This is part 2 please refer part 1 for session 1 and session 2
IMR was taken at multiple places, did not mention about it due to the length of the sessions.
Client: P, Female, Age: 49, Married
Hypnotisability Score: 5/10 | Eye Roll Score: 2/4
Dominant Sense VAK: 3/11/1
Pain Level Before: 9 & Pain Level After: 4
Therapist: T Client: C
Theme: “I want to know, why can’t I be myself, why I am always shadowed by someone and eclipsed by others”
Session 3 Dave Elman, Progressive relaxation, Ball of light (client choose a sky blue client), staircase, Garden
Cliff, reframing and PLR
T: What comes to your awareness?
C: It’s the time of kings and kingdoms. There is a big door and two small doors. I entered that big door, but everything is so dry. There is so much of life happening, but I don’t know, I’m so lost. It’s not a rich place, but then it is very old times, people are working. Then there are children moving, women moving. It’s all soil and mud. And I’m just entering. There are horses, people are riding horses. There are carts, and shops. I can see a small girl hiding behind a door.
T: Do you know her? (Client was silent)
T: See into her eyes. Is she someone from this life? Is she familiar?
C: I don’t know, maybe she’s like me, or maybe a friend of mine.
T: Look down at your feet. What are you wearing?
C: There is payal, wearing the traditional lehenga blouse. That’s me.
T: How old are you?
C: Seven….eight.
T: What do people call you? What is your name? (Her expression was as if she was not clear and she was silent)
T: What are you doing here?
C: I’m just waiting for someone.
T: Can you see around? What else is happening around you?
C: I’m left here and I’m waiting for someone to come and pick me up.
T: Who left you there? Are you aware of it?
C: Maybe my parents.
T: Just go back a few moments before from here. Before your parents left you there. And get an impression of what was happening.
C: They’re going on some work. Looks like my mom is pregnant. They’re going on a bullock cart.
T: Are you with them?
C: No, they are leaving me here because it’s better for me to stay back. They’re going on some work.
T: Is there anyone with you to take care of you?
C: That’s some relative’s house. But I don’t see anybody. Everybody is very far off. I’m only sitting in the corridor of the house. Waiting, because I like this market outside and the happening outside.
T: Are your parents familiar? And see if you know them in this lifetime. Look at your mother.
T: See into her eyes. Do you know her?
C: She looks like my adoptive mother.
T: Look at your father. Look into his eyes.
C: I can’t see his face. He’s like… (client goes silent)
T: What is happening now?
C: I just have the vision of them leaving.
T: Yeah.
T: I’ll count 3 to 1. On the count of 1, go to the another significant moment from this lifetime. 3… 2… 1…
Go to another significant event.
T: What comes to your awareness?
C: I’m in my grandparent’s house and there’s so much celebration happening. It’s the birth of a younger sibling. And everyone is very happy. There’s so much of Galata happening around. It’s a very nice space.
T: And how are you feeling there?
C: I’m happy. I’m getting to meet a lot of people. I’m very happy.
T: Yeah…you are very happy with all the celebrations and people around you.
I’ll count 3 to 1. And on the count of 1, go to another significant event from this lifetime. 3….2… 1… What comes to your awareness?
C: Everything is so blank. I can’t see anything.
T: Yeah. That’s okay. No problem at all
C: It also feels like…. I am like….
C: It’s a well, kind of a place.
I’m inside the well or something. Like I can’t see anything. Suddenly around me, there is this kind of silence and darkness.
T: Yeah… You are in a well and it’s all silent and dark there.
Go back to the last few minutes of this lifetime. At the time of your death. What comes to your awareness?
C: I don’t know. I’m playing. I’m running. I’m hopping. I’m playing.
C: oooh (a little loud tone)
Looks like I just slipped and fell into something. I don’t know. But why would I (she is a little confused here)….
T: That’s okay. Everything might become clear eventually. Just stay here.
T: You slipped and you fell into a……
Where did you fall?
C: It looks like a well. I don’t know.
T: You fell into a well??
C: Yeah, Yeah.…. But I don’t know why there’s nobody around. I’m all alone. Nobody is even noticing that I’m missing.
T: How old are you when you fell into this well?
C: Same. Seven… eight years.
T: hmmm……
C: What happens when you are there inside that well? Are you looking for help?
C: I’m in shock because I don’t know what to do. There’s nobody around.
T: What are you doing inside the well?
C: I’m just crying for help.
T: Is there water?
C: Yeah.
