The Burden of the “Good Girl”

Client Details

Name: Shagun (name changed)

Gender: Female

Age:35 years

Hypnotisability Test: 9 / 10

Dominant Sense: Kinaesthetic
VAK- 7/2/6

Eye roll score – 2

Breathing Pattern - Normal

Pain level (Before) - 8
Pain level (After) - 5

Day 1
10 December 2025
First Session
7:30 PM to 9.30 PM

Stages 1 to 5 followed as per the defined protocol.

NONVERBALS
Shagun is a highly achievement-oriented individual, working at a MNC. Her earliest memory traces back to 5 years when she was in kindergarten where she exchanges candy with her classmate. She has always been good at academics and has been a quick learner. She describes her father as “the best in the world”—caring and proactive. However, he was an idealist and Shagun felt a heavy burden to match his high expectations. She notes she was never taught to defend herself. She is an emotional person who feels the need for more show of love. She feels she needs to struggle a lot to achieve anything. Hence she has prepared herself to enjoy struggles and tight schedules. Though she identifies herself as procrastinating until the last hour but ultimately succeeding.
She loves taking initiatives and enjoys challenges.

Shagun is the first born in a loving family (Hindu). Her parents, relatives and friends have always been affectionate towards her. She has always been the obedient child
She has an younger brother who is 1.5 years younger than her. Shagun is married for about 9 years and stays with her husband. she comes from a traditional conservative family which had restrictions with respect to clothes

Shagun’s identity is heavily tied to being the “obedient” daughter and “successful” professional. The inability to conceive is interpreted as a failure to meet the final, most critical expectation.
Her self-worth is highly dependent on the “respect and freedom” granted by others (boss, in-laws) rather than internal validation.
There is a significant tension between “Shagun” (the adult who wants to let go) and “Tinky” - (petname called by parents - the child who must please parents).

RELATIONSHIPS

Shagun shares a very close bond with her father and idealizes him, he has always stood by her. She looks for a father figure in her husband.

Shagun’s mother is a homemaker, described as “timid” and “naive”, her mother reportedly taught Shagun to be obedient and stay silent in the face of conflict. Her brother is currently going through a divorce, which has added to the family’s collective stress. Shagun feels concerned for him and notes the father feels helpless in this situation. In college, she had a partner who was “more than a friend” both were obedient, and when they sensed things would not work out, they split. She still carries guilt for not "fighting for him.

Shagun shares an intimate relationship with her husband, to whom she openly expresses her thoughts. However she also feels judged. There is a conflict between her desire for transparency and her fear of being judged if she is truly open.

Current Problems
A lifelong pattern of not “speaking back.” She often suppresses her own voice to maintain a “good side,” though internally she feels she should have spoken up. She gets attached very quickly and fears losing people. She is a “listener” who often feels she lacks the space to talk. Noted history of PCOD. She currently struggles with a lack of motivation for exercise, questioning her own “why.”

There is significant distress regarding the inability to conceive. She has tried “everything possible,” including IVF, which has not given her favorable results.
She experiences a “strong urge” to be a mother and reports a recurring dream of seeing a baby in someone else’s arms.
There is a deep-seated fear of losing the respect of her husband and in-laws if she does not become a mother. She feels “confused” and “angry with God.”

Theme: Feeling overwhelmed and anxious, primarily driven by a “fear of expectations from people who matter”

Day 2
29-December 2025
Second session (Part1)
11:30am - 1:30pm

Dave Elman Induction
Progressive Relaxation

[Happy memories session]

[In utero session]
Shagun could visualize darkness.
Her mom was in the kitchen cooking chapattis.
Shagun could hear some conversations between her aunts like “It happens”; “So what is new in that”
Her mom seemed to be a little upset with this dialogue exchange.

[Ancestral session]
Shagun felt the presence of her grandma. She told her " Go with the flow, everything will fine"
Shagun also saw her grandfather, whom she has never met. He told her " There is no right or wrong, do what you feel is right"

[Break for Lunch]

Second session (Part2)
3:15pm - 5:30pm

Dave Elman Induction
Progressive Relaxation
Affect Bridge

T - Notice the recent disturbing experiences when you felt anxious due to not meeting any expectation

T - what picture came to your mind?

