Client Vitals
SGK, M, 47, 8/10, 4/5, V (5), A, K (5, 5), Relationship with wife, purpose, 9/10, 5/10
1st session
16th April 2024 –Stage 1 to 8-0950-1320 noon - 3 hrs. 30 mins
History taking
The client initially came with concern for his 14-year-old son, who was emotionally withdrawn, resistant to family values, and showing behavioural issues. Over time, the focus shifted to a deeper look at the emotional dynamics within the family, especially his distant relationship with his wife and the stress between her and their son.
Married for 16 years, he lives under the same roof with his wife, but in emotional isolation, they sleep in separate rooms and have limited meaningful connection. He often acts as a mediator between his wife and son, suppressing his own emotions to maintain peace in the home. Despite a stable job and routine life, he described feeling like he was on “autopilot,” moving through life without a deeper sense of purpose.
A key pain point for him is how his wife views his rural, middle-class background. She comes from a more affluent and educated family, and this difference has always made him feel “emotionally small” or inferior. He shared that she often makes remarks or behaves in ways that make him feel looked down upon or dismissed, adding to his long-standing sense of invisibility in the marriage.
2nd session
18th April 2024 –Stage 1 to 13 – 0950 -1250 - 3 hrs
Sharing from womb and beyond as client had a beautiful experience, received a deeper understanding and profound messages.
Womb
During the session, the client had a surprising and emotional moment of connection, he saw a black and white image of his mother looking very young and pregnant. Though he had never seen this photo before, he intuitively felt she was carrying him. What followed was a deeply revealing journey into his earliest connection with her.
While in the womb, the client sensed that his mother was under intense stress. Living in a joint family, she was burdened with all the housework, from cooking and cleaning to washing clothes, with no time or space for herself. She wasn’t emotionally connected to her pregnancy. It felt like a duty to complete rather than a joyful experience.
This distant emotional state during pregnancy seemed to carry over into early childhood. The client described his mother as always busy, physically present but emotionally absent. He was primarily cared for by his grandmother, aunts, and other family members and emotional bonding with his mother only developed much later during adolescence.
Despite feeling this emotional gap growing up, the session helped the client understand his mother on a much deeper level. He could now see that her emotional absence wasn’t rejection, it was exhaustion. She was overwhelmed, constantly recharging just enough to face the next task. Within a few short years, she had four children and very little support for her own wellbeing.
This realisation brought clarity, compassion, and healing. The client no longer saw the distance as personal. He understood that his mother had done her best in overwhelming circumstances, and that deeper connection came later, when life finally gave them space.
**Loving Being **
During this part of the session, the client revisited one of his oldest and most vivid dreams — a recurring symbol he had never fully understood. When explored more deeply, the dream revealed profound insights into the emotional and spiritual dynamics between him and his wife.
He shared that his wife appears to be on a deeply spiritual path, perhaps even inclined toward a sanyasi or yogic lifestyle. While she lives a family life on the outside, inwardly she may be seeking detachment and distance from bodily or worldly needs. This helped him make sense of her emotional withdrawal and disinterest in intimacy not as rejection, but as a spiritual direction.
The client received a powerful insight: even without verbal communication, their emotional and physical connection often flows through silent, spiritual signals. He recalled moments where simply thinking of his need or longing would result in her intuitively responding the next morning touching him gently, initiating closeness. He now understands that energetic communication may be the bridge between them, especially when words fall short.
When asked about the bitterness in the relationship, the client identified his wife’s deep-seated insecurity as a core cause which affects both their marriage and her reactions toward their elder son. Her firm behaviour often stems from fear, not cruelty, and that fear creates tension and misunderstandings.
In a beautiful moment of reassurance, the client received a strong spiritual message about his son. He saw that his son would continue to be different, perhaps challenging in school years, but would eventually settle well in life choosing a path of his own, even if it doesn’t meet traditional expectations. He understood that their current fears are just perceptions, and that letting go, allowing space, and trusting the journey is the way forward.
