Karmic Connection and Love Failures

[Jas18821 (Jasmit Kaur Attama Singh)]

Client Vitals

JG, M, 48, 9/10, 4/5, A (7) & V (6), Understanding relationship with K and love failures, 10/10, 3/10

1st session

9th Aug 2025 - Stage 1 to 8 - 1000 - 1300 - 2 hrs.

History taking

This client came seeking clarity and healing for recurring emotional struggles, especially in love and relationships. Over the years, he has experienced several deep connections that never fully blossomed due to outside interference, changing circumstances, or partners who hesitated to commit. These repeated experiences left him feeling emotionally drained, questioning why the same patterns keep repeating.

Emotionally, he feels a strong pull toward a current partner with whom he shares a deep bond, yet the relationship remains uncertain. He notices the same cycle returning — intense connection, external disruption, and emotional pain — and feels an inner urge not to “leave her alone again,” as though the connection spans beyond this lifetime.

He hopes the therapy will help him understand why these patterns repeat, whether they are karmic or past-life in nature, and how he can finally heal, find emotional closure, and move forward free from the same pain.

2nd session

12 Sept 2025 – Stage 8 to 13 – 1010 - 1345 - 3hrs 35min

We began with the Dave Elman induction, followed by progressive relaxation, ball of light, the staircase technique, the paradise of peace, and connection to 2 childhood memories. Client transition to past life. He is familiar with PLRT as he have done a few sessions before with another therapist about 2 years ago for a different issue. (Below are the details)

Past Life – The Village Couple

C: I see the pattern that I told you, before the session. I see from a guy side, like husband. Should have taken revenge for her leaving me.

T: Is this what you think has happened, or there is more to it.

C: I’m not sure, but I see like a husband. Like a guy. Should have taken revenge……shouldn’t have let her go

T: Let’s connect with this guy / husband……look at your feet. What kind of foot wear are you wearing?

C: He’s not wearing anything. Indian guy. Dark-skinned. Barefooted.

T: What kind of clothes?

C: Can’t see clearly.

T: It’s okay. It will come to your awareness.

C: I think like village type. Live in village. The look of the house, like a village house. So I’m sensing like that. I am dark-skinned and she’s so fair, beautiful. Like a Punjabi girl, thin, straight-brown colour hair. I cannot see the face clearly and I cannot connect with this life.

T: How old are you?

C: Married, should be in my 30s and she’s young, beautiful. Very pretty. Thin.

T: Share with me your surroundings. Where are you? Outside or inside?

C: In the house.

T: How does your house look like?

C: Cannot connect much. 60s, 50s?

T: It’s an old house?

C: Yes. Village keeps popping on my mind, village type house. It should be in India, because the Punjabi girl is wearing the dress (Suit).

T: Are you a Punjabi boy, as well?

C: I’m dark-skinned, not sure if I’m a Punjabi or what. But I’m dark-skinned. But she’s a Punjabi girl from a village. Thin, fair. Like white-skinned, so fair.

T: Who else is in this house?

C: Only both of us, I cannot see anybody else. (The image was frozen for you here but you still manage to share details, with the knowing)

T: Is this a small, house?

C: Ya, it’s a bit small.

T: Is it a daytime or night time?

C: Daytime.

T: What’s happening? What are you doing?

C: I’m just standing there but, her image is frozen I couldn’t see. Not talking anything. Something happened to us, and frustrated. But her image isn’t moving it’s like it’s frozen.

T: Just allow yourself to be in this vision, in this memory for a while. What stands out, what you need to know.

C: Let her go.

T: Let her go, due to what? What’s happening there?

C: I think she has found somebody else. I cannot see the person.

T: What emotion are you feeling?

C: Sad, feel like crying……let her go, let her be happy. She deserves better.

T: If you have to guess this person. Who would it be?

C: K…just a glimpse…and the facial reaction, seems same exactly. She feels guilty.

T: What is making her feel guilty?

C: Because she has feelings for somebody else. I found out.

T: How long do you think you’ve been married?

C: I don’t know, I can’t find out. Only that situation came up. I’m not sure if we’re married also, but I think we’re married because we’re in the house. Another thing which keeps coming up is that I’m very dark-skinned and she’s very fair. She’s glowing, I’m dark. Like dark in a dark room, very dark.