I’m trying to keep myself. safe, trying to float. But I’m not able to. I think I’m just giving up.
I know I just can’t do anything… (a bit distressed)
T: It’s ok P, this happened in the past, easy… easy… easy… Relaaaxxx (and gave her some time)
T: Go back to the moment when you were dead. What comes to your awareness?
C: I’m just there, dead, in the water.
T: What happens after your death?
C: I think somebody realized.…… I think everybody’s coming, searching and… they realized I am in well.
Yeah…They’re bringing me.
And nobody’s feeling sorry or guilty about it… But everybody’s worried about my mom now.
T: Hmm…… What is the worry about mom?
C: Now that she has a child, she can’t be in pain. Everybody’s telling her, it’s okay, leave it.
T: Hmm… And then what happens next? What happens with your body? Maybe you can float above and see what happens after your death.
C: There is grief, but everybody wants to just move on.
T: What makes them move on?
C: Because there’s another child. A small child who’s more important.
T: Hmm……… What is your mother doing?
C: My mother wants to cry, but she cannot because… she feels she cannot, she’s helpless. And she has to be with the child who is with her.
T: Hmm…… And your father?
C: I don’t see him around. Maybe he’s gone somewhere on some business, some trading.
T: Where are you now?
C: I’m not there, I’m like, neither in the body nor, but I can see…. I’m just trying to find myself.
T: What were your thoughts when you left your body?
C: A small mistake can cost my life. (client is a perfectionist in this life)
T: hmm….… Is there any learning from this life?
Where are you now? Do you sense or feel anyone’s presence?
C: It’s this garden, I don’t know where, I can’t really notice, but Reiki ma’am is there.
C: And I’m telling her that this is what happened to me.
T: And what does she say?
C: She says, it’s okay I am there for you………
She says, my role is over is there… some other life I need to enter, so, I had to end this life.
T: What is it that you carried from that life to this life?
C: Yeah. That fear of making mistake, I just slipped and fell in. So, I might make that mistake again and lose my life.
T: Yeah.
T: What do you think, you need to let go of this fear and belief?
C: I need to feel safe. Maybe something that is looked after.
T: And what can you do to feel safe? What is it that you need to feel safe? Please take your time.
C: I need to have good judgment, patience, balance, and ease. And someone just to be around and be there.
T: Yeah, what makes you feel that you need that someone?
C: not sure
T: It is okay. Are you okay to move ahead? Or do you want to spend some time here?
C: Yeah, but I don’t know, why do I feel that I have sacrificed my life here?
T: Yeah… yeah… Let’s go back to the time just before you slipped into the well. And let’s get an impression of what happened then… On the count of 3 to 1, you may go back to a few moments before when you slipped into the well. 3…2….1… Go back to the moment just before slipping into the well.
C: I think everybody is happy that there is a male child now and I am disregarded here. Even though I did not want to die, this was an accident. I also felt I was not needed or important as this family wanted a male child
T: What made you feel that they want a male child.
C: Everyone is gossiping.
T: Did you hear?
C: Yes…Also, she is not my mother, she married my dad after my mom passed away.
T: What happened to your mother?
C: I don’t know
T: Its ok don’t worry, it may eventually get clearer.
C: Yaa… she passed away, giving birth to me, so my father is not close to me and runs away from me
Step mom is good, she is my adoptive mom in this life, but she wanted a male child, and I was scared that I will lose importance. I did not want to die, it just happened
T: What happened?
C: I don’t know, it’s not clear…
T: its ok, on the count 3 to 1 may be you would get an impression of what happened 3… 2….1…
C: I was running, it was all slippery there and l slipped.
T: What was around, what made it slippery?
C: it was just moss…
T: what makes you feel, you sacrificed your life?
C: I felt there were all happy among themselves, everyone said they have a boy and they are happy, so I felt I am not wanted.
Also, maybe because I am not a good woman
T: What makes you feel that you are not a good woman?
C: Everyone around gossips that way, as my mother passed away birthing me… I also feel she (adoptive mother) had to do a lot of work if I am around, so I better get away.
T: What can u do to go away?
C: oooh… Did I run into that well, but that’s not what I wanted
T: Did you run into the well?
C is distressed.
I did coach breathing and asked her to relax
After a long pause’
T:what comes to your awareness
C: I think I jumped into the well
T hmm, you thought your mother had to do a lot and jumped into the well
C: I was a burden
T: you thought you were a burden….
Were you really a burden?
