Radical Forgiveness

[sarandha (Dr D L Sarandha)]

Discussion about books related to PLRT

I count the book” Radical forgiveness” authored by Colin Tipping amongst one of my personal favorites. This book transformed my mindset and up until now, the learnings from this book bear a strong influence on how I deal with people and situations in my life.

I was in love with this book when I read through the first few pages, where the author states 19 underlying spiritual assumptions that form the foundation to the content of this book. Since I had just read “Journey of souls” and “Destiny of souls” prior to this, I instantly connected to the spiritual assumptions he had mentioned. He prefers to use the word “Assumptions” rather than “Belief” or even “Principal” because simply classifying an idea as assumption allows for possibility of a greater truth emerging in the future. Although I resonate with all the mentioned assumptions, I would quote some significant ones below

1.We have bodies that die, but we have immortal souls that existed prior to our incarnation and continue to exist after death. Therefore, death is an illusion.

2.We are spiritual beings having a spiritual experience in human bodies.

3.Vibrationally we live in two worlds simultaneously:

• The world of divine truth(spirit)

• The world of humanity

Once we awaken, we can live comfortably in both

4.The world of humanity is a spiritual classroom, and life is a curriculum. Our lessons are the events that happen in life. The objective is to awaken to the truth of who we are and return home
5.When we decided to reincarnate into the world of humanity, God gave us total free will to live the experiment in any way we choose and to find ourselves the way back home.

6.Life is not random. It provides for the purposeful
unfoldment of our own divine plan, with opportunities to make choices and
decisions in every moment guided by our higher self and ego

7.Part of the agreement was that we would forget the world of oneness we came from in order to fully experience the pain of separation. When we have experienced the amount of pain we agreed to have in this lifetime, we use Radical forgiveness to awaken and remember who we are.

Basically, Radical forgiveness works on the premise of shifting our thought process from that of victim hood to learning. It is about Consciously analyzing a situation from the perspective of “what did this person/situation teach me” or “how has this situation /person contributed to me evolving to be a better version of myself”. A touch of gratitude to the situation/person will further enhance the effect of radical forgiveness since gratitude is a magical attitude. What it means is that, the person we think ,could be causing us harm may actually be a part of our soul contract. wherein a certain experience for our soul to evolve, maybe coming from that very person and hence when we have a attitude of gratitude towards that person, there is no scope for animosity against the person .

The author provides a differentiation between “Traditional forgiveness” and radical forgiveness

Traditional forgiveness	Radical forgiveness
Rooted in the human reality of the physical world	Rooted in the metaphysical reality of the world of spirit
Willingness to forgive with residual need to condemn	Willingness to forgive without the need to condemn
Victim consciousness	Victim consciousness is dropped
Judges’ human imperfection	Accepts human imperfection
Something wrong happened	Nothing wrong happened
Lower vibration	Higher vibration

The author mentions that traditional forgiveness should not be viewed as inferior to radical forgiveness but simply different

Tools for radical forgiveness

1.Telling the story:

Having our story heard from the view of being a victim

2.Feeling the feelings:

Allow ourselves to feel the authentic pain

3.Collapsing the story:

Give-up victimhood and have high level of compassion for the person we are forgiving. This is followed by releasing our attachment to the story

4.Reframe the story:

Rather than see the situation as a tragedy, be willing to see that, it was in fact exactly what we wanted to experience and was absolutely essential for our growth.

5.Integration:

After we have allowed ourselves to be willing to see the perfection in the situation and turned our stories into one of gratitude, it is necessary to integrate it into the cellular level.

“To Forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner is you”

Lewis B Smedes

[Dr_Aayush_Saran]

Just now I have started reading this book Ma’am. Thank you for the suggestion.

Forgiveness, like Unconditional Love is breaking the cycle… breaking the loop… But certain Karmic bonds just doesn’t allow the “endogenic forgiveness” so very easily …

Maybe one day, I will reach you for my regression Ma’am . Regards

[sarandha (Dr D L Sarandha)]

Dear Ayush,you have indeed made the right choice in choosing to read this book…trust me,it will impact your mindset

@Dr_Aayush_Saran

Forgiveness, like Unconditional Love is breaking the cycle… breaking the loop

This is a profound thought Ayush

@Dr_Aayush_Saran

doesn’t allow the “endogenic forgiveness” so very easily …

Difficult but not impossible Dear Ayush…A read through this book with understanding and a little effort in application,makes it easy.

@Dr_Aayush_Saran

Maybe one day, I will reach you for my regression Ma’am .

