Suman, F- 43, 7/10, 2/5, K, Pain level- 10/10*
Suman, a 43 yr old homemaker was referred by a mutual friend. She appeared to be very gentle, polite and attentive when we talked.
She has been married for almost 20 yrs now and doesn’t seem to find contentment in her domestic life. Her husband started abusing and humiliating her within two days of their marriage and never stood up for her.
Not only this, he takes sides with his elder brother’s wife (Suman’s co-sister) and she feels very terrified of her co-sister.
She had a happy childhood and received good education. But all her dreams came crashing down soon after her marriage.
She wanted to undertake a PLR to know her life purpose and the reasons for her suffering.
Theme –
- Troubled relationship with husband and in-laws
*Finding the life-purpose
Techniques used –
Progressive relaxation, Dave Elman, Garden and stream, affect bridge
IMR Explained
T: This is what the therapist said.
C: This is what the client said.
Session 1- Stage 1 to 9…. Completed on 30.08.23
Session 2- Conducted on 01.09.23
Session Summary- Suman went into deep relaxation within an hour of progressive relaxation and induction.
I told her to imagine herself in a garden, and recall any happy memories related to her married life. She mentioned going on vacations to a resort few years ago.
When regressed further, she recalled some unpleasant memories of being abused and threatened by her husband within two days of their marriage.
She also mentioned the mean things said and done by her co-sister.
Then I thought of creating an Affect Bridge with the emotions she was feeling. She was in deep pain as she recalled her memories. Walking down the bridge, I took her across into her past life, which would have been influencing her current life.
Here are some excerpts from the session- (the client had entered the trance, and was asked to cross the door to past life…)
T- You are standing somewhere. What comes in your awareness?
C – I just see a cat…it is very dark around…I can’t see anything else
T- Where does this cat live? Where has it come from?
C- I don’t know…can’t see…it is dark
T- At the count of 3…your awareness will take you to the place where this cat lives. 1……2….and 3
C- It is dark…I see a jungle kind of a place. There are some other animals there
T- What is happening there?
C- I see some more cats, and dogs….
T- At the count of 5, next significant event will appear…1….2……3……4……5. Now, what comes in your awareness?
C- A dog has attacked the cat. She is bleeding and about to die
T- Look into the eyes of the dog….do you recognise it? Does it have any resemblance with anyone in this lifetime?
C-This is my co-sister
T- What has happened to the cat?
C- It is dying.
T-Merge your consciousness with the cat and feel its thoughts.
C- It is feeling very sad.
T- See the cat’s soul floating above the body. See, if any divine being is present to receive it?
C- I just see a bright light…. (After a pause)- Lord Krishna is present
T- Where is the cat’s soul?
C- Lord Krishna is blessing it.
T- What was the life-lesson in the form of cat?
C-To learn to protect oneself, to be fearless
(After emerging, the client mentioned that she still feels the same way that she’ll be attacked by her co-sister who will kill her) …
Closure and integration- The client realised that she was too vulnerable as a cat and thus succumbed to death when the dog attacked her. She decided to stand up for herself henceforth. But we both felt that there was more to it. The root cause of her relationship problems still remained unidentified.
She further wanted to explore that why was she born an animal. We decided to do another PLR after a week.
Session 3- Conducted on 08.09.23
Theme-
- Reason for being born as an animal in a previous birth
- Being sidelined by her husband and co-sister
Method used - Progressive relaxation, Dave Elman, Ancient temple – 10 steps down the staircase
(the client regressed smoothly through deep relaxation; through visualization, she was taken to ancient temple, and then made to descend 10 steps down the staircase, finding herself standing somewhere…)
T- What comes in your awareness? What can you see, feel or imagine?
C- I see a 16- 17 yr old girl, wearing black shoes and a long dress. She is standing by a beach.
T- Which place this could be?
C- I think, it is Goa.
T- What is the girl’s name?
C- Angelina
T- As I count to 5, next significant event will appear in your awareness….1……2……3……4…….5
C- I see a very big house
Suman as Angelina saw herself working as a maid-servant in a big bungalow. Year was around 1950.
Then she saw her Master and his wife. She instantly recognised them as her husband and co-sister from this life time.
T- At the count of 3, your awareness will go to the next significant event…1….2….and 3……
What can you see?
C- Angelina’s Master tries to molest her and she stabs him with a knife to defend herself. He dies of bleeding. There are many people around …Masters wife is accusing Angelina of bad character. No one defends her and she is standing there, feeling helpless and shocked. They hand her over to the Police.
T- At the count of 3…. go to the next significant event in Angelina’s life…1……2…….3
C- She is very sick. Still in jail…. I think she is dying
T- How old is she?
C- Not very old…around 25-30 yrs
T- Your life as Angelina has ended now…Float above your body and begin to move upward, feeling light and free…. may be a bright light appears at a distance.
C-I see a tunnel with bright light
T- Good…. enter the tunnel……has any divine being/ spirit guide/ any deceased relative come to receive you
C- Krishna…. Krishna is there…. he is smiling
He is telling me to give up the enmity and hatred for my Master and his wife and forgive them. Otherwise, I will suffer from them in future lives too
T- What is your life-lesson from the life of Angelina?
C- She was poor and could not protect herself. I need to be strong and independent in this life.
T- Did you get the answer for your birth as a cat?
C- Yes, our mutual hatred (my master, his wife and me) brought us together in animal’s form.
T- Connect to your higher self…. what guidance do you receive from within?
C- I need to value my life as a human and devote it in my spiritual growth. For that, I have to learn to forgive and work upon my weaknesses.
T- Any other issue that you would like to address or may we end the session now?
C- We can end
Then the client was emerged from the trance and some mediations, prayers and affirmations were suggested to her.
Closure and Integration
Pain level reduced to 2. After few days, she called to inform that she was feeling much better and would now like to devote herself in the service of Lord Krishna.
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