He felt relieved and calm. He recognised that his role now is not to control, but to support both his wife and son, helping his wife soften her approach and encouraging open, healthy conversations at home. One message came through clearly: his wife should not act like a “porky” (overbearing) mother, as it only creates friction and resistance in their son.
The session ended with a body scan to check for any lingering emotional blocks and he confirmed: “All is okay.” It was a moment of peace, clarity, and quiet confidence.
3rd session
19th April 2024 –Stage 1 to 15 – 1000 -1330 - 3 hrs 30 mins
Past Life 1 but went to current life
C: Actually, my memory went to the period when we shifted to Mumbai and my 2nd son was born
(Here you shared details of shifting in to a new apartment and your 2nd child was very small. Your mother and your wife’s grandmother came over to help. Things started getting very difficult after both your mum and her grandmother had to leave. Your elder son was about 2+ and 2nd was about 5 months old. To make things worst you’ll had to change apartment again due to the landlord. Your elder son started school and used to get a lot of complains. It could be due to the lack of attention he was getting at home, but it was an everyday thing.
All this was too much for your wife to handle and as parents you probably made some mistakes by shouting, hitting or even at times locking your son. You just did what you’ll felt was best at that time.
C: Wife started sleeping in the middle room and I was sleeping in the other room with my 2 kids because I just want to make sure they are safe, not fighting and troubling my wife.
T: What is the deeper understanding of these memory, what you need to know? What you need to learn?
C: I think the current state of life started from Mumbai, all the sufferings started. So eventually, my wife and I chose to live in a separate rooms and continue even when we shifted to KL. We get on with that. In fact, become quite normal now.
T: Moving forward how can you manage or handle things better for yourself, wife and family. What is the understanding you get?
C: One thing I get is I need to be flexible, expressive, show her that I care. Sharing certain responsibilities for home chores. Constantly show her that I am doing things and I care for her. (You explained: Due to your job pressure you have lack on this) This will help develop trust, she always think I am not consistent or committed. She will always tend to remind me because I will forget.
T: Where do you see your relationship 5 years from now if things continues the way they are?
C: 5 to 10 years times she will be more dependent on me, her understanding will change whatever she is seeing now, she tend to connect me with my father’s or relatives attitude, because she don’t like my side of family. Only person she likes is my mom and she is no more. Which means she don’t want to come to my hometown. That is the present situation, basically she don’t like her in-laws but over the time things will change because everyone is growing older and wiser and she will understand the need for support and companionship. Time will be the answers as of now she is not getting the understanding.
T: Meaning either things change at home or not if it continues the way it is right now what you see in future is, she will probably better understand you?
C: She will probably understand from other side because she is also evaluating her family side, she has 2 younger brothers, they also have kids and there are some problems. She tend to compare me with others and our family situation and when she compares, she realize that she is far better than others who are suffering. Actually she don’t have problem so she is creating one.
T: Where do you see the relationship 5 years from now, if you work on yourself with the understanding which you just receive?
C: I think it will improve because she now slowly understands that my kids are grown and independent. They no longer care for what mum and dad is doing, are we okay or not, unless only they physically see something is not fine? Otherwise everyone is in their own space. So they are not the one who is going to take care of her in future, she is getting the understanding.
T: Meaning if you work on what the understanding is, you feel that things will get better faster?
C: Yes! Things will get better, she will understand me more and she will accept me the way I am and of course I am doing everything for her but she won’t realise. She will take it very lightly as though it’s just my responsibility. But it’s okay for me, from my side nothing should be limited when it comes to her. I need to be gracious and generous when I am doing something for her.
When asked whether the emotional distance and tension between you and your wife is connected to a past life, you initially believed it stemmed from your current life. However, when you reflected more deeply, you weren’t entirely sure. During your silence, some impressions came through, though you weren’t certain whether they were intuitive insights or just your own thoughts.
What emerged was the sense that your wife may have experienced abuse by certain men during her childhood, possibly by relatives. This seems to have shaped a general mistrust or negative perception of men that she still carries. You recalled that she had shared a few such incidents with you in the past, though not everything in detail.
