Paranjal (Name changed, M, 11+, 7/10, 2/5, A, Fear of Expressing Emotions, 8/10*
Pranjal is a cute 11+ yrs. child. The child seems more mature than his age, seems very well behaved and is very decent.
Client History and issue as per the Client and as observed by Parents- I am 11+ years old, I live with my Parents and big brother. I love my family and I am happy. I like my school. Everything is good but one problem is there with me that I am not able to express my emotions, I am not able to speak up many times where I want to, I am not able to express my feelings also.
If my friends are talking in school and I want to say something then also I don’t say, If I get hurt and want to cry, I cannot (I feel fear and shame) to show emotions. Even If I am missing any family member when they are out for work, I can’t express this also, in my mind I feel emotions, but I can’t say or show them.
Even when 6-7 months back I got a fracture in my arm I dint cried (tears were coming due to pain) but I dint showed it to anyone.
So, I want to know why I can’t express my emotions and feelings and why I am not able to say what I want.
5 total sessions were done with the client (as age is less and a long session would be overwhelming for him)
Client was taken to trance using Dave Elman and Progressive relaxation. client in Trance
T: This is what the therapist said.
C: This is what the client said.
T: What comes to your awareness?
C: I can see a boy.
T: Who is this boy?
C: This is me only. I am carrying a flower vase and by mistake I dropped it and its broken and I am crying.
T: What happened then?
C: I can hear someone shouting - Rudra, you are 15 years old now and still you keep on crying for small- small things.
T: Who is shouting? What comes to your awareness?
C: He is an old man.
T: How is he related to you Rudra?
C: I work here, He is owner of this shop.
T: You can now go to any significant event of this lifetime. What comes to your awareness.
C: I can hear a car horn.
T: Hmmm What else?
C: I can see a small car standing outside a small house.
T: Whose house is this?
C: This is my house; I can see myself sleeping in the house now.
T: How old are you?
C: I am grown up Man.
T: Who else is there in the house?
C: I don’t know, I am alone.
T: You can now go to any significant event of this lifetime? What comes to your awareness?
C: I am in court room; two judges are there. Some accident happened; I was driving. Someone is saying that someone got hurt badly because of me but he was driving fast, it was his mistake. (looked confused and disturbed, forehead looked stressed)
It was managed by suggestive deep breathing.
T: You can now go to the last time of this lifetime? what comes to your awareness?
C: I am old. Doctor is there, he is checking something, some papers.
T: Hmmm what else?
C: I have died now.
T: How do you feel now?
C: I am happy now; I am happy here.
T: Where are you now?
C: I am here only in hospital room; I can see me lying on the bed and doctor standing. I am very light I am floating.
T: How was this life? What have you learnt from this life?
C: I was not able to show my emotions or say what I wanted in this life as that old man always use to stop me, shout on me for crying, he did not let me speak also. I went to jail also because I did not say what I wanted.
T: Anything Else?
C: I see another boy now. I am in park. Mom is calling me for eating food.
T: By what name is she calling you?
C: Richard.
T: Hmm, so see who all are there at your house when you eat food?
C: My mom, my father and my little sister.
T: What dress your mother is wearing?
C: A coat like thing and pant, she has golden hairs. She is beautiful. (smiling)
T: You can now go to any significant event of this lifetime?
C: I am in party, some other child has dropped juice on my t-shirt, I am angry, my mom told that -If you say anything in front of everyone here then I will lock you in your room for four days. (looked emotional) She is very strict she always says that she will lock me in my room if I will not be quiet in some party.
(stress management was done by breathing technique)
T: You can now go to some significant event of this lifetime ahead? 3 2 and 1 …
C: We are in car; my father was driving, and he is angry, and we met an accident.
T: What happened then?
C: Someone is fighting, I am feeling fear, but I am sitting quiet because I am afraid of my mom.
T: Let us now move to your last time? What comes to your awareness.
C: I am old, my two sons are here with me, my younger son is outside the room. I am dead.
T: Is anyone in this lifetime is related to you now, look in their eyes, and see?
C: My younger son is my elder brother, I feel.
T: Anything else?
C: I am eating something! (T Confused, C Confused)
T: What are you eating?
C: Fish and rice.
T: Look your hands and dress while eating? What can you see?
