Conducted on 20/8/24
Place- : my study room
Name :- Prerna ( name changed)
Age:- 50yrs, female, VAK :- 7/5/6,
Eye roll:-2/4, F:- 8/10
As she is my existing client for anxiety n depression…she doesn’t need my intro.
Non Verbals:-
Face becomes red coz of guilt with wetness in her eyes due to strained relationship with her son. I can also see a spark in her eyes today…may be she get answers to her problems in current life.
1) High Anxiety…seek to find the cause of difficult relationship with her son.
2) Fear of Abandonment and always seeking affection
THEME:-
Major depressive disorder and Fear of Abandonment.
T- Therapist
C-Client
History:-
.Being a single parent (divorced ), Prerna ( name changed), a 50yr old, seasoned person with a successful buisness in Pharma, lives with her 24 yr old son. She has been my client past 2 months for difficulty in breathing and most difficult relationship with her son. Most happy and willing to get the PLR session done to understand the strained and most difficult relationship with her son.
Having brought up by loving parents and most loving elder sister, Prerna had a happy childhood.
Reason for divorce -
Infidelity and lack of intimacy in the relationship that led to a deep sense of Abandonment.
Two years later Prerna again entered in a relationship seeking affection, though it wasn’t love and feelings of cheating and abandonment again became very strong. Son was witness to all… She felt very lonely.
Currently, her life revolves around her Son. She wants him to take up some responsibilities in her buisness, which she fails to do as her Son is not ready. He is in unethical practices and she believes is in bad company too…
Irrespective of all she adores her son and gets depressive thoughts of not being a good mother…She believes she’s been a nagging mother throughout
When high in anxiety she becomes extremely angry or stressed resulting in breathlessness…
Fear:- Fear of Abandonment by her son…also, afraid of anything happening to her…and becomes highly self-critical.
Session -1
Dave Elman – Deep relaxation - ball of light- Staircase- Garden – Cliff, Black box and white box
A happy childhood memory….
T- your brilliant mind is taking you straight back to the street where you lived or a place where you lived before the age of 10yrs…your childhood here…
What do you see around you?..
C- am walking on the street…
T- how old are you ?..
C- 12
T- where are you going?..
C- going home…reached the entrance door of my house…opening the door…I am inside the house…
T- what do you see ?..
C- very neat and clean, beautiful living room… beautifully decorated… I can hear my mum calling me…‘pinky’…she is asking me to join for dinner… ‘तेरा favourate मटर पुलाओ बनाया है आज। बूंदी रायता भी है’…
(I see a smile on the clients face)…
C- I see my elder sister…
T- look around…what else can you see?..
C- my dad, already on the table waiting for all of us to join …
T- How is your father???
C- a bit strict and loving …nobody speaks much in front of him…he is looking at me…I am fearful…
T- why??..why are you feeling so?
C- coz I am late…playing…got late…
(Rapid eye movement and stressed forehead)
T- what else you see or hear?
C- my sister calling me…we both having the food together… I love her very much…dad hugging both of us (smiles)…
T- how do you feel…
C- loved…n happy…
(I take her to another moment in her life)
T- what do you see??..
(Long pause).
T- if you wish you may choose to be in moment of bliss for some time…
C- yes…
After the pause I took her to the next significant moment of her life
T- what are you aware of?
C- h…me and my didi having icecream और मुझे मजा आ रहा है…
T - क्या उम्र है आपकी…
C - लगभग चार साल…
T - What are the thoughts, feelings and emotions you are going through now?..
C - we are together and I love her company…m njoying eating icecream sitting on my sister’s back …we are in a zoo…
I see excitement and smile on the clients face …
(T- spend some time here in the zoo…when you may wish to move back in time raise your right finger )…
(The client was weeping like a child…)
( Prerna was very close to her didi… but they grew apart as they aged and due to their professions in different cities…marriage happened and…
( Client is crying )
C- Feeling the pain of seperation…didi did not want me to marry my ex., but I did not listen…we had a court marriage…mom dad are not happy…they don’t like my ex. …
I am sad ( weeping profusely)…am repenting later…
T - why do you get these emotions?..
C- he cheated on me…( burst crying )…
( Me feeling blessed to wipe her tears…I can feel her pain )
T- it’s ok to to feel the pain…if you may wish you can come back to the garden and relax for some time…
C- hmmm…
( After some time )
( Asked her to Breathe deeply and relax for some time …if she may choose to come back she can raise the finger)
I helped the client to come back from trance…
After the Session: -
C- I am an extremely emotional person… It has been long… I cried…no one is left to share me with my feelings …May be everything went bad to worse after my marriage …nobody loved me after…i was all alone… ( Crying is therapeutic for some reason now)…
Session – 2
Dave Elman – Staircase – Garden – Progressive Relaxation – Doorway – White Tunnel – Doorway Mountains – River – Pebbles. Through Mirrors of time
( Helped the client walk towards the door and pass through it.)
T- Are you able to feel or see the door
C- Yes
T- What is the size of the door
C- big…a wooden door… has big windows.
T- you may open the door and let yourself in…ok…what do you see here??..
C- nothing…
T- ok…let us go further back in time…
What do you see and feel here ?