You also acknowledged that at times she has made statements suggesting a belief that “all men are like this,” reflecting her inner emotional wounds. You weren’t aware of her seeking any professional help to release this trauma, which may still be unresolved and affecting your relationship today.
**Past Life 2 **
C: Seeing random things, I’m leading towards a seashore, I am staying in a cave. There is a mountain next to the beach. Cave has the homely stuff. There are others staying there too. We going to the forest for hunting.
T: Look at your feet what kind of footwear are you wearing or none?
C: No footwear, can feel the sand and water on my feet.
T: What kind of clothing you are wearing?
C: Like hunters clothing. One piece only covering the bottom.
T: How old are you?
C: About 35/40
T: You are male/female?
C: Male
T: How do you look like, your features, skin colour and height?
C: Tall, skin colours is brown.
T: How does your hair look like? The length?
C: Black and a little long.
T: Are you carrying any weapon with you for hunting?
C: Yes it looks like a sword made of stone and stick.
T: What year or era is this, what comes to your awareness?
C: Seems like old age, just learning on farming, getting more civilized.
T: Is this somewhere during Stone Age era?
C: Yes it’s correct, during Stone Age era.
T: What is your surrounding? You mentioned earlier that you stay in a cave.
C: If I look outside from the cave opening a separate light and if I come out and walk down I see the beach, faraway there are coconut trees, bushes and trees around the mountain.
T: Is there anyone around you or with you?
C: Don’t see anyone.
T: How about in the cave? Are you staying alone or if someone staying with you?
C: It’s pretty dark, I can just see some fire lit in the cave but no one there.
T: Come out from the cave and go to the beach. Is this day time night time?
C: Day time.
T: Is anyone there?
C: 2 kids are playing in water.
T: Go closer to the kids and see you recognise them from your current life.
C: They are very small, one is around 6 to 7 years old and one is 4 to 5 years old. Both are boys.
T: Do you recognise them from your current life?
C: The elder one looks like my second son. I am not able to see the other boys face clearly. He is little naughty and playful.
T: Is there anyone else around?
C: Far distance, I could see some huts, that’s all.
T: Take your time and try to find a connection of this memory. What is that which we need to understand and find a connection with your current life.
(After exploring you were not able to find deeper meaning of this memory but manage to find a connection to your 2nd son. We decided to proceed further)
**Past Life 3 **
C: Visual again seems to be very random. It is like the old age fort. Olden age kingdom is there. Somebody is ruling. Many slaves are there. It seems like western part of the world. Some people are slaves and some are ruling, sitting on the horses. People are wearing like a full gown kind of thing
T: You mean the ladies.
C: There are ladies but even men are wearing long cloth completely covered.
T: Look at your feet what are you wearing?
C: Look like leather slippers but not like modern day slippers.
T: How about your clothing?
C: Some white colour clothing, like a robe.
T: How old are you?
C: About 20 to 25 and I am looking after old people helping them.
T: What is the surrounding? What’s happening around you?
C: I can’t see much but there are some horses roaming, there are guards guarding the place.
T: What era or year is this?
C: I’m not sure but it’s after Christ I guess, but definitely not a modern era.
T: Which part of the world is this, which country?
C: I don’t get any indication but definitely its European continent.
T: Have you seen any picture or anyone wearing the clothing (robe) which you mentioned earlier?
C: No, the robe is made up of a single long cloth and it’s tied in a specific way, makes it look like a robe. It’s not like a shirt where you can open it. (This could be a Toga)
T: Are you wearing anything on your head?
C: No I have curly hair but some kind of band that’s it.
T: Is there anyone around you?
C: Yes, one old person is there sitting on the bench.
T: Who is he to you?
C: He is suffering with some disease, I don’t recognize him but he is quite old.
(Here we tried to find more connection with the old person but nothing came through. There were a lot of people around and movements but you did not connect with anyone specifically)
T: What do you do? What do you work as?