T: Connect with your dark-skin and that she’s pretty and you’re not, what emotion do you feel, with yourself not being good enough? What do you feel about that?

C: Let her go. She deserves better.

Proceed to significant event

C: She left me, alone in the house.

T: This is after how long?

C: Few years already. Just alone, nobody in the house.

T: How does that make you feel?

C: Dark. Very empty.

T: What part of this experience feels familiar now?

C: Back to being alone (you were feeling very emotional here)

T: Let’s understand, what is the importance of this vision, this memory, coming through? What we need to understand? What became of you? What happened to you after, K in that life, left you? What happened to you?

C: I cornered myself.

T: How old do you feel now?

C: Around 35 or 36?

T: What more comes to your awareness?

C: I’m living with her memories. Being alone. Still there in the house sitting down and thinking of her cannot see what happened after that.

T: What decision did you make in that moment? What did you say to yourself?

C: Leave it, she left, just leave it.

T: If it was that simple, you would have move on, but this is something which has stayed with you over lives. What does that mean?

C: I thought she’ll come back, at one point.

T: Did she come back to you in that lifetime?

C: I couldn’t see. Maybe it ended there. I cannot see past the age of 36 or 37. Maybe I died.

T: You died at a young age. How did you die? What happened?

C: Sad. Due to the sadness. Sitting down in one corner. House so empty. Crying.

(You were very emotional here, but also had slight smile which was coming from the beautiful memories you had with her. She was always on your mind up to the point of your passing)

Last Breath

T: What did you decide, or did you say anything to yourself, in that last breath, last thought?

C: Could have done better to keep her. I feel like maybe I’m not rich enough to keep her.

T: What is the thought, emotion or feelings you have before you take your last breath?

C: Waiting for her. Died alone.

Transition

T: How do you feel now, after leaving that body?

C: Stupid. Feels like why I waited for her. Blaming myself while looking at the body saying, ‘you’re so stupid, could have found another wife.

Purpose

T: Now I want you to connect with your higher-self, with your soul, and get the answers. What was the purpose of that life?

C: To feel the pain to be left

T: Was that the purpose of that life, for you to feel the pain of being left by someone?

C: Yes……to give so much love, they leave you and then to feel the pain.

T: How is this connected, to your current life theme?

C: They leave……they come and leave.

T: It seems like there is a recurring pattern. If your soul, showed you this today, what do you think it wants you to understand?

C: Don’t do the same mistake. Don’t do what the other guy did. Crying, living alone, and died in sickness. Go enjoy yourself and cherish, live your life. Let her go. It’s part of life. They comes and left. It doesn’t end there.

T: What is the reason this keeps on happening and repeating?

C: I can see where it’s going. Because after each break-up I felt I have enough, just leave with what I have, simple……just like what that men did in that life, he stayed alone waiting for her, same like how I waited for K and before that the married girl, hoping she will divorce and come back. Don’t change for others.

(Here client is referring to his current life relationships)

T: What does don’t change for others mean, what message are you getting?

C: It’s like I still feel in my mind saying what if she comes back? I really don’t want to do the same mistake I did.

T: Is there anything you are carrying from that life to this life or anything which you need to leave behind?
C: To be successful. In that life I “tinggalkan semua” (it’s in Malay meaning left everyone and everything) for her didn’t leave my life, I could have been successful. So, shouldn’t do the same thing here. Do better.

T: I want you to find the connection is there something which you are carrying from that last thought, the last moment, from that life, to this life?
C: What happened to my wife after I died? How was she……was she happy, did she make through? Only that questions are with me.

T: Would you want to go and check on that? What happened to her, after you left?

C: Yes

(At the count of 3 to 1 we continued to explore and get the answers)

C: She’s a bit fat now.

T: How old is she?

C: Not sure maybe 40 or 50, face got some wrinkles.

T: How is her life?

C: I can see a very big farm, must be North India. She must be in a good position. She’s at the rooftop. Oh and she covered her head with something (scarf). Its village with big farm, which means it must be a rich husband.

T: Is there anyone else?