T - How do you feel?

count from 10 to 1. Allow yourself to manifest a bridge out of this feeling of anxiousness. Walk over to the other side and allow yourself to reach the origin of this feeling of anxiousness. Even if nothing comes up it is completely fine. You are safe . You are protected.

[after a gap for few minutes]

She was not able to see anything.
Go back to the garden where you are resting for the affect bridge again and come to the other side

T- where are you?
C- Iam in a room

T- How does the room feel?
C- dusty and not well-lit

T- What are you doing?
C- My hands are tied to a pole.

T- Are you Male or Female?
C- I am a female, have long hair

T - what clothes are you wearing?
C - salwar suit

T - What’s your age?
C - around 20-22 years

T - What is your name?
C - Don’t know

T - What else do you see in the room?
C - there are in built shelves on the wall

T - is there anyone else with you in the room?
C - There are 2 men in the room. their intentions don’t seem to be good. They are filled with emotions of lust

T - Can you relate them to anyone from your current lifetime?
C - No

T - What is your current emotion?
C - As if i have done some mistake and i am being punished for it

T - Which place is this? Is this India?
C - Seems to be a place in North India itself. I am wearing a salwar suit.

T - Which year is it?
C - It must be in the 1970’s

T - What is happening with you in the room?
C - The men pulled my hair and dumped me to this room. The men are trying to do something wrong with me. They are coming close and trying to kiss my neck region

T - Are you scared?
C - For some reason i am letting it happen. As i want to come out of this situation. i am giving in to their demands
I can sense my relatives are talking about my wedding. They are looking for a right match for me. They have found a groom for me, but i don’t want to marry him. I want to marry a boy who stays in my neighborhood .

T - Who else is in your family?
C - i see my mother but no father. He must have died when I was born.

T - Can you relate this boy to anyone from your current lifetime?
C - My uncle (Phupha ji)

T - Allow yourself to what is the significance of this moment in lifetime to your current lifetime
[After a brief gap]
C - I see myself being married to someone else. A groom of my family’s choice. He didn’t treat me with dignity and respect. My husband frequently abuses me to domestic violence. He has beaten me black and blue in my abdominal region.
i see myself bruised all over my body. i am in pain, i am not happy in this marriage. I feel nauseatic.

T - Do you recognize him from present life?
C - Could be one of my uncle’s

T - Who else is in your family?
C - I have a son who is married. They love me.

T - Do you recognize your son and daughter-in-law from present life?
C - Son is one of my cousin and daughter-in-law one of my aunt’s

[KMF to Classic]
T - Can you allow yourself to go to the time when you were a little child in this lifetime?
IMR

T - What’s your age?
C - 3-4 years. I am wearing white banyan and shots

T - what are you doing?
C - I am sitting with my mother. Who happens to be my current lifetime’s grandma

T - How are you feeling?
C - I am feeling safe and happy

T - Is there anything that is affecting you?
C - No

T - Allow yourself to go to the last moment in this lifetime.
(After a brief gap)
C - I see myself lying on my death bed. Iam surrounded by my son and daughter in law. I don’t think they have any children at this stage.
I am suffering from some disease. Not sure what it is.

T - Where are you now?

T - Can you request the divine light to heal you especially your abdomen
C - The light is blessing me

T - what were your last thoughts as you left your body?
C - Do your best in whatever situation you are in.

T - What lesson did you learn from this lifetime?
C - Stand up for yourself. Don’t be subject to other’s choices. As i didn’t have a father who could stand up for me i gave in to my relative’s choices.