C: Some long dress, I don’t know what, I am a girl.
T: Who is serving you food?
C: My mom, I can’t see her face, she has covered it with some cloth, she is coughing.
T: With what name she calls you?
C: She is saying something, but I don’t understand. I don’t understand this language.
Her eyes I can see, she has very small eyes.
T: What else?
C: voices are coming but I don’t understand what they are saying.
T: Okay, I will now count from 3 2 1 and as I will say 1, may be your sub conscious mind can take you to the root cause of this problem from where your fear of expressing emotions is coming? 3…2…1. What comes to your awareness?
C: There is TV show going and I am watching TV, I am a girl.
T: What else?
C: I am writing something with a Pen. I have a brother, he is older, he is asking for this pen.
T: Hmmm what happens then?
C: I said I am doing work and he slapped me tightly and he slapped me again.
T: Where is your Parents?
C: They have gone for work. (stress building up)
Keep breathing deeply, now you are here with me, and you are completely safe…
T: Did you tell this to your parents when they came back?
C: No, my brother tells me that If I will tell this to my parents or will try to show something then he will beat me more the next day. (tears rolling down)
T: How old are you?
C: 7 or 8.
T: Okay, Go to any significant event now?
C: I am dead. My husband is here in hospital, I was very - very old and son is also here.
T: How are you feeling now after you have died?
C: Happy and light. My husband and my son were very nice!
T: What have you learnt from this lifetime?
C: I should show my emotions, I should express myself, there is no need to fear, no shame to show emotions and say how I am feeling. If I will not speak or show emotions, I will be sad, people will not understand me, I will be sad, but no one will know it…
T: Who tells you all this?
C: Someone is saying it and at the background hanuman Chalisa is going, I can hear it.
T: Is this a temple?
C: I don’t know, only voice is coming.
T: How do you feel when you hear this voice and hanuman Chalisa sound?
C: Safe and strong…
T: Okay, do you want to listen to hanuman Chalisa more?
C: yes. Hanuman ji is very strong.
T: okay, keep listening it and when you are ready to emerge, we will?
C: No answer
After around 2 minutes…
T: How are you feeling now?
C: good
T: Is it okay to show emotions or cry or say what you feel now? can we do it?
C: Yes, I will do it now. I will not feel fear I will feel no shame. (Felt confident)
T: Very good, let us now come back with all the learnings and the confidence we gained, and the feeling of being safe. I will now count 1 -10 and slowly you can now come out of the trance …1…2…10
C: (rubbing eyes and smile on face) after 2-3 minutes the child was seen laughing and also happy saying I was girl… I was Japanese…My Japanese mom is also my mom now.
Suggestions and conclusion:
1.In one lifetime when he saw himself as Rudra, his emotions were suppressed by the old man saying - you cry even when you are 15 and you cry on small -small things.
2.In lifetime of Rihard his emotions were again suppressed by his mother saying - If you will cry or be angry or show up something in front of others, I will lock you up.
3.In the lifetime of Girl when her big brother used to beat her many times, again her emotions and words were suppressed by brother -saying I will beat you more if you will show up anything or tell parents.
4.The soul is still carrying those experiences where the emotions and words were suppressed, and a fear was instilled in the soul that showing emotions will not be safe.
5.The client was suggested to confidently show up emotions as he is completely safe and its okay to show emotions.
6.The client is also suggested to do some yoga and meditation for building inner strength.
7.It was also suggested to the client that he should do Hanuman Chalisa daily (to which he said that yes, I keep hanuman Chalisa under my pillow while sleeping but now I will do it daily)
Pain Level before -9
After two days of session - 2
As a therapist and on top of that as a human being a message for all-
****If we have any child or grown up around us who feels vulnerable sometimes, want to cry or want to show up some emotions, we should never stop them, we must always remember that showing up emotions or crying is not a sign of weakness for children or Men women, it’s a sign of strength. **
**Suppressing someone’s emotions can be so very deep pain for some soul which they may carry life after life. **
**Showing up emotions is our strength ****
Thank you so much!
. True, pent-up emotions that are not released can lead to both physical and psychological diseases. It’s crucial to find healthy ways to express and process these emotions. 
for these wonderful words of appreciation. These words gives the strength to take up another case confidently.