C: No I can only see her. I cannot see her husband’s face but I sense he is fair a Punjabi guy.

T: If you have to guess, who do you think this Punjabi guy, is? Do you recognise, from this life?

C: This fella, I see he’s wearing specs. Cannot be……but seems like Jay Sheeran.( A guy in K’s life now)

T: You feel like its Jay Sheeran?

C: Yeah……feel like or maybe not true, but he is fair and a bit fat.

T: The worry which you had, what kind of life or what happened to her? How do you feel about it now?

C: She’s in a good position. Very rich husband.

T: How do you feel about that now? That she’s doing well for herself?

C: Happy. I guess he’s in a good position. Leave it. She’s good.

T: The worry, which you died with thinking don’t know what happened to her, how do you feel about that now?

C: Ya. All okay.

T: Let me know once you are ready to proceed from here?

C: Yes.

T: Now you know that she’s okay, and you’re happy. Are you ready to release whatever is not wanted, back into that life? Like the worry, any fear or anything which you feel is holding you back. You don’t have to carry that with you any longer. Or there’s something else you want to work on?

C: She had any kids or not…just curious but she didn’t have any children with her.

T: Allow for it to come to your awareness if she had kids or not?

C: Simple husband, she is in good position………Not sure if she ever thought about me.

T: Does that make a difference, if she thought about you or not?

C: But it will give a relief for me, at least she thought about me……She’s crying.

T: What happened, why is she crying?

C: Maybe she shouldn’t have left me. What that guy is doing, how is he. We are staying very far. I am in Tamil Nadu, she’s in North, and we’re not communicating. She don’t know what’s happening with me. Ya, tears coming out of her eyes. Maybe the guilt of leaving me.

T: How does that make you feel that she is feeling guilty?

C: Happy, at least she thought of me.

T: Be here a little longer. Once you’re ready, let me know we’ll proceed from here.

C: I couldn’t let her go. Still seeing her……from far I am still seeing her.

T: This is when you’re seeing her and she’s doing okay in her life?

C: Yeah….she is okay and old already.

T: But you feel the connection, the bond is still very strong?

C: Yeah……I still feel the love towards her……I had to let her go……let her go

(You repeated softly few times “I have to let her go” and you were very emotional here)

T: It sounds like such a struggle for you to let her go. This probably explains the attraction you have towards K.

C: I think that’s why the feeling and love was so deep……because of that. But now I know. Because I always tell her don’t know why the feeling is so deep.

T: What would you like to do differently now, after, getting this message, this knowing?

C: Just let her go, live your life. Enjoy yourself. Maybe there’ll be somebody else coming or maybe no. Go on and enjoy your life, don’t be in that dark spot again.

T: Do you feel that you are leaving in dark spot right now?

C: Not a dark spot but just……feel like don’t want to show love to anybody else already. Be cold. Be devil a bit. Be bad a bit. No point being good anymore. Live for yourself, don’t think about others. No need to be kind to others already, just live for yourself.

(I was little worried when client said all this but I didn’t want to suggest or say anything, wanted it to come from himself, so continued to connect with spiritual realm or higher self. True enough client did receive a completely opposite message from his inner and higher self)

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T: Now let’s connect to a spiritual, divine, soul…….let’s explore on what message you can get from there.

C: I think I’m sitting down on a village type of bed. (Tikar)

T: Who’s image?

C: Hers, she’s about 50s. It’s like I’m dead but still there holding her hand, don’t want to let her go. Maybe after my death I went and looked for her or what, I’m not sure. I’m still holding her, but she can’t see me. She’s old already….still don’t want to let her go.

T: Now float, above that scene. What is the message you get from your higher or wiser self?

C: Let go let go let go. I keep on getting messages like that. Just let it go. If she comes back, accept her, go leave your life. Don’t just sit in one corner, and wait for her. If she goes off, she’ll come back.

T: What feels different, about the issue, or the theme you came in with?

C: It’s just the opposite. I’m the victim. I didn’t cheat by husband I’m the husband being cheated. But thought the message would be the pain but, think the message will be like don’t go and sit one corner, think about love, don’t waste your life. That’s what I’m still doing up to now. Before and with K.

