Vitals: Alias: Dipen;
Gender: Male;
Age range: 35-39;
HS: 9/10;
ERT: 3/4;
Dominant sense: Visual;
Breathing: Normal;
Disposition: Introvert;
Location: My studio
Session durations:
Session 1: 70 minutes;
Session 2: 135 minutes;
Session 3: 170 minutes;
Session 4: 205 minutes
PI: Helplessness
Theme: Helplessness
Pain Before: 10/10 Pain After: 3/10
VAK: 8 3 3
CS: Client is a decent looking man in his late 30s. As a child, he stayed away from his parents ,with his maternal grandparents. He was a very obedient child. Years later, His first marriage dissolved. He felt cheated. He trusts people easily. The first divorce shattered him. He feels like he’s always on the receiving end. He feels like people fool me easily because he trusts easily. Why does this happen to me? (Client lines)I feel helpless all the time. He faced multiple losses. Feels like there is no one to support him.
Trigger:
ET:
HMs: First meeting with wife
We were going with friends
My 12th standard school days and eighth standard school days
My 10th birthday celebration
I’m always happy with my mom, at my mom‘s place( client lived in maternal grandmother’s house during his school days for 10 Years)
Flashes / KMF / CF:
PL1: T: go back to the time from where the root cause of helplessness started
C: It’s leading to someplace
T: Just follow that and see what happens
C: It’s some forest kind of thing
T: Just move forward and see, what are you aware of?
C: I’m barefoot
30 year old
T: As you walk past in the forest, what’s happening?
C: I can see some symbols in other languages
T: As you see symbols, what does the symbols mean to you?
C: It’s some Chinese language
1928
Martial arts
Swords
I’m Dressed in Chinese attire
T: As I count from 3 to 1 go to the dinner time of that lifetime
3…2…..1
C: my wife talking in Chinese
We are sitting on the table
T: look into the eyes of the wife. Does she resemble anyone from this lifetime?
C: my ex-wife
T: as you and your wife are sitting on the dinner table And you see your wife talking what happens next?
C: It’s some Harsh conversation
T: As I count from three to one go a few moments ahead and see what happens
C: I don’t eat and get off
She takes bowls
Threw it and cries
Takes umbrella and leaves
T: I understand that she cries and leaves, What happens after that?
C: She leaves with some person
I can’t see the face
T: As she leaves with the person, how does that make you feel?
C: I’m angry and sit down and cry
T: As I come from three to one going back to the most significant event of that lifetime
C: I’m taking a sword putting it On theback. I’m going on a horse.
I’m practicing the sword, martial art
It’s a competition
I’m kicking a person and winning the competition
T: as your wife left, and you are angry, is that where your helplessness started from?
C: yes
T: as I count from three to one going to the most significant event of the lifetime
C: (Glides into another lifetime)
PL2: C:My mother
(Tears in eyes)
I’m 10/15 Y/O
T: as you are 10 or 15 year old with mom ,what happens?
C: I’m happy
She’s scolding me
I’m naughty
T: look into the eyes of this person. does that resemble anyone from this lifetime?
C: My wife in this lifetime
T: how does being with mom feels like
C: Happy
T: As I count from three to one go to the final moments of that lifetime
C: She passes away due to illness(Tears)
I’m crying
T: I understand she is no more. She comes back to you in form of wife In this lifetime.
C:(nodding head)
(Crying stopped)
T: As I count from three to one go Back to the most significant event of that lifetime
PL3: C: I’m seeing archery……. Bow
15-18 years old
I’m seeing ram
T: is this the same lifetime?
C: no.
T: look into the eyes of ram. Does that resemble anyone in this lifetime?
C: yes. My elder son.
Teaching archery.
T: what are you wearing?
C: something like dhoti…
T: are you aware of the year or place?
C: 1300
Rameshwaram
I’m a leader of the group
Sena pathy
T: as I count from 3 to 1, going back to the most SE of that lifetime
C: we cross Sri Lanka through sea Route on the stones
We go for fighting With Ravan‘s army
We use bow and kill them
We see a huge devil/Ravan
He pounds on us With his legs and goes…
I fell inside the underground
Fell inside something…. Earth..
T: what is the common thing between all these lifetimes?
C: helping others
PD:
LBL:
CO:
T:What are you carrying over from all those lifetimes to this lifetime?
C: Learn martial arts, To recognizing and find people, Who they are, What they are, Judge them.
Be happy
Trust
Success
Res:
T: What is the Learning from those lifetimes to the current lifetime?
C: Hard work
Don’t trust easily
I can succeed, I can win, I can live happily with my family.
People will stab from behind and you should be alert always.
(Client said the pain level is 3)
T: what would it take to bring your pain level of helplessness to 0?
C: Praying to my family deity.
I’m seeing her( Family deity)
Saying -I will not leave your hand
Don’t worry
You will improve
You will develop(tears of happiness and gratitude flowing down the cheeks)
PHS:
Outcome:
1. Core wound: Betrayal - repeated in all 3 lives - wife leaving (PL1), mother dying (PL2), falling / being crushed in battle (PL3). This mirrors current life trigger - first divorce and feeling cheated.
2. Helplessness Origin: Client himself located it in PL1 - moment of wife leaving with another person where anger turned into helpless crying.
My observation:
Strength pattern: Despite helplessness, in each life he is shown as capable - martial arts winner (PL1), leader / Sena-pathy (PL3). This contradicts the helpless identity and can be used for ego strengthening.
Integration: Shift from “I trust easily and get fooled” to "I can judge people, I can succeed, I can be alert without being closed.