C: I guess I’m taking care of the horses.
T: Are you near the horses now?
C: They are tied away, I can see some pictures of me holding them as well.
T: Take your time and explore this memory. Share with me anything which you feel is important significant.
C: Queen has come out and going in a carriage with her friends. I was standing at the gate and looking at her passing.
T: Do you recognise who is this Queen, do you get a name? What comes to your mind
C: Not sure on the name but she seems to be familiar. Features, height and face little bit resembles to my wife’s engagement photo when she was about 18/ 20 years old.
**Next significant event **
C: The Queen, I and some horses are at the beach side. She is sitting on the horse and I am holding the horse. We are walking and talking. That’s the image I am getting.
T: How old are you now?
C: Maybe 24 to 25.
T: Since you are close to the Queen now, get the understanding if you have any connections with her from your current life.
C: The way she is moving and behaving, I think she like me.
T: How about yourself?
C: I also like her but due to differences in status I think I’m with hesitating to tell her that.
T: Just to confirm Queen is your wife from current life?
C: Not sure maybe because of the similarities of the features can connect.
T: Let’s move in time 5 to 10 years from now, see what become of both of you. What happened to the liking you both had.
C: I am in the Queen’s palace. We got married, but somehow she has given me less power, it’s like a house arrest feeling and she is ruling. I cannot move out of the place.
T: How are you feeling being in such a situation?
C: Feels like I am in a jail.
T: How old are you now and do you have kids?
C: Around 30 to 35, not getting anything on kids
Move to next significant event
C: The Queen and me about 60+ going to some mountain place, we are going for spiritual tour kind of thing. We are walking. Just both of us with some horses carrying our stuff.
T: Meaning you’ll are going on the path to search on spirituality. How is your relationship with her now?
C: Now it is good, that’s is why we are on this journey.
(Nothing more was coming thru here, proceed further)
Last Breath
T: How old are you?
C: 86
T: Where are you, what is your surroundings?
C: I am in a cot. It’s a big house, I am in the master bedroom. It has old classic look, like English man house. I get the feeling my wife has already died. Lying on the bed having severe chest pain.
(If it’s overwhelming just watch it like a movie, don’t have to go through the pain)
T: Anyone around you?
C: The scene which came thru is I am having severe pain, holding my chest and suffering and my two sons are rushing in.
T: You have 2 sons, are they around you?
C: Yeah, they’re asking me what happened and by the time they realise I have already passed. That’s what I can see but I don’t feel anything.
T: Do you have any connection with your sons from this life?
C: They are all grown up, the first one seems to be my 1st Son and the 2nd one I am not sure.
T: What was the last thought on your mind before you took a last breath?
C: I’m seeing in front of me this picture and numbers keep on rolling and it stops at 86, probably referring to my age.
T: (I told you to connect again with last breath)
C: One statement is coming, the pain is over.
**Transition **
T: How are you feeling now? You no longer attached to your 86 year old body?
C: I feel light and transparent. Floating around, actually I am walking, but walking on top of the surface, not touching the ground.
Lesson
T: What is the lesson or learning?
C: I don’t get much, but one thing strikes, keep exploring everyday life and discover all of your own life. The destiny is already been written by you, now you are just exploring it.
T: How do these memories and lessons connect to your present time?
C: The simple connection is problems are temporary and time will give you the solution. You need to keep working on the right things.
T: How do you feel getting this deep understanding?
(Below is your reply, in my own words but keeping all the important things you mentioned and overall what you meant)
You shared that this deep understanding brings you a profound sense of inner peace. You realized that when someone speaks negatively, gets angry, or says something unreasonable, it no longer needs to disturb your inner world. Instead of reacting emotionally or letting it affect you, you now feel a sense of detachment almost as if it clears itself from within. You even find yourself able to smile in such situations, recognizing that these are just passing human behaviours.
This insight has reminded you that life is beautiful , and each moment is meant to be experienced and enjoyed . You see now that fighting, screaming, or getting caught up in emotional drama is a waste of energy . Some people may appear to enjoy those chaotic moments, but after all you’ve witnessed and understood, you realize that even suffering isn’t absolute — it’s just a part of how people perceive their reality.
