Wow, an illusion fed to us and which we never question feeding to our children…
One major takeaway for all of us
Let’s avoid “why” questions while in trance
it’s such a spectacular session 
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Dr. Venu Sir,
" मैंने ताक़त को ही अपना मूल्य बना लिया था…”
This line is so culturally reinforced, isn’t it? We praise endurance, we glorify toughness, we call over-functioning “strong characters.”
And yes, quietly we pass it on to our children without ever examining it.
This illusion is generational…
" strength is never wrong. but strength without care became self abandonment."
This is the crux.
I discovered she did not needed to be softer in personality. She needed permission to soften internally.
You’re right sir about not using " why?" while in trance.
My intention here was exploratory rather than analytical, but I agree that language matters. Even subtle framing shapes direction.
The “Why do you climb?” could have been better framed as
“What feels important about climbing?”
or
“What does climbing give you?”
I appreciate you pointing it out. It’s these refinements that will elevate our practice.
And honestly Sir, this is why mentorship matters …not to correct, but to sharpen gently.
The illusion of equating worth with struggle.
If this one belief dissolves in even a few of us, how differently we might raise our children.
Less proving.
More being.
Thank you even more for the precision.
Your lens always helps me become a little more aware of my own blind spots.
Grateful as always 
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Dr. Venu Sir,
Honestly, you enjoyed the session…. means a lot.
Sir, you are right, saying that KMF2C could have been explored here as there were threads still alive in that lifetime.
But, honestly when she was in that light-space with the grandfather presence, her nervous system had already experienced desert trauma, shame based healer lifetime…I mean repeated face exposure memories. She was vulnerable in that moment…and was already fatigued.
Her breath had slowed…the parasympathetic dominance was visibly strong and I sensed that integration had just begun (not stabilized yet.)
If I had pushed further for narrative clarity or unfinished emotional threads, I would have shifted from integration to cognitive excavation.
Here KMF2C exploration would have added clarity, but not necessarily regulation.
And in this particular client, regulation was the medicine.
Her entire life story is “push through.”
Even in therapy, her unconscious tendency was to go further.
So for once, I wanted her system to experience this.
And yes that lifetime had karmic, familial and masculine authority threads that could have been mapped beautifully, especially trust and betrayal themes, but what I noticed was that she wasn’t seeking narrative clarity, but was seeking relief.
If I had pursued mapping there, it may have satisfied intellectual coherence, but risked overstimulation. Her face had already started softening in-session…n this was my signal.
Through experience I believe when a client reaches deep parasympathetic surrender, sometimes the most powerful therapeutic move is restraint.
Not exploration.
Restraint.
Letting the nervous system seal before the mind dissects.
Especially with a high-performing client like her.
Also…..when the grandfather guide stepped back and the “Soul Council” energy appeared the quality shifted from emotional to existential.
And it became wisdom-based, not trauma-based.
This space was stabilizing.
I didn’t want to disturb that by re-entering trauma loops.
For her, the permission to rest was the karmic correction…not the historical details.
Yes, as a beginner, I would have gone further. I would have mapped every thread…chased every belief…closed every loop, but I believe sometimes integration is stronger when we leave one door gently closed. Because the subconscious continues working and in her case, it did.
And Post-session, she reported Deeper sleep, Reduced facial burning, Emotional lightness and Less urgency to prove
This tells that the depth was sufficient.
Venu sir, I truly appreciate your question
about the unexplored doorway.
And you’re right…it was there.
But in that moment, my clinical intuition leaned toward containment over expansion.
For this client, safety was the breakthrough.
Not information.
If you still feel I missed an opportunity, I’m genuinely open to your reflection.
Your lens always sharpens mine.
And thank you for enjoying the session narrative.
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Yes indeed it was a great session and some of the things you used during your session stayed with me and probably I didn’t use some of it too. 
I Will be posting my case soon.
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This is such a beautiful session, touching journey to read. Thankyou so much for sharing this..
