 10
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Distraction / procrastination: 8 / 10
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Trust issues with males: 5 / 10
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Abuse (past and present): significant and recurring
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History
Harita was born into a middle-class family and initially raised in a joint family. During her early childhood, her mother was frequently away due to work and her father was also often absent because of his business. She therefore developed a strong emotional bond with her grandmother, whom she experiences as a “guardian angel.”
Up to around Grade 2, she describes her childhood as good and emotionally secure, supported by her grandparents, uncles, and aunties. As the eldest grandchild, she received care and attention from the extended family. Later, she moved with her mother to her workplace and studied in the same school where her mother was teaching.
Her mother is described as overprotective, very ambitious about Harita’s studies, and emotionally distant, with traits that Harita perceives narcissistic. The mother was strict and controlling, especially around academics. She had even given her silent treatment s.Her father is remembered as kind-hearted but largely absent due to work.
A major turning point occurred around Grade 8 when her mother, who was pregnant with a second child, forced her to move back to the hometown, far from the mother’s workplace. The pregnancy was initially hidden from Harita, and the sudden change of school and environment was experienced as traumatic. She felt emotionally displaced, unsupported, and shocked by the transition.
Parental conflicts were present. Harita recalls joyful vacation times with her father’s side of the family, but these gradually stopped due to family issues. She often felt unloved and emotionally disconnected, especially from her mother, who she experienced as paranoid and harsh.
- Relationship With Mother and Father
Harita reports a long-standing mother–daughter conflict. She describes her mother as overprotective, possessive, abusive (emotionally and verbally), and narcissistic. She often felt blamed and shamed for incidents that were not her fault, including events in college. Because of this constant criticism and control, she developed difficulty in communicating openly and formed a belief that she is not truly loved or accepted.
Her father later compromised his business commitments to take care of her when she began staying with him from Grade 9 onwards. He faced financial strain and conflict related to this decision. Harita was deeply attached to him and found comfort in his presence. His passing away was a major emotional trauma, and she reports that it took years to fully grieve. She finally felt some closure only after a deep emotional experience in church, where she cried in front of the altar and felt a spiritual release of her grief.
- Education, Social and Emotional Experiences
Academically, Harita was under constant pressure from her mother. During board exams and college, she experienced severe emotional stress and reported being abused and blamed by her mother for incidents in which she felt she had no real fault. This contributed to thoughts of suicide at one point.
She also reports experiences of abuse during school days (suggesting boundary violations or emotional/sexual threats), which reinforced her fear of relationships and intimacy. Because of both the trauma and the fear of her mother’s reaction, she avoided romantic relationships and became emotionally withdrawn.
Harita loved doing artwork and found it therapeutic, but her mother repeatedly demotivated and criticised her, leading to suppressed creativity and emotional expression. She often coped by crying silently and bottling up her emotions.
She describes herself as socially reserved:
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She maintains a low social profile.
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She is not very active socially outside professional contexts.
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Community and social groups are mainly professional; she avoids broader social involvement.
- Losses, Traumas, and Coping Mechanisms
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Bereavement: The deaths of her father and grandmother were significant emotional traumas. Her grandmother was a primary emotional support figure;
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Childhood Phobia: She had a childhood phobia of water, which she gradually overcame through conditioning and support from her teacher and mother.
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Health Trauma: She had twin soul experience and severe physical symptoms a year or two ago. Despite multiple treatments, improvement was slow. She attributes eventual healing to inner healing and spiritual support .
Coping Style:
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Crying silently and suppressing emotions
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Seeking spiritual explanations and comfort
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Self-reflection and introspection
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Holding strongly to values of ethics, integrity, and respect
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Embracing solitude and selective sharing
- Personality, Values and Self-Perception
Harita considers herself unique, ethical, and highly responsible. She values integrity, respect, and deep emotional bonding. She tends to:
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Prioritise others’ comfort, convenience, and emotions over her own
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Sacrifice her own happiness to keep peace in relationships
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Maintain high standards of morality and duty
However, this pattern has contributed to:
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Social and emotional disconnection
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Difficulty forming close friendships and intimate bonds
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Fear of getting close to people
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Feeling devalued in personal relationships, especially marriage
Her children experience her as loving, but she frequently faces marital conflicts in which she feels devalued, controlled, and emotionally abused by her husband.
- Current Situation and Challenges
At present, Harita is:
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Living alone abroad, with her husband and children in India
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Experiencing ongoing marital conflict and what she perceives as narcissistic abuse from her husband
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Struggling with:
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Procrastination
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Distraction
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Sleep difficulties, especially at night
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Emotional pain, fear of abandonment, and mistrust of men
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She often shares her deeper concerns with her elder son, who she feels understands her best, although he is now busy and less available. She relies on a few close friends and her sister for emotional support. Her sister is experienced as a strong ally and emotional anchor.she always has a feeling of emotional loneliness in her marriage .