C: Not really, I felt that way…
T:what else you could have done
C: I should have left there when I heard the gossip and walked home.
T: Relaaaax, breath, Relaaaaax… what comes to your awareness now
C: I am in the clouds; I left my body.
Also I feel my mom was blamed for my death, that she did not look after me
T: how is mom feeling when people blame her?
C: She is angry, my father is guilty, father feels he has to support his wife, as its not her fault.
T: Do you feel, this anger makes Mom distant to you in this life?
C: yes, she wants me to go through the agony that I gave her.
T: hmm…… Do you understand the dynamics now…?
C: yes, I caused pain, so she wants me to go through it similarly.
I understand it and I want to move ahead.
T: hmm…
BRV (once again spent time on deepening)
T: Go to a significant memory or experience from any of the lives, where you felt you were shadowed by others like an eclipse (gave her some time)… What comes to your awareness?
C: Looks like I am a queen
T: hmm….may be you can look at your feet and get an impression of what are you wearing?
C: I am wearing red color, I am the one with a lot of intelligence, grace, and most adored
T: You are a queen, wearing red… where are you now?
C; I am in the palace
T How old were you?
C: 24… 25, this is a very Indian country
After some silence and some distress on face
T: its ok, relax, don’t worry…… just relaaax…
Allow your mind to relax, your mind is capable of doing this, just allow your mind to relax ( I repeated everything she saw in this life)
T: who else is around?
C; There is another woman, in spite of having everything, this king still chooses to have other woman.
T: What could be your relationship with this king?
C: He is my husband
T: were you married to him first?
C:hmmmmmmm
T: Is he familiar from this life, may be you can look into his eyes
C: No, I don’t know him, he is from India. He says it’s important for him, to accept this woman, only then we can be at peace (the kingdom was in trouble, the second woman was in power and she can rescue the kingdom as they were in some crisis. So, she made an agreement, that if the king marries her, she would take of all the crisis. She is rich and powerful) So I just had to step down.
The king despite loving me, just gave in ….
T: Is the queen also from India
C: She is from Europe
T: How do you feel, as you just had to agree?
C: It was a responsibility towards many people, so allowed myself to lose my importance, as it’s happening for the greater good, I am ok to sacrifice. I let myself sacrifice everything and diminish myself. But it’s painful, as I had to let go of being wife and let this woman take over as she has power.
T: Where do u live after stepping down from your role.
C: Same palace but somewhere in the corner, I maintained a very low profile, I shrunk myself as I feared if I would make the new Queen angry, so I left everything and lived in a corner. The king was so relieved and so happy, that he moved on with his new queen and forgot me and lived happily with her
T: What did you carry over from that life to this life?
C: Always playing small and letting others take over, diminishing myself.
T: knowing that it happened in the past, what would you need to drop it, in this life?
C: Ya, now I want to live my life, I don’t want to sacrifice life, I don’t want to waste my gifts, but I want somebody to speak up for me (client craves similar support from husband in this life as well). Nobody thinks of my sacrifice, they left me behind
T: If there was an opportunity for you, to do something for yourself in that life. What else you could have done?
C: I would have used my intelligence and talents, to save the king and people, rather than living at the mercy of someone. But no one asked me, I was not given an opportunity. I would have bargained it better.
T: Do you need someone to give you the opportunity, what if you could choose?
C: It was not allowed; how can a woman speak?
T: who says that woman cannot speak?
C: It was a norm then, to support the king in whatever he did, as he knows better. I was not decision-maker, I just facilitated the norm.
T: hmm…
Go to the last stage of this life. What happens there?
C: I regret and resent, I lost all energy and life force.
T: How old are you?
C: I think I am around 60…. I lost all energy and life force.
T: Go to the moment of your death
C: hmm……
T: What happens after your death, who is around you?
C: King and his queen…… everyone talks about my sacrifice; nobody talks about the life I missed.
T: Float above this scene and see…
C: I feel sad, it’s a life wasted.
T: aaah… What else could have been done for this life not to be wasted?
C: Just take things in your hand and do what you believe is right. I don’t want to depend on the king who doesn’t have a spine and voice. Somebody who cannot tell in public that I am his strength. He could easily give up on me.
T: Maybe now you can see into his eyes and get an impression if he is familiar in this life
C: He looks like M (current life husband)
T: Float above and see what happens after your death
C: everything is done ritualistically, but what about the order and hierarchy that I lost, I was pushed behind.
T: What is that you carried from that lifetime to this lifetime.
