Posting my 2nd case in a story style format, mentioning a brief summary of the PLR session.
Client details:
Name: A
M/36 years, HR: 7/10, V/A/K-0/9/6, eye roll -2, dominant sense: kinaesthetic, secondary dominant: auditory.
Theme: insecure
Case History:
Client ‘A’ is a 36 year old male working in the sales department of a MNC. He is the elder son in his family and carries the primary responsibility for the household. He is married and has a two year old son. His father, who served in the Army, has been described as strict and short-tempered by him.
By nature, Client ‘A’ is a kind and caring individual. However, he has a strong tendency to overthink, particularly about responsibilities, financial security, work and the well-being of others (family members). He consistently tries his best to keep everyone around him happy but often feels that his efforts fall short.
He mentioned about a persistent and somewhat undefined fear related to security, financial stability, which keeps him under continuous stress.
During his childhood, he spent most of his early years in his native place with his grandmother, with whom he shared a deep emotional bond. At that time, his parents and younger brother were living at his father’s place of posting. Around the age of 10, he began living with his parents again, along with his grandmother.
A significant turning point in his life occurred during his college years, when his grandmother passed away in a road accident. The vehicle involved was being driven by him. Following the incident, he was blamed by family members, mainly by his father, who held him responsible for the death of client’s grandmother. This event appears to have had a lasting emotional impact on him.
Academically, he completed a B.Tech in Mechanical Engineering followed by an MBA in Sales and Marketing. He soon secured a job in sales and gradually took on the financial responsibilities of his family. He contributed to purchasing a home and a car for the family. He later entered into a love marriage, a decision that was not fully accepted by his parents.
Since 2022, his professional life has been unstable, with multiple job changes due to layoffs. This has further intensified his sense of insecurity. He tends to hold himself responsible for everything and makes considerable efforts to support others. However, he feels that his parents often do not acknowledge his efforts and continue to express dissatisfaction. Additionally, the relationship between his parents and his wife is strained, which adds to his emotional burden.
Session 1: stage 1 to 6 was followed.
Session 2
Started with a prayer to God.
Full body relaxation was done. Focus was brought to the breathing, deep and even (abdominal breathing).
Then Dave Elman induction was followed by progressive relaxation with a ball of light. The client was asked to feel or imagine as if he was completely surrounded by light.
Next, as the client went into a deeper level of relaxation, I asked him to visualize a staircase. With each number, he was asked to step down the staircase, going deeper into relaxation, becoming more peaceful, and allowing the mind to move beyond the barriers of space and time. The staircase leading him to a beautiful garden. The client was able to walk into the garden. As he is a ‘K’ client, I asked him to feel himself while walking and stepping into the garden (used several adjectives to make him feel he was in the garden).
The client found a place to sit and relax in the garden. I mentioned that in this deeply relaxed state, he could go back to a happy moment from his childhood, and if at any time he felt uncomfortable, he could float above the scene and observe it from a distance.
The client was able to go to a happy memory from his childhood when he was around 5 years old and with his grandmother. He then went to a younger age, around 2 or 1.5 years old, and even to the in-utero stage. He mentioned that the feeling was good and happy.
Later, I used the boat script for closure. He was able to meet his grandmother, became very emotional and started crying and was able to apologise to his grandmother for the unfortunate event that led to her death. He expressed that he could feel she was not angry, but instead felt her love and affection for him. He was able to release his emotions.
After this, I asked the client to return to the same garden, sitting in the boat. He confirmed, using IMR, that he was back in the garden.
Later, I asked him to feel the love he received from his grandmother, to feel the peace and positivity of the garden, and to carry this feeling with him as he returned.
Finally, I counted from 1 to 10, and on the count of 10, the client was awakened, feeling relaxed.
Session 3
Started with progressive relaxation using a ball of light. I used the Ericksonian induction script mentioned in the training workbook, taking the client from the garden to a cliff through a pathway, for EMDR- emotional discharge.
From the garden, I asked the client to imagine or feel a path in front of him that may lead him to a beautiful mountain or a cliff. I asked him to notice the surroundings forming in his awareness, to feel or become aware of the soft texture of grass along the sides of the path. I guided him to focus on his breathing and listen to the sounds of soft wind, leaves and birds. I counted from 5 to 1 and asked him to confirm when he reached the cliff. The client confirmed using IMR.
Next, I mentioned that on the cliff, with a handrail, he might see or become aware of two empty boxes nearby, one bigger behind and a smaller box in front. I also mentioned that their position could vary as per the client’s comfort. The client confirmed this using IMR.