Harita enjoys listening to audiobooks and talks, and spends much of her free time in solitary, reflective activities. She is curious about Past Life Regression Therapy (PLRT) and strongly motivated to explore the deeper roots of her repeated patterns of narcissistic abuse and relationship pain.
Session 2
31 st October[ 2.30-8 pm]
History taking continued
In addition to the above she mentioned about her kundalini awakening and Twin flame experiences.
Session 3
1 st November [10.45-2.15pm]
Stage 9 , 10 , 11 completed
Happy memories
The first happy memory emerged from when the client was around six to seven years old. She found herself standing in a beautiful village watching a vast green paddy field during sunset. The colours, the stillness, and the warmth of the moment brought tears to her eyes. After the session, she shared that this memory made her feel deeply happy, as she never imagined she would experience that moment again so vividly.
The second happy memory was also from the same age. She recalled being with her mother’s friend, a teacher, and playing in the garden with the teacher’s daughters. She felt carefree and joyful, enjoying the companionship and the outdoor play.
When the regression moved further back, she reached around three years of age. She saw herself dressed in a beautiful brown and white outfit, looking cute and well cared for. She remembered waiting for her mother, as she often did during that time. The anticipation of seeing her mother made her feel happy and secure.
She also remembered receiving new dresses from her mother, and that expectation brought her great excitement.
In utero experience
She described the experience as being surrounded by blue colour. She felt very safe and protected, even though she sensed that her mother seemed anxious. Despite that, she herself felt comfortable in the environment.
During this stage of her life, she sensed that something was missing emotionally, but she could not identify it clearly.
In the garden She also recalled seeing a soft blue light, like the shadow of Krishna, which made her feel happy and she received the answer that she was in the right place. She perceived this blue presence as positive. The moment filled her with a strong sense of peace and happiness, and tears came to her eyes as she experienced it again.
Session 4 – 1st November, 3:55 PM
Theme: Relationship Conflict
Dave Elman induction, progressive relaxation, ball of light, staircase, garden, and reframing were done.
From the garden, I took her through the affect bridge.
Dialogue
T: Where are you now?
C: I don’t know.
T: What do you feel?
C: I feel discomfort, palpitations, and tension. It feels like congestion.
T: Okay, relax.
Do you see or feel anything?
C: I can see many layers.
T: Do you know what those layers are?
C: It’s like an ocean wave.
T: Can you identify the colour of the ocean?
C: It is blue.
T: What do you see or feel at the end of the ocean?
C: I can see the picture of a house.
T: Allow yourself to go near the house and describe it.
C: When I went near, I felt the season changing. Now it is covered with ice.
T: Are you familiar with that house or place?
C: No.
T: Can you identify the type of house?
C: It’s an English-style house, grey in colour. I’m watching it shatter now… there is no sign of the house.
T: What feeling is associated with that house?
C: I feel lost and worried in my heart.
T: Allow yourself to observe whether anyone is near that house.
C: No. I only see the ocean nearby and the wind is so strong that my eyes are covered by mist.
T: Allow yourself to go to a situation in any lifetime where you felt this “lost” feeling.
C: It’s 1800.
T: What do you see or feel now?
C: I see a big flood happening.
T: Oh… please tell me what is happening.
C: It is full of chaos. People are drowning.
T: Allow yourself to feel that you are there.
C: Now no living beings are there. The flood has washed away everything. It is plain land now.
T: What do you feel now?
C: I feel very uncomfortable and have palpitations. I was one among them. I saw a lady.
T: Relax, take your time.
C: I saw a lady. I think it is me.
T: Please describe yourself.
C: She is dressed in English style. She has a robe and a hat.
T: How old are you?
C: I am 40.
T: Can you see your face?
C: Yes. I look like an English lady with brown hair.
T: What do others call you?
C: Daisy.
T: Where are you?
C: I’m in a village. It is very beautiful, green, and nice. I think this was before the flood.
T: Allow yourself to Explore the village further.
C: There are not many people. It is evening. The green surroundings feel peaceful. I feel complete solitude.
T: Go to your home.
C: I’m cooking and waiting anxiously for someone.
T: Describe your home.
C: It is beautifully arranged and everything is in order. I still feel the anticipation.
T: Is anyone with you?
C: No, I am living alone.
T: How about your parents?
C: They are living in another village.
T: Who are you waiting for?
C: I feel I’m waiting for my husband.
T: Is he known to you in this lifetime?
C: I feel he is the same as my husband in this lifetime.
T: What is he doing?
C: He is in the military.
T: Do you see if he has reached home?