C: Fear of showing up for myself (client struggles with this even today)
T: What is it that you need to drop that fear and come back to yourself, what can help you?
C: Times are different, I don’t need that fear anymore.
T: Ya… that’s so good to hear….
Can we move ahead
C: Yes
T Go to another significant event, which is needed to get your answers.
C: It’s a tribal community. Nice beautiful tribal community
T: What are you wearing?
C: red blue black dress and lot of feathers. It’s a nice happy place, we worship, we play around it’s a very happy place
T: Who else is around you?
C: its M (current life husband)
T: how old are you?
C: must be 24, 25
T: how old is M
C: must be a couple of years older to me
T Go back to the time when you are having dinner with family
C: hmm
T: who is there during the dinner time?
C: My grandmother and younger sister and other familiar paces
T: your parents?
C: there are not here
T: there are not at the house?
C: they don’t belong here, I am in my husband’s house
T: go to the next significant event in this life where u felt you were diminished and shadowed by people.
C: nothing……
T: that’s ok, no worries, lets relax, Inhale, allow your stomach to rise up, exhale while your stomach slowly goes down… Relax ( repeated this couple of times)
T: I will count 3 to 1, on the count of 1 go to a significant event where u felt shadowed and diminished 3…2…1
After a long pause
C: I am in the same hamlet, there is some celebration, some festival.
I don’t want to go further it’s scary
T: It’s okay…. Nothing to worry, that happened in past, nothing can come closer to you. You are safe, relax ………… easy……
Remember you are also protected by blue bubble of light ( client choose blue light during Ball of light)
On the count of 3 to 1, get an impression of what is scary,
3… 2… 1….
C: there was fire accident, people are running
T: what happens next
C: I don’t have energy to run, I am stuck somewhere, no one sees me everyone is just running to save their life
T: maybe you could go to the last stage of this life, just before your death…
What might have happened
C: I caught fire and I died (she sounds very tired)
T: yaa…. Yaaaaa…. I can feel your exhaustion. Remember this happened in past and you don’t have to go through it again, just see from distance… Breath … relax… breath… relax
C: Also, there is so much about the weight I carry from that life (we did not discuss anything about weight issues during history taking, but I was aware client was on the heavier side at some stage of life)
T: hmm…. How were you in that life?
C: I was very lean… Then I feel nice in this heavy and cozy body
T: What was it with being lean? What made you feel that you need to be heavy?
C: It’s just fear around me
T: Fear of?? ……………… (pause)
C: fear of getting lost
T: where did you get lost?
C: I wanted to be seen, if somebody would have seen me, they would have protected me
T: you were lean, lost in fire accident, died in fire accident, and you believed that you need weight to be seen… Does that make sense ?
C: hmmm…… yes
T: So, this was the weight that you carried in this life time
C: yes… But I don’t need it now
T: Yes… Exactly
What might help you to shed this weight and to shed that fear of not being seen
C: I think it was only my assumption.
T: and our assumption, doesn’t have to be our reality
C: I can show up in beautiful ways
T: yes
Can you float above and see
C: everybody is running and no one is even seeing for me, they are running for their life, I felt stuck, I could not call them (Son and husband, she told after the session, that in this life she feels son and husband are one team and she is distant), as that might put them in danger. So, I gave up
T: Was there anything else that you could have done
C: I could have trusted and tried
T ya…. Ya … ya
What could be the learning in this life?
C: I can see how I can slip off, when I feel that I am not taken care/
T: is there anything that you can do so that you don’t slip off and take care of yourself?
Long pause……
Relax Relax, breath, you can choose to relax…
T: Where are you now?
C: I am in the clouds…
T: Is there anyone else who came to meet you or see you
Relax, easy…
C: I can see a couple of angels, Ogy(her pet dog) is there, Ogy is in a different form. A black terrier dog. (in this life Ogy is a beagle)
I am fighting with them and telling I am exhausted
T: yes you could do all this, you can seek guidance if you wish…
There is no rush, I am right here, take your time.
C: I want to live life for myself. (after a pause)
T: Do you think this is the solution for the issue where you are feeling people are diminishing you, somebody always comes and takes over your place and they make sure you’re not seen?
T: Or do you want to go ahead and explore some more lives?
C: I think I will drop the fear. What happened earlier need not be repeated.
And this lifetime for me is only to shine. So, I leave what I don’t need now. I leave behind.
What happened then, I want to leave it there. I only want to carry my gifts, strengths, and blessings, and not my fears.