You also gained clarity that time isn’t the ultimate truth — rather, being grounded and moving at your own pace is what matters. You feel that it’s important to remain centred regardless of whether things are going well or not. You noted that when something doesn’t work out despite your efforts, you shouldn’t feel low or defeated. And similarly, when something great happens, you don’t need to become overly excited or carried away.
The learning is to stay emotionally balanced , stay on the ground , and respond to life with calm presence , whether in success or challenge.
T: This is so beautiful and profound message, carry this with you into your life. Take a moment and take all in.
Love Being
C: There is this scene from about 2 years ago when I was meditating in a cave. It was used by a siddha called Korakkar (you explained to me who Sri Korakkar is under Tamil history). They are called Siddhars because they can vanish and appear anywhere. He had lived and meditated in that cave, which is still there. When I visited the place, I meditated for almost 30 to 40 minutes and felt his presence. My body was feeling so relaxed and light. I felt like a force was pushing me, even though there wasn’t much air in the cave but I could feel the force or wind. Upon coming out, there was this big grasshopper around me. It made a few circles around my head and then flew to the other side and vanished. I felt the blessing then, and now it took me back to the same scene.
T: Try to understand what is the message you can get from this beautiful memory?
C: One message I get is that if I want something, I just need to put my mind into it. With constant effort, without giving up, and with the proper approach, I will certainly achieve it. Just like how determined I was for this journey. I had only one purpose to go to the cave and seek the blessing and it happened. (You shared in details on how difficult is the journey to reach the cave)
**Emerged **
Integration
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A strong emotional and karmic pattern emerged around feeling “less than” or emotionally small in your marriage. This mirrors your current life dynamic where your wife comes from a wealthier background and, as you shared, often devalues your rural, middle-class roots. In your past life, this repeated symbolically when you saw yourself as a labourer marrying a queen, leading to a sense of powerlessness and emotional confinement.
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You gained insight that the emotional distance in your marriage didn’t appear suddenly but had roots in your shared journey — especially after the birth of your second child. This moment marked a shift in living dynamics and emotional availability, creating long-standing consequences in your family structure and your relationship with your elder son.
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The session helped you understand how your wife’s difficult past and unresolved trauma may still influence her behaviour. Rather than seeing her actions as purely personal, you were able to approach them from a more compassionate and spiritually aware perspective.
Closure
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After the session, when asked whether you were consciously aware that the issues began during your move to Mumbai, you acknowledged the external shift, sleeping in separate rooms but therapy helped you uncover the deeper emotional root: how much it affected your wife, and the emotional and parental decisions made during that period, particularly regarding your elder son.
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Part of your session theme involved understanding the purpose of this life. Earlier, you described your life as being on autopilot, outwardly functioning but without true direction. Through regression, you received a clear inner message: “problems are temporary, and time will give you the solution. You need to keep working on the right things.”
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This message brought you a deep sense of peace. You recognised that life is meant to be experienced, not fought and that suffering is often just how we perceive it. You now feel more grounded in the understanding that emotional balance is key, regardless of whether things go well or not.
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You connected with your spiritual strength and were reminded that your efforts, when guided by clarity and purpose, can lead to meaningful results, just like your journey to the Siddhar’s cave.
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You also received a strong and reassuring message about your elder son, that while he may not excel in traditional academic ways, he will still do well in life, in his own unique path. This gave you a deep sense of emotional relief and confidence, helping you let go of excessive worry and instead offer him supportive presence.
Report and Recommendation
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Full report emailed to client
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Practice ongoing emotional expression in small, consistent ways, particularly with your wife, to rebuild connection and trust.
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Continue observing without reacting in emotionally charged moments. Use your awareness to remain calm and centred.
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Consider regular reflective practices (e.g. journaling or quiet meditation) to stay aligned with your insights and to track the slow but real progress happening over time.