C-extremly beautiful place…with golden sky,… Butiful flowers…all green and vibrant… I am sitting in bliss…I see a very bright light…holding me and taking me along…feeling so much love…
T- you may choose to be with the light to feel loved…
T- where do you see yourself now ??
C- a landscaped butiful place…big mansion kind of place…it’s me sitting on that chair…m wearing a white dress…it’s a very huge house…I am very beautiful…middle aged…
I am from an affluent family…have many lands and possessions…m rich…
T- what is this place?
C- uhh…hmm… Sca…Scania…
T- can you tell which year?
C- may be 1893
T- What is your name?
C- Alicia…
T- What age it could be
C- may be about 40
T- look around if there are any one with you?
C- I have a mother…my son Johan…
I can’t see anyone else…
T- what else do you see ?
C- I am very rich with big cars parked …my mother is very old…I see some helpers and security people…
T- how old is your son…
C- about 22-24
T- what does he do?
C- nothing…does not help me…
he is in all wrong practices…unethical…under substace influence…his friends are not good…he is arguing very loudly…
T- hmm…
C- I manage everything buisness and the properties all alone…
I find difficult to Manage since my husband left…
T- ok…
C- I love Johan very much…he is the reason for my living…my life move around him…
I want him to help me , but he is not…I am struggling…
T- where is your husband?
C- he is not there…donno…may be he died a few years back…about 8-10yrs back…
T- ok…with the count of 3…2…1 let us go into another significant moment of your life…
What is there you see?
C- m getting married…it’s in the church…we are happy…
T- who are there with you in the marriage??
C - Everyone…all are very happy…me too…Jake and I love each other very much…
T- who is Jake?
C- my husband…(Smiles )
I donno why I have become very arrogant…m very dominant…speaking loudly with Jake…
T- look into the eyes of Jake to see if he resembles anyone in the current life…
C- oh…he is my ex.
T- ok…any other significant moment you feel or is able to see??
C- fight …Jake and me are fighting…Johan is standing in one corner…( The client speaking something which I am unable to translate….)…Jake is very angry…he sits in the car and sped…( Sobbing profusely)…car hits the…car crashed…Jake died…(Client is crying profusely)…
( I let the client vent her emotions and allowed her to cry…wiped her tears softly )
Pause
T- how are you feeling now?
C- very sad and guilt…he died because I did not treat him well…I fight with him always…
Tears drool down her cheeks which I was wiping and could feel her pain same time
T- who can you related your son in this life…look into the eyes of your son Johan…cay you related him in your current life??
C- yes…he is my son now too…
T- and your mother ?
C- she is my sister in this life…(Smiles)
She loved me very much… always giving…I lover her too…
T- you may be in this moment and choose to go in another significant moment …
C- my son is very furious…arguing very loudly, angrily…asking for money…I don’t want to say no him, but he is in bad company…I stop him…
He pushed me hard…I have fallen from the stairs…he is looking angrily and helping me…m in pain…
( Client’s face is very stressed…rapid eye movement )
T- ( I put my hand on her forehead…trying to calm her…)
Be there… experience it… remember this happened in your previous life …wether imagination…fantasy or actual memory…this is all coming from your mind…its all important…let yourself experience it…stay in that deep state and re experience it…you may always float above to witness it…no harm will come to you…if you feel uncomfortable you may choose to come back to the garden of peace…
Long pause…
C- I am scared…m hurt in my head…
T- take a deep breath…and exhale all your pain…
C- m in the hospital…m dead…
T- float above and see who all are there near you ?
C- my mum…my son is not there…doctors are trying to call him…he is not responding…
I am being taken by a white light…I feel so light…
T- What was the last conscious thought before your spirit left your body ?
C- don’t fight with me …do not abandon me…
T- how do you feel now ?
C- depressive…
( Shallow Breathing)
T- how does this life related to your current life?
Is there any connection between these two lives ?
C- we all are in the same relation again…
T- ok…how are you feeling now?
C- sad and heavy…
T- if you feel so you may choose to come back
C- yes…
T- ok with the count from 3-2-1 you may come back in the garden of peace…take your time to relax …and may open your eyes when you feel good n relaxed…
Closure -
T- Are you satisfied with the session?
C- Yes…
T- Did you find the answers to your questions?
C- donno…but I feel parallel to this in the current life too strongly …(Same thing…same relation…same pain…same emotion…real…lot of arguments and disagreements…wanting my son to take up the responsibilities…)
T- yea …it seems a parallel matrix…can’t be sure …can we have more sessions to find out if it is the case of parallel matrix…same situation in two lives…if it is same in some more then yes it can be…may be the souls urge to liberate…but helpless.
As her therapist I strongly recomend her ,which she willingly agreed to go ahead with a few more sessions with me…
Need to find if the souls are in loop and want liberation or may be we find out the cause of 'feeling of abandonment ’ resulting in depression and high anxiety…
(**Booked next session with her **
on 27th afternoon)
My take as a therapist from here is that love is eternal among souls…the key is to learn to love without attachment…
ART OF ATTACHMENT THROUGH DETACHMENT
" **Too much love of a parent for children… आगे kya होगा पता नही
Prerna was quiet , more calm and left with a smile feeling very deep …
Called up the next day to share that she dropped off to sleep very deep without her regular sleeping pills after many years…she says she feels much lighter and will be less nagging with her son now and give more space …
She strongly feel the need to take more sessions…