I then counted from 3 to 1 and asked him to become aware of any unpleasant memories from the previous day, last week or month, gather them, and place them into the bigger box by putting a metal frame around it. Using the same process, I asked him to go back to six months, one year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years, 25 years and childhood, any painful or unpleasant memories. The client was able to place all such memories into the bigger box, confirming each step using IMR.
At this point, the client was able to go into the in-utero stage and feel himself in the mother’s womb. After emerging, he mentioned that he felt warm and comfortable, not unpleasant. I then asked him to go to a time before entering the mother’s womb, but he was unable to go to the LBL state . So, I told him to become aware of the time when he was born. [After emerging, the client mentioned that he felt himself and saw himself with the cord. He also mentioned that he was born on a khaat (a type of wooden cot with woven strings)]. I used this opportunity for cord-cutting and asked him to feel his first breathe after the birth when the cord was cut and finally he could breath on his own.. The client confirmed this using IMR.
Next, I asked him to carry this feeling of warmth along with him as he emerge.
After this, I asked him to become aware of the cliff again and to notice the sense of relaxation and lightness within him. I asked him to focus again on his breathing.
I then asked him to close the lid of the bigger box (containing all the unpleasant memories) and put a lock on the box, if he wants to and throw it down from the cliff. The client did this and confirmed it using IMR as I counted from 3 to 1.
After that, I asked him to become aware of the smaller box. I asked him to open the smaller box when he felt ready. As I counted from 3 to 1, I told him to allow any future worries, anxieties, insecurities or concerns that comes to his awareness. As each one appeared, I asked him to put it into the smaller box.
I then asked him to close and lock the box, if he wants to. As I counted from 3 to 1, the client confirmed using IMR. I then asked him to throw the box down from the cliff and he confirmed once it was done.
After this, I told him to feel a sense of peace, relief and relaxation. I asked him to feel the wind, hear the surrounding sounds and fully experience the moment, helping him feel renewed and relaxed..
The client was then guided back to the garden and given a few moments to relax there, experiencing peace, warmth, love and positivity. I suggested that he could carry these feelings with him as he returns to full awareness.
To bring him back, I counted from 1 to 10, informing him that at the count of 10, he could gently open his eyes.
I reminded him that there was no need to hurry and that he could carry all the positive feelings and calmness with him. I counted from 1 to 10 and the client emerged to full awareness..
Session 4
Started with progressive relaxation using the tunnel of light. I told the client that as I count from 5 to 1, on the count of 1, he may allow himself to go back to the time from where the issue of insecurity or insecure feeling started. I also mentioned that he is above time and space and his subconscious mind knows what I am referring to.
I asked him to take a deep breath in and breathe out. The client was able to feel the light (as he is a K client).
After a few minutes, the client said, “bridge… broken…but safe.” So, I asked what is coming into his awareness. The client said he saw a wooden bridge… “The bridge is connecting two mountains…”
I asked if he was able to see himself. He said yes. I asked whether he was in the same body or a different body. He said same.. When asked his age, he mentioned “26 or 27.”
Next, I asked about his clothes and more details about the place to confirm if he had gone to this place in this lifetime..The client replied that he was wearing a brown jacket, a long jacket and spects.. He also mentioned that as he was walking on the bridge, there was light coming from his feet..
I asked if he knew the place or had ever visited it, but he said No.. Since the client was already on the bridge, I asked him to continue walking and mentioned that this might lead him to a place or time where he may understand the cause of his current life, maybe issue of insecurity. I counted from 3 to 1 and the client agreed to walk forward on the bridge..
After giving some time, I asked what was coming into his awareness. The client said “gate… a wooden gate… high mountains nearby.” I asked if he could see or feel himself and he responded yes..
When I asked him to look at himself, he said, “I am walking towards the gate.” As he wanted to move forward, I gave him time to open the gate and go inside. He confirmed using IMR once done.
I then asked about the place and what he could feel or hear. He mentioned “pillars… many pillars.. its a temple…” I asked about his feelings on seeing the temple and whether he was in the same body. He said it was a different body (engram). He also said, “I want to go inside… I feel attracted to this temple.”
I counted from 3 to 1 and gave him time to go inside. He confirmed once he was inside and said, “It is a Shiva temple…”.
From there, the client moved to the next moment of a past lifetime, where he was standing in a field, a green field. I asked if he could feel his body and he confirmed using IMR. I asked about his clothes and age. He mentioned wearing a grey long robe and that he was an old man holding a stick, almost in his 80s.. He also mentioned hearing the sound of goats around.