T: Yeah…. that’s beautiful.
T: And how does it feel, all this?
C: It’s better.
T: Do you want to move ahead and explore some more lives or do you think you got what you sought? It’s up to you. If you wish, we can go ahead and explore further
C: I don’t know, maybe we can stop it for now…………… But I still don’t have a question why I always underplay.
T: hmmm… let’s explore that………. On the count of 3 to 1. Go to this significant moment or a memory that made you under play, which made you be small.
Where you played small for the first time. 3…. 2…. 1. Go to a significant event where you felt you were playing small for the first time.
C: I’m there, I’m like maybe a small boy.
We are very poor family, there are so many children………
T: Yes…….What are you wearing? Look at your feet.
C: Yeah, I’m barefoot. I’m wearing shorts and a shirt.
My mom is my biological mom from this life.
T: yahhh…… And who else is with you? Your mom, you and you’re very poor.
C: I think we have another younger sibling who is my twin sister now.
T: Yeah, okay. You have a younger sibling who’s your twin sister and you’re a boy.
How old are you?
C: Must be five or six years.
And there are elder siblings also. But they’re not visible, they’re far away.
T: Go back to an event where you’re together with all your family members. Maybe the dinner time.
C: hmmmm
T: What do they call you? Can you hear anyone calling you?
C: Pappu.
T: Pappu…. Yeah.
Who else is there with you, Pappu, at the dinner?
C: Mom, dad my siblings, we’re all there, but there’s not enough food.
T: What are you eating? Is there anything to eat?
C: Yeah, so there is little rice.
And my mom is already feeling bad that we don’t have enough. Hmm. So now the only way I can help her is by not taking in as much as I need………So that others can fill their stomach.
T: And how does that make you feel?
C: I feel like I’m taking care of my mom and I’m being responsible. It feels nice. I’m happy because the younger one needs food.
T: Are you aware of your father?
C: Yeah, it’s my mom and dad from this lifetime, my biological parents.
T: Go the next significant event from this lifetime. Allow your mind to resurface the next significant memory from this lifetime.
C: It’s death of my father or somebody. Hmm. Yeah, we’re all in pain and helplessness.
T: How did he die?
C: I think he had a heart attack.He was doing some work and he collapsed.
T: And how did you all cope with it? How old are you now?
C: I’m 14.
T: You’re 14 and your father passed away with a heart attack and you all are in pain.
C: The only way is to go get up, give up on your dreams and support the family and existence.
T: How did you support the family when you were 14?
C: I would work hard on farms. Bring food. So that my younger siblings can go to school and study.
T: Go to the next significant event from this lifetime.
C: I’m old, around 60s.
T: Where are you? I’m in that same place. where I grew up.
T: Who is around you?
C: Nobody around me.
T: Your siblings?
C: No, they’re not there.
T: Mother?
C: No, she died.
I feel very lonely because I don’t even have my wife. She also died. Kids are in their own life.
T: Do you know your children?
C: Hmmmmmmm
T: Maybe you can just slow down and slowly see into their eyes and get an impression of who they are. It is okay if you don’t know them. That’s fine too.
C: Hmm.
T: It’s okay. No problem.
C: I’m all alone. I’m left to live my life on my own. I’m exhausted. I just want to end.
T: What might have happened that you left alone?
C: Everybody moved on to find their life. They migrated but I wanted to stay back.
T: Your siblings?
C: They’re all settled in their life but they’re somewhere far away.
T: Are they in the same town or the village?
C: They moved. I think one of my brothers is there. But I know for sure, they’re all doing well but they just moved on. Nobody comes to see me now.
T: How was your financial status when you were at 60? Are your needs taken care? Do you have enough now?
C: I don’t have. The family has enough but I don’t get enough.
T: What made you not have enough when everybody around you has enough and they’re settled?
C: I don’t feel like asking.
T: What did you do for a living in this life?
C: Farming.
T: You still have your farms?
C:Hmm.
T: They don’t fetch you anything?
C: They do, that’s all for kids.
T: So how do you feel about this? You worked from the age of 14. You took care of your family. You worked for family and today you’re alone. How do you feel about this?
C: Not good but then I can’t speak. They’re all my loved ones for whom I did this.
T: What was it about playing small? Is it something from here?
C: Because I promised to take care of them.
T: But how do you think you will take care of them by being small?
C: If I sacrifice my needs they can meet their needs.
T: Did it benefit anyone?
C: Yeah. They all grew up.