@Dr_Aayush_Saran humbled…it will be my priveldge.Thank you Ayush

[hc2101 (Harmeet Kaur)]

@sarandha

Difficult but not impossible Dear Ayush…A read through this book with understanding and a little effort in application,makes it easy.

I can totally relate to it. Before getting in to PLRT I had not even considered it. Now new me tried it on 2 people and slowly with few meditation sessions I’m able to forgive em 75-80%!! This is an ongoing process and there are some triggers but it’s getting better. Things don’t happen overnight or magically and it does take efforts and awareness. So keep going! Any step towards the destination counts. Starting is everything!!

[Monesh_Bathre (Monesh Kumar Bathre)]

Dear Dr Sarandha,

Thank for sharing the book and the wisdom it holds for us all.

Looking forward to lay my lands on it soon.

Regards

Monesh

[sarandha (Dr D L Sarandha)]

[sarandha (Dr D L Sarandha)]

@Monesh_Bathre you will not be disppointed…it will for sure set the tone to practice radical forgiveness

[hc2101 (Harmeet Kaur)]

@sarandha I can’t thank you enough for sharing this. I needed this message today! I got my answer about something which was bothering me for a long time!

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

Harmeet

That’s always such a beautiful moment… when a message finds us exactly on the day we needed it.

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

Absolutely…has already set the tone

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

Indeed …it holds a treasure

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

@Harmeet

I loved how honestly you shared…especially the 75–80% forgiven but still triggered part. This actually is the most real stage of forgiveness… the in-between zone where the mind understands, the heart agrees, but the nervous system still remembers.

Also, PLRT changes the way we approach forgiveness. Earlier we try to “be a good person and forgive”… now we start understanding why the experience existed at all. Once the meaning change, forgiveness slowly becomes a side-effect rather than a task.

People think forgiveness is a decision taken once, but in reality it dissolves layer by layer. Every trigger just shows the next layer ready to be released , not a failure, just progress.

[hc2101 (Harmeet Kaur)]

@kobrakulsh

Every trigger just shows the next layer ready to be released , not a failure, just progress.

Yes! Triggers are there but our perception changes after we get to the root cause and see the issues with different lenses. Picture becomes clear and we choose healing instead of repeating. Again it’s a work in progress and needs daily cleansing for the soul, but now we know ‘how to’ approach it!

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

Dr. Aayush

I am smiling reading your reply..… because what you wrote is actually the exact place where most real healing work begins, the point where we understand forgiveness intellectually, but the body and emotions still refuse to release it.

N you’re absolutely right, some karmic bonds don’t allow what you beautifully called endogenic forgiveness easily. In my experience, that usually means the emotion is not just psychological… it is stored experientially.
The mind wants closure, but the subconscious is still protecting something unfinished. And that’s why we keep circling the same person or memory again and again, not because we are weak, but because the loop hasn’t completed yet.

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

@Dr. Sarandha

I really enjoyed reading your reflection on Radical Forgiveness.

The way you connected the 19 assumptions with Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls …honestly this is exactly how this book lands for many of us who already work with regression. It doesn’t feel like a new philosophy, it feels like someone finally gave language to what we keep witnessing in sessions.

For me, the most powerful shift this book brought was not just “forgiving people”… but understanding why certain people even enter our lives with such precision.

In therapy we often see clients stuck in the question

“ Why did this happen to me?”

and Radical Forgiveness gently changes it to

“ Why did my soul choose to experience this through them?”

The moment this shift happens, emotional charge reduces almost instantly. Not intellectually… but energetically. The body relaxes. The nervous system stops defending a narrative.

I also deeply resonate with what you wrote about victimhood. In clinical practice, I’ve noticed people don’t actually hold onto pain, they hold onto identity built around the pain.

Traditional forgiveness still keeps the story alive (“they hurt me but I forgave”), whereas radical forgiveness dissolves the story itself. And once the story collapses, the karmic loop often stops repeating which we repeatedly observe in regression work as well.

What I personally loved most is the gratitude component.

From a Vedic lens, it almost mirrors प्रारब्ध karma unfolding with conscious witnessing.

When gratitude appears resistance drops and when resistance drops, healing accelerates…not because the past changes… but because the meaning of the past changes.

Beautifully articulated post. Books like this really act less like teachings and more like remembrance triggers for therapists.

[kobrakulsh (Supritee Kulshreshtha)]

@hc2101

“every trigger shows the next layer ready to be released.”

This line itself feels like Radical Forgiveness in action… the moment we stop treating a trigger as a problem and start seeing it as information, the entire inner dialogue softens.

And yes, it really is daily cleansing. Not a one-time insight but a practice… like brushing emotional teeth every day