When asked what he was doing, he said, “I am walking with the stick in the field..” He could not recall his name at that time. When asked about the time of day, he said sunset. When asked about his feelings, he said he felt tired.
Next, I counted from 3 to 1 and asked him to go to a significant moment in that life. He mentioned standing near a house, an old mud house. When asked about the surroundings, he said there were two kids playing around, approximately 4–5 years old. He said the kids were calling him “baba,” playing happily, but he could not recognize them from his current life.
He said he felt happy and went inside the house. He described a village setup with cows and clay utensils. He said there was a woman inside and felt that she was his daughter (I of IDT). When asked her name, he said “Maya.” He said Maya calls him “baba” and that she was around 20 years old.
Then suddenly, he said he could hear someone calling him “Serman,” and confirmed his name as Serman.
After this, the client started feeling stressed and uncomfortable. So I tried to manage the stress and asked him about the discomfort and he said “having pain in the abdomen..”. I gave him time to relax and asked him to take deep breaths. Asked him maybe if he knows the reason for this abdomen pain, he said, “ I think, I walked a lot today.”
After he relaxed, we moved ahead to the next significant event. The client mentioned sitting on a mud platform near the house. When asked about his profession, he said “herd, fields, cattle and woods, I am a farmer”. When asked his age, he said “ around 50”.
Then he moved to the end of his life, where he saw himself as an old man lying on the floor, with Maya and two kids (his grandsons) around him, along with other people. When asked about his feelings, he said he is feeling sad as he could not do much for them…
He became emotional and stressed, so I tried to relax him and said that he could float above if the discomfort continues and witness the scene from a distance. He did so..
But then again, I said “Serman, having known the life of Serman and the issues, maybe you can allow yourself to go back to the significant event of Serman’s life from where the current issue of feeling of insecurity comes”.
The client went back to around age 60-65, sitting in the field, said “fasal thik nahi hai…baarish nahi aayi… I could have done better… something more..” he expressed regret.. I again asked what he was feeling at that moment. He said he felt insecure and guilty for not taking care of things on time..
I said, “ Serman having known that the crops are not good, as you see your field, what better could you have done Serman to resolve this feeling of guilt and insecurity”.. The client said, “ more hardwork.. more time in the fields.. should have taken care of the crops better…”..
Then, I asked, “ having this feeling of guilt and insecurity, how do you think Serman, you have carried in this current lifetime.. “
”I feel guilty for not doing enough.. I could have done better to secure myself and the people around me. I should take responsibility and work harder..”..
Then we moved again to the end moments of Serman’s life. He described lying on the floor, crying, tears coming, feeling sad for Maya and the kids. He said, “Inke liye kuch nahi kar paaya.. kuch nahi rakh paaya..” and he was worried about the children.
He then said he felt like he was leaving his body, seeing his physical body lying down. He said, “ I feel I am going up… apna body dekh paa raha hu … sikur gaya hai….” He was able to see light and started moving towards it, describing a peaceful state.
I asked about what he was experiencing. He said he was in a peaceful place and saw a white figure but could not recognize it. He was feeling peaceful…
I suggested that he may stay there and allow himself to feel the peace fully. After some time, I asked what he was doing there. He said, “I am waiting to go down… they are telling me I will go when it is my turn.”
I asked if there was any message for him. He said, “They are telling me it is okay to let go of things… sab kuch humare hisaab se nahi hota hai.. bas apna karm karo… do your karma and don’t worry about the outcome.”
For learning, he mentioned that he needs to work hard and do something for the security of his loved ones, financial security.
Carry over: guilt (regret) and insecurity
Key learning:
Work harder
Provide security (financial)
Take responsibility
I guided him to integrate this learning into current life.
When asked how he was feeling , he said “peaceful and relaxed”. I said that he can carry this peace, calmness and relaxation with him..
The client wanted to emerge, so I told him that I would count from 1 to 10. I mentioned that he may remember and feel this peace and calmness whenever he relaxes or meditates and that he may gain more clarity..
I counted from 1 to 10, suggesting that with each count he would feel more aware, more awake and more energized, with a sense of well-being and security within himself.
The client emerged feeling relaxed.
He did not immediately mention the pain level, but later shared that its reduced to 0. He also said he now has clarity about what he needs to do in life.
Report & Recommendation
Suggested him to sleep well that day, drink plenty of water and practice meditation and exercise. Also recommended him to develop a regular habit of reading (he likes to read books but cannot read regularly as he was not able to focus).
Feedback after few days:
He observed changes in his sleeping pattern and felt more calm. He took term insurance of a huge amount, did a full body health check-up, started going to the gym regularly and was able to focus more on his work..
keep shining 
