FEAR OF GETTING INTO MARRIAGE COMMITMENT
###CLIENT DETAILS :
Ms.Ann/F/22yrs
Doing CA
###CLIENT ASSESSMENT:
H:9/10 ; Eye:2/4 ; VAK: 4/5/5
DOMINANT SENSE: KINESTHETIC
SECONDARY SENSE: AUDITORY
Breathing pattern: Shallow
###HISTORY:
Ann is from a reputed nuclear family.She is very much attached to her elder sister who always protected Ann and in turn Ann trust her sister very much. From childhood Ann felt a distance with her father ( till date) as he gets angry quickly. She has a fear about it . With mother she was close during childhood. Later felt Mom is not understanding/listening to her.Ann used to be close with maternal grandmother and she respects her a lot.She didnāt like paternal grandparents due to their behaviour.Ann has a strong bond with one of her cousin and likes to share her feelings/secrets with her. Ann was a very good student in school and college participating in all activities. But she had broken relationship with her friends too which she realises that it is her mistake by judging them.Even she has broken relationship with her boyfriend . They both decided to break the relationship considering their parents and family values.
Recently this year her elder sister got married.Now parents want Ann to get married. But growing up seeing the fights of her parents and close relatives Ann is scared to enter into the commitment of MARRIAGE. She has anxiety issues also due to this.She feels being forced in getting married.
Strengths of Ann: willpower, independent,thinks before taking any decision, not attached to things
Weakness of Ann: stubborn, suppresses her feelings/emotions towards others, Anxiety issues, picky eater, FEAR OF GETTING MARRIED
###THEME : WORKING ON THE FEAR OF GETTING INTO MARRIAGE COMMITMENT
PAIN LEVEL:
Before Session: 8
Post Session: 3
###Day 1(Oct13) I started the process from stage 1 till stage 9. Then I proceeded with progressive relaxation,ball of healing light , staircase and garden step by step. I guided her to recall happy memories till her womb memories. Later with the concurrence of the client REFRAMING of current life also done taking her to the cliff. As Ann wanted to let go of the painful memories ( so many) she has been holding and the fear of her future we proceeded with REFRAMING. She felt relieved after pushing the boxes into the ocean with the help of GANESHA who accompanied her with a master in white clothes throughout.
Ann responded well to every stage and emerged very relaxed and happy.
*** The next day even she told me that she confirmed few incidents with her mother.Her mother agreed that those events happened. Ann told me usually her sleep is a disturbed one but that day she slept well and she didnāt even realised that her mother came and slept with her.
Day 2(Oct 14):
Ann came very happily looking for the session. Started with the prayer holding the hands of GANESHA Ann slipped into trance with Dave Elman, progressive relaxation,staircase and garden with Healing light.
C is client Ann and T is therapist
She had a combination of all 3 senses VAK during session
T: Where are you?
C: Iām standing alone in a balcony looking at the garden below
T: How old are you?
C: 6 years
T: Can you narrate the surrounding?
C: There is a staircase and many people are sitting there in the steps. They are working in the Royal Palace where I live.
(As she told nothing significant I moved her from that event)
T: Can you connect yourself when you are a toddler with your parents?
C: I see playing with toys and feel my motherās presence. Iām happy.
T:What happens after that?
C:It is dinner time. Iām 2 years old. There is a huge dining table. My parents are there dressed in royal clothes. Im wearing a colourful dress. Iām watching them and they are having dinner. Iāve neutral feeling.(She felt parents are not connected in this present life)
T:Can you move inside the palace and tell me how it looks like?
C: It is a Royal Palace, huge hall with steps from both sides to go to first floor. There are pictures of Royal kings in the wall but I donāt recognise them.Now Im entering a room looks like bedroom- there is a small bed where I sleep and there is a double bed on the other side of the room for my parents.This is not in South India. Itās is near some coastal area.
T: Do you remember your name how your mother calls you?
C: I can hear the name āDhaniā . I think it is my name
T: Do you know to read or write? Have you learnt?
C: I donāt know if I know. From the balcony I can see other children playing in the garden. I always feel lonely. Im the only child.
T: Are you married in that lifetime?
C: Yes
T: Can you connect yourself with the day you are getting married? What happens?
C: I can see a guy in white sherwani type dress and Iām wearing a Red saree around 20 years of age. My marriage is happening in the garden of the Royal Palace with very few people. Iām happy to get married.
T: Do you have children?
C: Iā ve a daughter and a son.
During my daughter 's delivery I can see a chubby lady who is helping me to deliver and my husband is waiting outside. It is the same palace.
Later after few years when my son was born it is not in the palace but I donāt recognise the place. Everyone celebrate his birth in a great manner.
I see we are in the garden and Iām happy - my husband and children are there . Daughter is about 7 years and son 4 years old.
I love my children very much. They are my world. Mine is a happy married life.
T: Can you see if your daughter is connected with you in the present life?
C: I feel she is closely connected but donāt know who exactly
T: Can you see if your son is connected with you in the present life?
C: My dogā¦( She became little emotional)
( Nothing significant popped up so took her to the end of her life)
T: Can you connect yourself with the last day of the lifetime? Where are you?
C: Iām in the same palace in the bedroom. Iām 86 years old with wrinkles and age related weakness.Iām lying down in my bed. I can see my daughter holding my hands.
T: Now you are in the last minute of the lifetime. How do you feel?
C: Very happy and contented though during my younger years I was alone
T: Now slowly allow your death to happen. You are out of your body now . How do you feel?
C: Iām dying peacefully due to old age. No regrets. Iām happy to be out of body. But I see my daughter and workers crying near my body.
T: Now ask Ganesha what is that you need to know from the life of Dhani to make your present life a better one?
C: Do not fear about marriage. Unexpected
things can happen. Do not compare your life with others life which you have seen.
(Then,I guided her to be with Ganesha for sometime till she wishes and ask for messages, integration of wisdom and healing)
I ended the session by bringing her back to the garden and then with the count of 1 to 10 in the present moment with awareness. EMERGED
##Abreactions:
Little tightness in the body, moving her hands and legs, little emotional, few tears
Throughout the session she was breathing consistently in a rhythm though shallow
##RECOMMENDATIONS
Just be connected with the engeries of Ganesha and the insights given by him.
Ganesha told her to meditate consistently to overcome Anxiety.
He told her to explore something new for her career perspective
(as per the client)
***Ann mentioned she feels relaxed and happy post session. She told she is open to get into marriage commitment. She told the fear has come down.
***CLIENT FEEDBACK POST SESSION:
It was an unexpected experience!
It was a little difficult to connect it first, couldnāt see pr feel any master as such but once i started imagining ganesha i could connect and feel the presence of him the entire time.
I could see some specific places where i have never been in this life and could hear somebody calling me a very specific name. I could feel the connection of 1 or 2 of the persons from present life. After the session the insights which i got from the past life really changed my perspective on marriage. Present fears were reduced because i could feel the happiness from past life.
However i was getting a little distracted in between and was connecting back to reality but majority of the time i was able to feel the other life. My body was also having some reactions like hands closing up or head hurting a little bit.
But the questions which were being asked by the therapist helped me stay connected, I was being led very clearly. I could clearly hear the voice of the therapist and still experience the other side.
At the end of the past life
I had a sense of satisfaction, happiness and content. No regrets.
nice session