T: Just to understand you are getting a message don’t torture yourself for another person, live your life. Am I right to say that?

C: Yeah…but I feel like I need to do something, before I continue. Just need to explain to K and move on. I feel like I need to build my career and I can do more. You can do more, why want to go simple. Go do more. You’re capable of doing more things. Don’t waste your life. Get ready. We’ll see, how far I can go.

T: What is the reason K is doing this to you? What’s the root cause of this?

C: Before she came in to my life last year, I thought I had enough. I’m ready to go. Before I saw her, at Cameron’s (a hill station in Malaysia). I told God, you can take my life. I’m not going to die, suicide or what. I feel like I’ve fulfilled my life. Actually no…that’s why she came back. The thing is repeating. I was just going through life, don’t need to push yourself for career or anything. Just like what the men did, sit in a corner right? But I hold myself here to do nothing. Then she came and the things started repeating.

(Here client was silent for a while, talking to himself and below is what he continued with)

Message is different, I thought something else. I don’t need to be a bad person to the point that nobody loves you again. Just be yourself……push yourself up. Do what you can do……don’t do bad. That’s the thing here. “Jangan keraskan hati awak lah.” (It’s in Malay he is saying “don’t harden or close your heart”)

T: Its opposite of what you said earlier.

C: Yeah……“Jangan keraskan hati awak.” See others like what you use to see before, their kindness, see the pain in them. I thought being kind to others was holding me from building a career, meaning to go up. But it’s actually not that. It’s myself. Myself of thinking enough. They all left. So, enough. Maybe because of, being too kind. So I thought being hard, can push myself up.

(Here I decided to try mild future progression to help client get a clearer picture in regards to his future and how will he progress with and without K)

5 to 10 years with K

C: I am talking, laughing…….I built my career, and I’m rich a bit. I cannot see beyond that.

T: How do you feel seeing yourself talking and laughing?

C: Happy. No heaviness. Feel light. I think we’re friends.

T: You feel you’re just friends?

C: Ya.

T: How do you feel by just being friends?

C: That’s what’s supposed to happen.

T: Are you’re ready to accept what needs to come next, now?

C: Yes.

5 to 10 years without K

C: She still follow me, I cannot go alone. I can see that I’m rich, well to do. I am still holding her hand and she’s still following me. Can’t see more than that.

T: What is your relationship with her?

C: We’re just holding hands. She’s happy. I’m not sure if we’re married or what. I’m holding her hand. I’m having a big house. I cannot go beyond that. But I’m happy.

T: What does both this vision, means? In both, we’re seeing K.

C: She cares for me. She’s happy, I’m happy. I built my career, instead of sitting in one corner there. Sitting down and waiting for my Punjabi girl to come. I moved from there. In the past life it was so dark, black. Here feels bright. Light, so bright. The future.

(Told you to hold on to the bright light and all the positive vision, messages which you receive, carry it all into your life)

T: Scan your body and share with me if there is any unwanted energy, emotion you are still holding at any area of your body.

C: Nothing……I think, my heart feels light.

T: Connect with that chest pain you had earlier, how does it feel, now?

C: Feels light.

T: You had a black colour feeling there……what colour is it, now?

C: Like there’s no colour already.

T: There’s no colour. Okay, that’s wonderful.

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3rd session

13 Sept 2025 – Stage 8 to 15 – 1000 - 1230 - 2hrs 30min

We began with the Dave Elman induction, followed by progressive relaxation, ball of light, the staircase technique, the paradise of peace, no childhood memory straight to past life.

Past Life – The Burnt-Faced Man

In this regression, the client saw a man whose right side of the face was burnt. The man appeared to be around 25 to 30 years old and gave a sense of being European. The client described seeing a white lady and a car, with the man sitting in the driver’s seat. The scene felt emotionally heavy and still. At first, the client wasn’t sure of their own identity, but soon realised being the white lady in the vision comforting the man, adjusting his hair, and reassuring him, saying, “It’s okay, I’m here.” The client described feeling love and empathy, sensing that the man was suffering and she wanted to ease his pain.

When asked about the man’s identity, the client recognised familiar gestures the way the lady adjusted his hair and connected the man’s energy to K, the current-life person with whom the client shares a deep emotional bond. The man’s face had been burnt in a house fire when he was about 12 or 13, leaving visible scars on the right side of his face and arm.