C - Can i come out?
T - As I count from 1 to 5 …Allow yourself to reach your Garden of Peace…Sitting on that beautiful bench…1…2…and 5

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Day 3
30 -December 2025
Third session (Part1)
12:45am - 1:30pm

We started with Dave Elman, Progressive Relaxation. But we had to abort the session in between due to a loud noise in my neighborhood.
We decided to take a break for lunch and restart after the recess

[Continuation of Third Session]

Third session (Part2)
2:30pm - 5pm

Dave Elman , Progressive Relaxation, Affect Bridge

T - Using the same bridge which you fabricated using your feelings of anxiousness in our last session, Allow yourself to go back to the lifetime from where the feeling of anxiousness originated

[Client slips into another lifetime]

[Later client told me when she was walking on the bridge, she felt the whole bridge shaking]

[ENGRAM]

C - Iam in a market area with 3 other people. One of them is my cousin, she is wearing salwar suit and has pleated her hair

T - Are you Male or Female?
C - Male. Iam a muslim as iam wearing a kufi cap

T - How old are you?
C - around 22years

T - What are you called?
C - Iqbal

T - What is happening?
C - iam buying meat from a shop. Lot of meat. May be for a feast

T - Which place is this?
C - Some arid region in middle-east possibly in Oman..

T - Which year is this?
C - Don’t know

T - What is happening?
C - We are having a feast. I live in a joint family. I can see my parents, wife , cousins. There is a farm in our house. A lot of domestic animals breeding..i see hens and chickens running around

T - What do you do?
C - I am a carpenter, i cut trees and make small furniture. I can see some small furniture at my home.

T - Do you recognize anyone from this lifetime ?
C - No one seems familiar

T - What is your current emotion?
C - Happy

T - What is the significance of this lifetime to your current problem?
C - Dont know

[KMF to Classic]
T - Can you allow yourself to go to the time when you were a little child in this lifetime?
IMR

T - What is happening?
C - I am a 7-8months baby. Iam crawling. I am in the open yard of the house. I am curiously looking at ants walking.
I pick some of them and put it into my mouth. i am enjoying the feeling of crushing the ants with my tiny fingers. Hurting the ant is giving me a lot of pleasure.

T - Who else is along with you?
C - My mother. She slaps me and asks me to spit it out. Iam mad at her.

T - Allow yourself to go slightly ahead in time and let me know what happens thereafter
C - I have 4-5 kids. Iam a very aggressive person. Iam unhappy and displeased with everything and everyone around me. I assault people. I see myself hitting my children. One of my son is married and he has a toddler. We are not in much talking terms. My daughter-in-law resembles my aunt from this lifetime. She takes good care of me.

T - How old are you?
C - Late 40’s

T - What else is happening?
C - I think i have piles. i feel pain in my rectal area. I can see blood stains on my clothes.

T - What emotion are you going through?
C - I feel irritated. I am given less spicy food to eat. I abhor the food.

T - Can you move slight ahead in this lifetime?
C - I am in a green patchy land , i have mostly come to cut trees. I get attacked by a wild animal. I must have provoked it. It resembles a wild boar which has poky skin. I can sense a lot of anger within the animal. It has attacked me brutally with its horns and hurt all my body parts. It has lifted me multiple times and thrown me to the ground. Its tearing my body apart, my intestines and a lot of organs are out and iam bleeding profusely.

[Client feels pain]

T - Its only a memory. Try to float from above and look at yourself.
C - [After a brief gap]

T - What is this pain expressing?
C - Care for everyone around

T - Allow yourself to go to the last moment of this life as Iqbal. What comes to your awareness?
C - I feel iam floating and iam feeling very very light. I can feel a divine light.