The way the theme “from push to peace” unfolded across the sessions felt so natural and deeply connected. Especially that moment where she realised “I don’t have to push to be loved”, it felt like the whole healing started shifting from there.
I also loved how you worked with the body instead of trying to fix the symptom. The transitions from sensation → memory → understanding → compassion were so smooth and grounded. It never felt imposed, everything came from her own awareness, which made it even more powerful 
..
And honestly, the biggest takeaway for me was this, how often strength gets tied to pain and how beautifully this session helped her redefine strength as softness, rest and care. That’s such a deep shift.
It is a strong reminder that sometimes healing is not about doing more… but about finally allowing ourselves to stop..
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Hi Priyanka, you caught the essence so beautifully. 
and thank you for receiving the session with such sensitivity.
Yes… the moment
“I don’t have to push to be loved”
was truly the turning point. It was like something inside her finally exhaled after years. From there, everything else didn’t need effort..… it just began unfolding on its own.
Your takeaway is so profound… healing often begins not when we do more, but when we finally allow ourselves to stop.
Really grateful
you shared your thoughts so openly
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Hey Jasmeet 
So sweet of you to share this….. and honestly, this is how we all grow in this work. We pick up little nuances from each other, try some, leave some and slowly our own therapeutic voice becomes clearer.
I completely get the feeling of “oh I didn’t use this or that” 
But trust me, what matters most is the intention and presence you brought… techniques are just vehicles.
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I absolutely loved this clarification @kobrakulsh . I absolutely adored the nervous system work you got in here, and also your keen observation about the client’s state. The particular case study is a whole different ball game. I highly appreciate the tools you applied for a kinesthetic client so effortlessly. I read this post a couple of times to integrate the learnings.
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Dear Ramya
When someone like you reads something twice to integrate it… I know the work has actually landed, not just been read.
N this means a lot more to me than any appreciation.
Honestly, this particular case stretched me too. It was not one of those
“apply technique n get result”
kind of sessions…… it was more like listening between the silences, tracking the nervous system moment-to-moment and allowing the body to lead before the mind could even make sense of it.
With kinesthetic clients especially, I’ve realised that they don’t respond to words as much as they respond to felt safety. And somewhere in this session, I stopped “doing therapy” and just stayed with the client’s rhythm….. almost like co-regulating rather than guiding.
Your observation about the nervous system work is sharp but deep……
because this is where the real shift happened… not in the story, but in the state.
And this reflection coming from you, feels very grounding..… you have this ability to really see what is happening beneath the surface.
Thank you for receiving the work so deeply…
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: Ask them
were you wrong to be strong?
C : (immediate response)…They say no.
strength is never wrong.
but strength without care became self abandonment.
Hi Supritiji, Beautifully done session. You remained so calm and composed throughout the session. Client is really lucky to have you as her therapist. Thanks for sharing
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Hey Mrinali
Thank you so much
Honestly, I feel the real credit goes to the client’s readiness..… the moment she said “ strength is never wrong” there was such clarity in her energy. I just held that space… the shift was already waiting to happen within her …
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Hi Mam
What a case, extraordinary mam.
I have 2 queries mam, if you can guide please.
- when client came with skin issue, this may have already set a subconscious block.
This may be due to burning, may be fire ,sunburn etc.
Client may have set this in her mind.
When you gave assurance this is related to past life, mind immediately agreed and healing started
I had many situations like this and was searching for a answer. How we can avoid this block. Example phobia of heights - everyone will tell you may have died with a fall in last birth. Water phobia - you may have drowned in water.
Clients always were stuck in this loop where they saw they are falling or drowning. I doubted this
- how to handle when client is in extreme pain. I had a case where client was chopping his own son in last life. She was so traumatized that even I cannot define. I tried my best but felt there is more to learning.
Many thanks your are Star mam
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Hi Vikrant,
Thank you for your kind words….. and more importantly, for asking these questions with such honesty. This is exactly where real growth as a therapist begins… not in knowing, but in questioning what we think we know.
Let me share my understanding from experience…. not as a fixed method, but as something that has evolved over time with clients.
