Session 1
Name: SD | Gender: Female | Age: 26 | Profession: IT Professional
Hypnotisability Score: 6/10 | Eye Roll Score: 2/4
Dominant Sense VAK: 3/8/4
Pain Level Before: 8 & Pain Level After: 2
Subjective Interpretation: To know about someone
Conflict: Conflict between mind and heart
Decision made to resolve the conflict: To let go….
Script: Strong attachment
Theme: I’m unable to figure out my strong attraction to someone
Therapist: T Client: C
History Taking:
SD comes from a typical rural male-dominated Haryana family. Born and brought up in Delhi, she had her parents, grandparents, brother, and many relatives around her, but she always feels more comfortable being with her maternal family than her paternal side. But she shares a good relationship with all her cousins. Only once her cousin brothers started getting married did her relations get somewhat strained after her sisters-in-law came… She shares a very special bond with her dad, who’s mostly sick nowadays.
Although her family is educated and has been a working class from Gurugram, they still are very orthodox in their outlook. ‘I suffered severely from an inferiority complex due to my dark complexion (she’s not dark but wheatish) till my teenage years, ’ says SD. Staying in a joint family, she was always reminded of her complexion, asked to do home remedies to improve her complexion, which she says became a part of her weekend routine but with no improvement, adding to her agony! Solace that she had was her academic results; a good student, she was always acknowledged in school for her interest in studies as there were very few girls who were interested in studies. Very studious, has won many trophies in school. She laughed as she said I was a ‘Rattu Tota’ as I felt, that was one way I could distract family from my appearance. Her mom is her biggest support as she, being highly qualified herself, has taught her a lot about life in general. But her insecurities has led her to become a very secretive kind of a person and likes to portray herself as somebody else, which she isn’t, with a very hard exterior, very outspoken damn care attitude, a fake identity but inside she’s very spiritual and feels connected to Lord Krishna and Radha. She finds Radha as her mother and talks to her whenever she’s in trouble and gets guidance from Her.
She said she had a blast in college while pursuing her B.Tech in computer science. Was in the dramatic society of her college, was the president of this society, won olympiads and a lot more, but…. She felt lonely from the inside always. Friends leave her very often for no reason, and she ends up feeling lonely, especially so during festivals, as her family does not mingle around and she enjoys socializing, which creates a conflict, as it is not considered good for girls to mingle around in their culture. Family has never, to date, gone on any holiday trips except for ‘Nani Ghar’.
She feels she’s always searching for something that she’s unable to find. This has made her go in and out of relationships secretly many a time since her school days. During her school days itself she had a few crushes and many during her college days. Fortunately or unfortunately for her, every time she broke up with a boyfriend, another better guy was already around! There was only one incident when the boy left her, and she said I was desperate to get him back, only to leave him myself to satisfy my ego, and she did that once they patched up… A few years back, in 2020, she started going to the gym where she got attracted to A, her gym trainer, six years elder to her. He was a very different kind of person, she felt. Guided her in everything and surpassed all her expectations. His efforts were very genuine, very caring, and concerned about her well-being. Gradually, they started dating, she met his friends and she started hanging around with his whole gang of friends, liked them a lot. And, finally, she shifted from Noida (her workplace) to Gurgaon for him. As he too was from Haryana, she thought that there should not be any problem in their families. She wanted to marry him, and so did he. After meeting him, she felt her unknown search for something was gone and it was like a fairy tale story, that they lived happily ever after!