The message that emerged from this scene was one of compassion and painful attachment the client wanted to comfort him and take away his sadness but couldn’t. The final awareness was a deep emotional line spoken from that life: “Can’t do this anymore, you have to let me go.” This reflected a karmic lesson around loving, releasing, and accepting what cannot be changed.

Past Life – Letting Go in Love

As the scene continued, the client saw himself, as the woman, trying to convince the man to stay, but he refused. The relationship was ending, and he didn’t want to continue. The client described remaining calm, not showing emotion, and softly singing while holding back tears.

When asked what this reminded him of in the present, the client immediately related it to his current-life breakup the moment his partner, K, decided to leave. He felt the same ache of helplessness and the same effort to appear strong while hurting inside. The client also connected this vision to a previous regression he had done years earlier with another therapist, where he saw himself burnt alive in a past life. That earlier vision had related to his skin condition (eczema) in the present life, where he suffered painful scars and discomfort. This made him deeply empathize with the burnt man K’s past-life self-understanding the shame, pain, and emotional isolation that came with physical scars.

Through this connection, the client realized that the man in this past life had ended the relationship not because of lack of love, but because he believed she deserved someone better. He felt unworthy due to his disfigurement and couldn’t bear being loved out of pity. The client felt anger and disappointment at being left, noting that the final image in the car symbolized their last moment together both sad and incomplete. Reflecting on this, he understood that in his current life, K’s decision to pull away carried the same emotional pattern deep love mixed with pain, fear of inadequacy, and letting go out of perceived unworthiness. The deeper message from this life was that both souls were learning the same lesson to love without guilt, to release with understanding, and to recognize that separation doesn’t mean the end of love, but the completion of a karmic cycle.

Significant event - The Waiting lover.

As the regression continued, the client remained in the same lifetime as the white lady. He saw himself older, slightly heavier, and living a modest life as a single mother raising her son, who was around eight or nine years old. He described preparing breakfast for the boy and feeling deep love and devotion the son was her world. She sensed that the child was the son of the man with the burnt face, though the father was no longer in her life. The client described her life as simple not rich, not poor but filled with love for her child. Yet, beneath that contentment was a quiet sadness. She spent her days waiting, hoping that the man she once loved would return. She often looked out the window or toward the door, expecting him to come back, but he never did. From a higher perspective, the client understood that the purpose of that life was to experience love, independence, and the pain of waiting — and to learn that true peace comes from letting go. The message she received from that lifetime was clear: “Don’t wait. Move on. Be happy with what you have.”

Lesson of Moving On

The session then shifted to his current life, exploring how this pattern of waiting and emotional restraint continued. The client realised that he has developed a fear of loving again, rooted in repeated heartbreaks and loss. He admitted that each love failure had made him more guarded, believing that “if you stop falling in love, the pain won’t come.” When asked to connect to the root of this belief, he traced it to his relationship with Malar, a significant love from his current life who left him to pursue spirituality. That experience caused deep emotional pain and even suicidal thoughts, leaving a lasting mark on his heart. From that point on, he formed a belief that “no matter how much love you give, they will eventually leave.”

The client acknowledged still feeling confused — torn between wanting to love again and fearing the same pain will repeat. This moment revealed his current inner conflict and the ongoing karmic pattern of love, loss, and emotional withdrawal, showing that the soul’s lesson remains centred on trust, self-worth, and learning to love without fear or expectation.

(Before we proceed further told client……you don’t have to have all the answers today. You’re looking from a deeper and different perspective….allow what needs to come through even after the session, we wanted proceed to another significant event but client went to a different past life)

Past Life – Connection between Mother and Father’s Souls

In this regression, you saw yourself as a young man, around 16 or 17 years old, sitting alone by a riverside in what looked like a European village. You were dressed in clothes made from animal skin, with long tied hair and a leather cap. You felt sadness after having a misunderstanding with your mother. A small boy called out, saying, “Mum is calling, come back,” but you chose to stay near the river, not returning to the village.