C: No, he has not come yet. I’m still waiting. It is a long wait.
T: How do you see yourself?
C: I am in my 30s. I am beautiful and young.
T: Observe your character.
C: I am meticulous, independent, organised, and artistic.
T: Can you identify the place?
C: I think it is a European country, but I don’t know the name.
T: allow yourself to Move to the next significant event in the count of 3…2,1
C: I’m doing my daily routine.
T: Please describe it.
C: I am walking to the church along a road. A horse is coming. There is a beautiful garden in front of the church.
T: Do you have a job?
C: Yes, I think I am a school teacher. I can see children. A celebration is happening. There are beautiful lights and everyone is happy. I feel affectionate and happy towards the children.
T: Look into their eyes. Is anyone familiar from this lifetime?
C: No.
T: That’s alright. Anything else about this event?
C: Nothing.
T: allow yourself to Move to the next significant event 3…2…1
C: I can see something black.
T: Allow yourself to see what is happening.
C: I am busy and not seeing any positive anticipation.
T: What do you feel now?
C: I am seeing a funeral.
T: Whose funeral is it?
C: I think it is my husband.
T: I’m sorry for your loss. How do you feel now?
C: I feel lost. Now the place has become dry. There is no greenery.
T: Can you recognise the people around you?
C: Yes, they are my relatives and colleagues.
T: Any familiar souls from this lifetime?
C: No, I cannot identify anyone.
T: Do you have children?
C: I’m not sure. I didn’t see anyone.
T: That’s okay.
Move to your final moments.
C: I am in the same house. I can see the beautiful garden. I am lying on the bed. People are assisting me.
T: Can you recognise anyone?
C: No, they are caretakers.
T: Experience your final moments.
C: I am peaceful.
T.Allow yourself to feel your final thought
C-peace
T: Float above. What do you see?
C: I am moving away from the place. I see white light. I am floating in that white light.
T: Do you sense anything or anyone?
C: No. Only white light.
T: Observe if there are any souls or anyone around.
C: I feel the white light turning into a colour. It might be Krishna. I’m not sure.
T: Is there any message from him?
C: No, I can’t hear or feel anything.
T: Okay.
C: The colour changes… it becomes yellow silk.
T: What does it signify?
C: I feel very peaceful seeing it.
T: What is your learning from this lifetime?
C: I feel I need to nurture children and offer my best to society.
T: That is a beautiful lesson.
T: Let’s go to the significant lifetime where you felt the pain of relationship issues. I will count from 3 to 1.
T: Where are you now? What do you see or feel?
C: I think it is ancient India. I can’t see a palace clearly; it is not very clear.
T: Allow yourself to observe the surroundings.
C: It’s a war zone. It is somewhere away from the forest.
T: Do you know the year in which this is happening?
C: It is in the past. I’m not sure about the exact year.
T: Are you able to identify yourself in that war zone?
C: I’m not sure. I feel like I am watching the situation._
The client became a bit restless, so I asked her whether she needed a break. She said yes. I took her back to the garden and helped her emerge, bookmarking the place where we were about to continue.Emerging done as i brought her back to the garden and started counting 5 to 1.
She then said she did not want to take the session forward because she felt she might see the same situation again and was not comfortable with that. She also mentioned that she was happy with what she had already learned from the lifetime she had explored
So, we decided to conclude the session and informed her that if she wanted , we could have another session later.
Integration
During the discussion, the client shared that in the past-life experience she explored, she consistently felt lonely. She recognised that the husband she had during that lifetime reflected certain characteristics she associates with her current husband—specifically, being strict, disciplined, and less expressive with affection. She was able to connect the sense of loneliness from that past lifetime with her emotional experiences in this lifetime.
She also mentioned that at the beginning of the second past-life scene, she found herself analysing the first one. She did not want to experience the emotional intensity, the death scene, or the overwhelming feelings associated with it again. She expressed discomfort and admitted she did not want to continue that part of the regression. She felt bad about it and apologised.
She said that since she herself is a therapist, her analytical mind might have created resistance to going deeper into the second lifetime. When asked about her learning, she shared that in her current life she has been feeling lazy, distant from her career, and struggling with procrastination. She said that the key learning she received from the past-life session was to give more importance to her profession—especially teaching—which was also her role in the past life.
She mentioned she was not fully sure whether she “became two or one,” but overall she felt very happy and emotionally lighter after the regression.
Follow-Up
In the follow-up, she said she could not observe much after the session because she was very busy with her professional responsibilities.
To my surprise, she asked me to help her join the meditation practice that I follow. I considered this a positive sign.
She also shared that she has become more social, and she is now able to let go of many things without being emotionally affected. She feels slightly more confident in her decision-making. She mentioned she can now manage her emotions better as well.
Thank You