T - You can request the divine light to heal you , your entire body. Feel the Bliss and let me know when we can proceed further
C - The light is blessing me

T - What is the lesson from this lifetime?
C - I never valued anything that was given to me in this lifetime. I had a loving family, i had enough to eat and I was physically fit to work and earn for my family. I never valued any of that , i would always nag everyone, assault everyone. I was hard on everyone who took care of me. I need to learn to value and love

T - Is there anything else that needs to be explored?
C - No

T - As I count from 1 to 5 Allow yourself to go to your beautiful Garden of Peace on that very bench using the same bridge that you had manifested . But this time as you proceed towards your bench, Allow yourself to burn and destroy that bridge behind as you cross it using the Divine light around you
1, 2, 3 , 4, 5

IMR

Garden
Client was then Emerged using the due process

CLOSURE AND INTEGRATION
Shagun has found the answers to her questions on feeling burdened with relationships. On why she struggles to achieve anything.
She has been sleeping very very deep for the last 2 days.
The whole process has given her a higher picture of life. She has less complains towards her husband. Her perfectionist attitude towards expecting her husband to behave as her father has lessened.
She also mentioned Premanand Maharaj came into her dreams one night and asked to her imbibe meditation and discipline in her schedule (Shagun doesn’t follow Maharaj ardently)

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Very well done Sushnata… Very impressive.

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Dear Susnanta,

Your Numero Uno case. :heart:

Very well for assisting the client and bringing her pain level down. My learnings are as under for your consideration pl,

Well set. We intend to use this to frame our sugestions.

Lets discover the journey as we read through.

Very well Susnata. :lotus:

Most of us struggle with this very situation !

10 dec to 29 dec. That’s quite a gap. I am sure you have tried best to bring it as close as possible.

She is a K.

She tapped into the past memory and landed here.

We consider to empathize here and offer stress management when it emerges.

We process this after we have reached the last moments PD.

This is the moment we were looking for before KMF2c.

Engram-KMF-PD- LBL-KMF2C-PD-CO- Resolutions

What would have caused this to happen??

Very pertinent lessons.

That’s so unfortunate.

Well landed.

We preserve this one for PD and LBL which are the states of hyper awarreness.

We consider to keep this after PD and LBL.

Consider to use — Next significant moment in this life of Iqbal.

Consider to paraphrase.

We consider to keep it openended.

Do we need this ?

My wishes for your client. Thank you for bringing her the answers.

Regards,

Monesh

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@psusnata very well done session , I specially liked that burning the bridge which is a good closure I believe. Keep it up :clap:t2::clap:t2::heart_hands:

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Well done Mam. The pain level is not reduced as expected, may be some more sessions required

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Just curious- This was left unfinished? And jumped to the next SE!

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Dear Susnata

Congratulations on completing such a lovely session.

I could really resonate with the theme of being obedient and wanting to please everyone; it often feels like this gently takes root during childhood, especially when parents hold different perspectives.

You seemed to guide the client into a calm, quiet state very naturally :blush:.

Perhaps the injuries may have had some influence on the difficulty in conceiving, and I lovingly hold the client in my prayers, wishing for her to be blessed with a baby very soon.

I was simply curious, in a gentle way, to know whether her recurrent dream was explored a little more deeply and if any reframing was done.

Sending you warm thoughts, gentle appreciation, and my very best wishes, dear :cherry_blossom:

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Happy for you and your client

Best wishes

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Congratulations @psusnata on your first post​:bouquet::bouquet: Welcome to the Forum. In my humble understanding

Very well,

Secondary Dominant is Visual Sense

Maybe we can pinpoint our theme to one or two words.

Kudos to you for leading your client to in- utero experience

The Client is K

Maybe we were little early here into this step. We could have guided the Client further in life, then to the Death of his sub-personality (State of Hyper-awareness) followed by PD and LBL. Take learning from there and then proceeded to KMF2C

Maybe here we could have avoided leading the Client towards the light and instead asked what she is experiencing

Again we were slightly early here.

Master Venu wants the solution to be endogenic in nature for maximum efficacy

Well Done

Maybe we could have improved here looking at your enormous efforts during the sessions

Very well done @psusnata .Keep shining. God bless you :folded_hands:t3::folded_hands:t3:

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@psusnata you held a beautiful session! Your client is lucky to have your guidance to explore her PLR journey and gaining insights and finding answers she was seeking! :cherry_blossom::cherry_blossom:

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These 2 realizations sum the the whole session! Inner awakening and spiritual guidance :folded_hands:t2::folded_hands:t2: perfect!

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