Warming Up Matters
Before rushing into regression, it’s essential to allow the client to speak about different areas of life relationships with partner, parents, children, colleagues, work environment, etc.
This “warm-up” is not small talk. It’s the stage where subconscious themes begin to surface indirectly. Very often, clients make revealing statements such as:
- “My mom was just like my husband, she too did the same thing.”
- “My boss never appreciates me no matter what.”
- “I fear I might lose my child.”
Each of these carries a charge and gives us a glimpse of a deeper issue.
The key skill here is to focus less on the story and more on the underlying belief or emotion.
Case Example
A client once came to me and said: “I have fear of driving, let’s work on that.”
It was very tempting to jump straight into regression, but instead I slowed down and explored further: (Thanks to the 15-step process, I had committed to take history to my teacher)
- Me: Did you try to drive?
- Client: Yes, but I feel there will be an accident.
- Me: Did an accident ever happen?
- Client: No.
- Me: What might happen if an accident happens?
Now, even though the answer seems obvious, the point here is not to give my interpretation, but to let the client express it. The client is the authority, not us.
From there, I gently asked:
- What if you never learn to drive?
- What would be the worst part of that?
That’s when the real wound emerged:
“Then I will be forever dependent. I will always be in someone’s shadow.” (tears in eyes)
This opened a doorway. As we explored further, the client shared about family, workspace, in-laws, and eventually, we uncovered that she had a twin sibling who was authoritative and sharp. Growing up, she felt unseen and overshadowed.
The core belief that emerged was:
“I am always overshadowed by someone.”
Now, instead of just “fear of driving,” we had two strong subconscious patterns:
- If I drive, there will be an accident.
- I am always overshadowed by someone.
When I asked her which one she wanted to work on, she chose the second. Interestingly, as the session unfolded, clarity came for both. That’s the beauty when you stir the mind really well.
Summary of part 1 and part 2
Step 1. Deep Listening
- Hear the client fully.
- Note down repeating words, emotionally charged statements, and metaphors.
Step 2. Explore the Edges
- Ask: What if the desired outcome never happens?
- Ask: What might happen if the problem is not resolved?
- Ask: What would be the worst part of this?
Step 3. Identify the Core Belief/Theme
- Look for the emotion behind the story.
- Listen for early-life imprints that repeat in different contexts.
Step 4. Co-Create the Choice
- Offer the themes back to the client and let them choose.
- Remember: the subconscious heals best when the client feels they are in charge.
Closing Note
Finalising the theme is not a mechanical step, but an art of attunement. When done well, the client feels deeply heard, the therapist has clarity, and the regression flows with more depth and direction.
In my experience, stirring the mind well in the first session often brings unexpected clarity — sometimes even more than the regression itself.
reason/concern behind a fear and trying to acknowledge that through gentle and careful digging. Revealing pattern and pin pointing the issue. So beautiful 
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