T: What about you?
Easy. Relax…. Allow your forehead to relax
T: So did this belief serve you in any way? “I will ask less. I will do less. I’ll underplay for my family”.
Do you think it served you?
C: I didn’t have the courage to change my belief. I never had the courage to say I need more; I’m entitled for more.
T: Go back to the last moments of this life.
C: Hmm
T: Easy…. How did you die?
C: It’s just health ailments.
T: Who was around your dead body?
C: My kids, grandchildren.
T: What are they all doing?
C: They’re all busy.
T: Is there anyone around your dead body?
C: Everybody is there.
T: And what do they look like? Are they okay? Are they sad?
C: They are okay. At least on the surface they’re all okay. They feel relieved.
T: How do you feel seeing all of them?
C: It is sad but it is okay because I’m done. It was no pleasure living life
T: What was the learnings of this life? Just float above the scene and from there see what are the learnings of this life.
C: To put myself first. There’s always enough. I don’t have to sacrifice.
T: What is it that you have carried from that life to this life?
C: Trying to be nice. Not showing up for myself. Maybe waiting for someone to come and bring me out.
T: Do you realize in all the lifetimes you were waiting for someone? When you were stuck in the fire you were waiting for someone to pull you out.
When you were dislodged from your position as a queen you wanted someone to stand up for you…. And even here in this lifetime of a boy you thought you would wait for someone to be there for you. Did this belief serve you in any way in any of your lives?
C: No.
T: What would you need to drop this? What will help you to drop this? What will you need to stand up for yourself to show yourself and to play your game like a master? What might help you? (all of this was asked with good time gap between each question)
C: It’s okay to stand up for myself. And some amount of self-interest where I will take care of
T: Very niceeeee……………….Where are you now?
C: Back to the garden
T: Yeah, this garden is a safe place. Is there anything you want to look further? Did you get your answers.
C: yeahhh (with a deep sigh of relief)
T: Are you okay to come back? It’s your choice. We can still do.
C: But why is it that I’m still looking for some bigger force to guide me?
T: that’s okay. On the count of one, maybe you will find someone who can guide you….Shall we do that? And it’s okay if you don’t see anyone.
C: I know. I know the connection. It’s that Pondicherry mother…….I know mother… I know I have a connection with her. I feel nice having her around. But I also can see that flash of baba Maha avatar Babaji
It’s just that mother, and baba photo.
I gave sometime here….
T: What else do you sense around?
C: It’s a nice pink, blue light, cozy. (she spends some time here) walks towards the light ……
I’m here, I’m coming back by the staircase
Gave her some time, bought her to garden, allowed her to relax. Here once again I recalled all the lives and observed her face and body and also asked her if she would like to re visit any of the life.
Client was very much at peace and said she knows it all.
Eventually I emerged her.
Session 4 Final integration
Client herself said that now she understands why she was scared of driving. She experienced a strange heaviness in the leg when she saw herself falling into the well. She says it’s the same heaviness that comes when she tries to drive and she cannot move her leg. She also mentioned, she would be always alert while walking and look for any small steps or elevations around. She says people walk peacefully but I keep telling them be careful be careful. She said “Now I understand from where it comes, its so familiar now”…
She understood the reason behind her heavy weight and how she carried it from a life where she was very lean (We nowhere discussed anything about the weight issues during history taking and theme finalisation. I was just aware that client was on healthier state at some point of life. Today she is not heavy as she underwent a Bariatric surgery couple of years back).
Now coming to our main theme, where client felt she was always shadowed by someone at various stages of life and learned to diminish herself everywhere. This affects the client in her career as well.
She had her realisations, that how in various life and waited for someone to help her, speak for her, support for her and eventually was affected because of that. She never put herself first and prioritized others.
She says she is ready to drop the fear, need for other to stand for her and do her things all by herself. She understood, all she has to do is value her gifts and take charge of her life. Her exact words were “So this was all about the choices I made, I can choose different today”.
We discussed, how in every life client felt the need for someone to support her and in that process, she lost her life or position. It was kind of a pattern. So, client went back with an understanding that she does not need others support, first, she needs to do what she can for herself.
After 3 days I once again checked with her about her leg, she said it’s gone, it’s very light…
Suggestions:
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To take baby steps towards her individuality. Trust herself.
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Stand in front of the mirror everyday and tell … she is enough… She deserves…. She can do it all by herself.
The client herself is a deeply spiritual person and is aware, so I felt she doesn’t need much of my help here.