As night fell, you wandered into the jungle, unaware of the danger around you. You saw a wolf and realised you were attacked. Your last thought before dying was that your mother was waiting for you, you wanted to go back but couldn’t. From the higher perspective after death, you felt worried that your mother would be sad and think you had run away.

When guided to connect with your mother’s soul, you recognised that she is your father in your current life. This brought deep understanding, in that lifetime, your mother loved you deeply and never stopped waiting for you. The pain she carried then was mirrored by the distance you felt with your father in this life. You realised you had unconsciously carried guilt and sadness, believing your father didn’t love you, when in truth, it was the same soul expressing love in a different form.

In this session, you connected with your father’s soul, expressed the words you couldn’t say before “I’m sorry” and he smiled without words. This moment brought emotional relief, forgiveness, and closure. The key message you received was that love never ended; it only changed forms, and both of you have been learning to express love across lifetimes.

Deeper understanding

T: How is the past life or lives, which you’ve experienced, connected to the issue of today? The issue of love failure. What’s the connection?

C: Forgiveness.

T: Forgiveness to whom?

C: The boyfriend left, just forgive him. It’s not his fault. He doesn’t know we have a child.

T: Are you carrying anything, from that life, into this life?

C: Sadness.

T: Does this help you to understand, this constant attachment you have for K? Is it clearer for you now, to understand that if you’re carrying something forward?

C: Let her go. Forgive K and move on. Just let her go. If she wants to come back, she’ll come back. Let her go, and forgive her. It’s not her fault.

T: I want you to hold on to this word of forgiving her and letting her go. It is one thing which we can carry forward from this session. These are two, strong, words and emotion. You forgive her. And you’re ready, to let her go. And if she’s meant to be a part of your life, she will. Otherwise, she’s free to go.

Love Being

T: Remember early you connected to a divine soul in human shape, let’s bring that to your awareness again. Take your time and let me know once you manage to connect back with that energy?

C: Yes its back.

T: Do they have, any message for you, about your current relationships, or your current life?

C: Be happy in whatever you’re doing. Happy with what you have. Live your life.

T: You’ve already forgive your boyfriend in past life and even K in this life. What do they want you to understand further, or what comes to your understanding?

C: People come and go.

T: What does that mean?

C: Don’t be sad about it, just, live your life and be happy.

T: Have you been holding on to people, in this life or in your past lives? Have you not let them go?

C: Yeah….my boyfriend who left and K.

T: If there is one thing you can carry forward with you today, what would it be?

C: Self-belief. I need to believe I can do it and I will to it.

T: This is a wonderful message on strong self-belief. I want you to enhance on this, continue on this. Can you give a self-reminder, that you have this strength of self-belief, when you want to do things, you can do it? You replied yes. (Allowed a moment of silent)

As per client request we ended the session here as he was feeling tired.

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Integration

• You have begun to understand that your deep emotional bonds and recurring feelings of being left or replaced are rooted in earlier lifetimes where you experienced abandonment, loss, and waiting for love to return.
• You have realised that forgiveness, for yourself and others, is a key step in releasing karmic patterns and moving forward freely.
• You are integrating the message that you can still be kind and compassionate without being taken for granted, and that strength and softness can coexist within you.

Closure

• You have found clarity that the connection with K and other past relationships carried karmic echoes of unresolved lessons, which you have now acknowledged and released.
• You have let go of guilt, regret, and the tendency to wait or hold on, choosing instead to live your life fully and without fear of abandonment.
• You have replaced the dark, heavy energy in your chest with lightness, peace, and understanding.
• You have found emotional closure by realising that those who left did so for their own paths, not because you were unworthy.
• You are now ready to move forward, knowing that your happiness and growth are not dependent on others but come from within you.

Report and Recommendation

• Report emailed.
• Continue to remind yourself that letting go is not weakness, it is honouring your soul’s growth and freeing space for new experiences.
• Journal or reflect regularly on moments where you choose self-respect over emotional dependence, this will strengthen your new patterns.
• If future emotional triggers arise, revisit your higher-self message: “Be happy with what you have, live your life.”
• Stay open to love, but from a place of freedom and wholeness, not waiting or expecting, but allowing.

[shilpak (Shilpa Kawadkar)]

Nice work a treat to read