- On preconceived beliefs and “loops” in regression
Yes, the clients often come with pre-existing narratives, like…
“ burning = fire past life”
“water fear = drowning”
“height fear = fall”
If we are not careful, the mind can very quickly agree and start producing content that fits these expectations.
So the key shift I follow is that…
I never link the symptom to a story.
I only work with the sensation.
So, instead of directing
“Go to a past life where this started…”
I invite
“ इस sensation को follow करो…
पहली बार ये एहसास कब बना था ..…”
This keeps the process body-led, not idea-led. Because truthfully, not every drowning is a past life, not every fall is literal and not every image is memory.
Sometimes it is symbolic, sometimes emotional, sometimes purely nervous system storage.
Our role is not to confirm… our role is to stay curious without conclusion.
2. On handling extreme traumatic situation
This is a very important and delicate space.
When a client enters an intense scene (like the one you shared), the goal is not to go deeper into the घटना, but to protect the nervous system.
Some principles I try not to compromise on..
Bring distance immediately
“ थोडा ऊपर से देखो…जैसे movie चल रही है…”
Reinforce control
“आप कभी भी बाहर आ सकते हो..…”
Slow down the body, not the story…
breath, grounding, support.
And most importantly we are not here to process the event. We are here to process the response.
If the system is overwhelmed, then that moment is not for exploration… it is for regulation.
Sometimes, the most ethical intervention is simply like
“ इतना देखना काफ़ी है…”
I want to share something very personal here…
I developed a deep fear of heights after a real-life incident many years ago. We had a fall from a cliff… and I was stuck in that स्थिति for almost 11 hours before a helicopter sortie rescued us.
That imprint stayed.
Over the years, I have tried multiple ways to work through it..… and yes, it has softened…. but some remnants still exist.
And this taught me something very humbling that
Not all fears are “stories to be resolved.” Some are nervous system imprints that need gentleness, not forceful closure.
If I, despite all awareness and work, can still carry a residue.… then how can I expect my client’s system to “fully resolve” in one or two sessions?
This brings compassion… and realism… into the work.
Over time, one thing has become very clear to me is that we are not doing regression. We are creating safety.
And when safety is present, the system shows only what it is ready to process.
Nothing more is required.
You are asking the right questions, Vikrant. And honestly, this doubt will keep you grounded, ethical and deeply sensitive as a therapist.
Always feel free to share or discuss… we are all learning…. together.
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Many thanks Mam for spending so much time to answer this.
I think different masters come at different time to teach you, my time came and I found you.
@venu many thanks, happiness come when you start your journey. But real happiness come when you are guided to your true path.
Again, many thanks
Br,
Vikrant
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Hi Vikrant
Thank you…
But honestly, no “master” here……
we are all just walking each other home, at the right time, in the right way.
You are asking the right questions, this itself shows you are already on your path.
Keep going..… and keep sharing
Warmth always,
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Dear @kobrakulsh
Had an amazing time reading through the post. I could find an adept therapist who could apply the tools and techniques with the requisite blend of empathy bringing such a blessed relief to the client. Some of the learnings and highlights for me are as under :-
- recurring psychological themes across the sessions — performance-based worth, chronic overexertion, shame around vulnerability, and the inability to rest without guilt.
- the subconscious consistently organized the narrative around the same core emotional conflict: “I must suffer to deserve value.”
- emotional regulation, body perception, and self-worth can become deeply intertwined over time. - intricately processed during the session.
- repeated use of grounding, consent language, pacing, and reassurance of control during altered-state work. As our guru always says Reframe and not Rescript.
- healing appeared to begin not through fighting symptoms, but through changing the client’s relationship with herself, her body, and the meaning she attached to suffering.
Regardless of one’s beliefs about PLR, the therapeutic movement from self-abandonment toward self-care is a meaningful shift worth reflecting on.
Read through your reply to our beloved Guru’s comments as well. Thanks for sharing the perspective with which you had processed the session.. Awaiting his reply on the same to further enhance the learning.
Best regards
Monesh
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