But, destiny had its plans… While they were making plans to get married last year, A’s best friend called up SD one night and she thought it was a normal call to catch up with her but it turned out to be the most heartbreaking call of her life as he broke the news to her that A is already married since 2017 and that A never let SD know about this fact and that she should keep distance from A. That night she couldn’t sleep, tried calling A throughout, but calls never went through. Called up other friends to confirm if this was correct and came to know that his friend was right, A was already married years back. Then she realized that by this time, A had borrowed lakhs of rupees from her gradually over the years. She felt badly cheated and broke down in front of her mother, telling her everything about A. Being the only girl child of her family, all her brothers stood up for her and did all that they could to get back her money (which is still not fully recovered). Cut to 2025, she says she’s not over him yet, she still likes him, she’s unable to move on in life. Every time someone tries to approach her for a relationship/marriage, she refuses, saying, ‘what will he think, that if he comes to know, etc, etc. ’
Do you want a man like him back in your life? (I asked)? At any cost, she said. Financial things don’t matter to me, I don’t want the money back, I want him. I keep stalking him and his wife. I’ve spoiled the relationship with him by telling my brothers to harass him for money. Now, I’m unable to go back to him because of this. If he divorces his wife, we can marry!
(I felt she wasn’t in the right frame of mind and needed healing more than anything else).
After history taking, the PLRT process was discussed and she agreed to proceed. I also assured her of an oath of confidentiality to her.
(Stage 1-11 Completed in sessions 1 and 2. We started with Dave Elman and then Progressive Relaxation, Paradise of Peace – The Garden, Happy Childhood Memory, In-utero, and LBL… I also did a healing session for her wherein she cried a lot and felt much lighter by this time.)
Session 3
Dave Elman-Progressive Relaxation- Garden- Cliff-Big Box n Small Box- Tunnel of Light- Affect Bridge
Past Life
T: Take your time and tell me what you see
C: It’s so beautiful, I can see trees, a pond, birds, flowers, peacock dancing
T: Wow! That’s wonderful. Do you see yourself around?
C: Yes, I see myself in this beautiful castle.
T: What are you doing here? What is your name?
C: My name is Durga. This is my castle, it belongs to me. Its a huge palace with many steps down leading to this beautiful garden, where I can see peacocks dancing, I’m very happy to be here.
(A soft smile on her face, which suddenly faded away, and her face became very stern)
T: What happened? Is everything alright?
C: Someone is coming in a deer-cart or a horse-cart. (Pause) She’s a woman. A scary woman. She’s coming closer and closer. Now, she’s climbing the stairs and walking towards me.
T: Who is she? Do you know her? What is her name?
C: Yes, I know her, she is Devi. She does not like me and always wants everything that I own. Durga is beautiful, but Devi is very ugly and arrogant. She’s wearing a red saree, dark complexion.
T: What does she want from you?
C: She wants my palace (Pause) She’s trying to kill me, but my soldiers kill her instead
T: Oh, that’s sad. What’s happening next?
C: She has cursed me before dying
T: What?
C: That I will lose everything, including my beauty
T: Do you think you know her from anyone in this life?
(I felt she did but did not want to disclose, so I did not insist she tell)
T: Are you married, Durga? Who else stays with you?
C: Yes, I’m married, but my husband does not stay with me, but comes to meet me often. I’m alone here now.
T: Why does he not stay with you?
C: He goes hunting and to work. He’s mostly out. I manage things of this palace mostly alone
T: Move ahead to the time when you are with your husband
(Quite for a long time)
T: Can you see your husband?
C: Yes
T: What do you see?
C: He’s wearing black clothes. He loves Durga
T: Do you know him?
C: Yes, He’s A. He’s my husband
T: What else do you see or feel?
C: I’m very happy when he’s with me. I feel safe and relaxed. He loves me a lot and misses me when I’m not with him.
T: Is he telling this to you?
C: Yes
T: That’s nice. Now move to the last day of Durga’s life.
(Long Pause)
T: What happened? What do you see?
C: Chaos
T: Why? What happened?
C: Earthquake, the walls of the palace are falling. And my husband and I are running outside to save ourselves. So are others, too. All are scared… (Quite)
T: What’s happening?
C: A huge part of the building fell upon us, and we both died
T: Did you both die together?
C: Yes, there are two bodies, but I feel we are not connected to Earth
T: What does that mean?
