Our relationships often mirror inner wounds and conditioning. These patterns shape our emotional health and influence how we love, connect, and heal.
Secure – Builds trust, safety, and balance → fosters healthy self-esteem.
Anxious – Creates fear of abandonment → leads to clinginess and emotional over-dependence.
Avoidant – Builds walls → suppresses intimacy, causes loneliness.
Disorganised – Push-pull dynamic → confusion, emotional turbulence.
Codependent – Over-giving → loss of identity, exhaustion.
Controlling – Seeks power → breeds conflict, weakens empathy.
People-Pleasing – Craves approval → self-neglect, hidden resentment.
Narcissistic – Needs validation → fragile self-esteem, difficulty with empathy.
Martyr – Sacrifices self → emotional burnout, lack of fulfilment.
Addictive/Obsessive – Over-focus → imbalance, compulsive cycles.
Ambivalent – Mixed signals → uncertainty, unstable bonds.
Victim – Powerlessness → learned helplessness, dependency.
Rescuer – Always saving others → neglects self-growth, attracts victims.
Detached – Emotional shutdown → numbness, difficulty forming deep bonds.
Use in PLRT (Past Life Regression Therapy):
Recognizing these universal patterns helps both therapist and client trace unresolved karmic imprints. By identifying the recurring role (victim, rescuer, controller, etc.)
Sources
Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development.
Ainsworth, M. (1978). Patterns of Attachment.
Karpman, S. (1968). Drama Triangle Model (Victim–Rescuer–Persecutor).
Pia Mellody. (2003). Facing Codependence.
Levine, A. & Heller, R. (2010). Attached.
Schwartz, R. (1995). Internal Family Systems Therapy.
Amarantos PLRT training notes & therapeutic frameworks.