C: It seems that the castle was on the clouds
T: Okay, what else do you see, Durga? How old were you when you died?
C: I just see two bodies together, holding hands. I must be in mid 50s when I die.
(I ask her to respond, but she’s not responding at all, her eyes moving fast from one side to the other)
T: Take a deep breath and relax (But she’s busy in her world). I again remind her to relax and take a few deep breaths.
(I realized that she has jumped into another life)
C: Old woman, begging on the roadside. That’s me. A is her husband in this life too.
T: How old do you think you both are? Where are you?
C: They look like in their 30s. They are sweeping the road.
T: Are they both happy being together?
C: Yes, very happy and contented just by being together.
T: That’s nice. Move to a significant event in this life.
(Pause)
C: I just see them together, that is all I’m able to see… I see three children, two girls and one boy. They are my children
(A beautiful smile on her face)
T: So nice. Is there anyone you know in this life?
C: Yes, my elder daughter is my brother’s daughter now.
T: I see, lets move ahead to a significant event now.
(I see her stern face and tears rolling down her cheeks. I wipe her tears and gently ask her what happened.)
C: Rajesh got an electric shock, I guess he’s electrocuted, and he’s lying unconscious.
T: Who’s Rajesh?
C: My husband
T: Okay, and what’s your name?
C: My name is Indira
T: Is your husband still unconscious now, Indira?
C: Yes, I’m crying a lot and asking for help from people around
T: Does anyone come forward to help you, Indira?
C: No, I’m asking for help, asking for money too. People are getting annoyed with me and thinking this is another way to earn money by fooling people. But, I’m worried about Rajesh. I don’t want him to die. I’m crying a lot, and there is this one lady shouting at me a lot, threatening me. She’s very angry at me, saying she will kill me if I do any more drama. Nobody is trying to understand my agony.
(Tears keep rolling down her cheeks. I try to relax her and keep wiping her tears.)
Suddenly, I hear her shrieking, as if in deep pain.
T: What happened, Indira? Are you alright?
C: Someone slit my throat
(I was shocked to hear that, and utterly confused too)
T: How? Why?
C: That lady did it, for begging money from her. A lot of blood flowing, deep pain…
T: Relax, Indira. Take a deep breath and let go.
(She takes a deep breath and is quiet and relaxed completely)
T: Is this the last day of your life?
C: Yes, I’m dead and so is Rajesh
(I was taken aback by this. They both Die Together in this life, too!)
T: Relax and float above your body. What do you see now?
C: Huge crowd. And that lady is also crying a lot now after killing me. She regrets why she did that to me, but it’s too late now.
T: Do you feel you know this lady?
C: She’s A’s mother.
T: Oh, I see… (Pause) Look above Indira, do you see anything?
C: White light above
T: Move towards the light. How do you feel?
C: Very peaceful and light. Rajesh is also with me.
T: Good to know you both are together. Is there anything that it is trying to communicate to you?
C: I should not have any kind of ill feelings for anyone, as we do not know what they are going through.
T: Ask, how many lives are involved in resolving this issue with A?
(Pause)
C: Seven
(That response was something that gave me a lot of relief)
T: So, does that mean that your relationship with A should now end as you have already lived seven lives with him?
C: (A faint) Yes
T: Can you repeat that louder, please?
C: Yes
T: Anything else that you need to learn?
C: That I should be wiser
T: How do you feel now?
C: Very relieved and relaxed
T: You may thank the universe for helping you to resolve your issue. It is time for you to come back to the present day in your life as SD
(I used affect bridge and garden to bring her back to her consciousness and brought her back to an awakened state)
Client’s reaction after the session
She said that she was satisfied to know about her attachment with A and would work on moving ahead in life and would also think of getting married to the person her father had chosen for her.
(I quietly thanked the universe because till she does not understood this and stopped being adamant on living her life with A, things would have gotten worse, and also so many lives were at stake!)
Post-session pain level was 2
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