Before I present this case, I just want to share a little note.
During one of our previous monthly forum meetups, I remember Venu sir mentioning about inner child healing, and that it is supposed to be done towards the end of the session. However, I have been incorporating it in between my sessions. The case I am presenting today was done before that discussion, so I am sharing it as it was conducted at that time.
Another thing which has been on my mind, when I attended the training in 2019, I may have missed out on certain things, or perhaps they were not covered at that time. For example, the cliff and boat scripts. I noticed some of you using them, so I have been reading and going thru the cases to understand them better. I found the cliff script in the forum and tried using it in other sessions, but not in this particular case. I am still learning when and where best to introduce these techniques. Might need more guidance here.
For this case, I have tried to shorten some of the childhood session and focused more on what happened during the client’s past-life sessions.
I am sharing this case based on how I conducted it at the time, and I genuinely welcome your feedback. I am here to learn, understand and continue improving. Thank you.
Day1 - Session 1
Therapist Intro, Client Inclinations, Pre-Talk
Day 2 - Session 2
Client Vitals : Lyra (name changed),F, 31, 9/10, 3/4, 753,
Theme : Betrayal in Relationships, 8/10, 2/10.
Num of Sessions : 1 - 120 min, 2 - 160 min, 3 - 235 min, 4 - 240 min
History
1. Relationship with Father
Lyra shared that growing up, her relationship with her father was difficult. She described him as controlling, critical and emotionally unpredictable. She also witnessed many conflicts between her parents. During her childhood, she spent much of her time with her grandparents while her mother worked and tried to keep the family together. Watching her mother go through these difficulties also had an impact on her. Lyra learnt to keep her feelings to herself and became cautious when dealing with conflict. She feels that her relationship with her father still affects her confidence, the way she expresses herself and some of the choices she makes today.
2. Personal Relationships
Lyra shared that she has gone through several painful experiences in her relationships, including betrayal, disappointment and broken commitments. One of the most significant experiences was her broken engagement. These experiences have made it difficult for her to fully trust someone, and at times she finds herself questioning her own worth and fearing abandonment. Although she feels she has grown over the years and has learnt to choose herself and set healthier boundaries, she knows there are still some unresolved feelings within her. She hopes to understand these patterns better, heal from past experiences and move forward with greater peace and confidence.
Day 3 - Session 3
Progressive Relaxation, Dave Elman, Ball of Light, Staircase, Garden.
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- 8th birthday. I feel happy, appreciated and cherished.
- Getting ready for kindergarten. Staying with grandparents, missing grandfather.
When asked to compare her childhood self with her present self, client shared:
“She was alone but she didn’t know it. Now I’m alone and I know it.”
She felt heaviness and constriction around her heart and chest, which she associated with dark maroon.
Emotional Memory
Client recalled being around 8 or 9 years old, when she had to part with a maid at her grandfather’s house. She had been very close to the maid, who was like a friend to her. Losing this companionship left her feeling very alone, especially as her parents were busy or dealing with their own problems.
Inner Child Healing
When asked what her younger self needed, client said she needed a hug. She visualised her present self-comforting her younger self and reassuring her:
“I’m there for you.”
She became emotional and shared that her younger self felt calm. She also expressed sadness, saying she had not realised how hurt that little girl was.
Connection to Present Life
Client recognised that she experienced similar sadness whenever her relationships did not work out. She described the feeling as:
“Like I have no one.”
When asked what message she needed to hear, she responded:
“You are there for you… but it’s easier said than done.”
Although she recognised this message, she acknowledged that the sadness and hurt were still present.
Shift and Emotional Release
The sadness was felt around her heart and chest, with the colour changing from burgundy to purple. Through guided breathing and visualisation, she was invited to allow the sadness to transform.
When asked what the sadness wanted to become, she answered:
“Love.”
She was then given time to experience this shift, allowing the feeling of love for herself to spread throughout her body.
Utero
Client sensed the word “Ugly” and felt that it was connected to how her mother may have felt about herself during pregnancy. She recognised this as her mother’s feeling rather than her own. The surrounding environment felt calm, and she described entering this life with hope, happiness and expectations of comfort and luxury.
Message and Self-Care
During the session, the word “Sleep” came to her. As she explored this further, she understood it as a message from her higher self to get proper rest. She acknowledged that she had been compromising on her sleep and realised that she had not been taking good care of herself.
She also received a sensation around her stomach near the navel and recognised the importance of prioritising her sleep and well-being.
Connection with Mother and Self-Image
Client later expressed that she needed to spend more time with her mother, as she felt her mother was lonely too.
The word “Ugly” surfaced again. When seeking guidance, she received the message:
“You are not ugly.”
She initially connected this to her own feelings and shared that the word made her sad. She felt it most around her face, hands and hair.
As she explored this further, she expressed that her inner self was beautiful, but felt that people often failed to see that beauty. She became very emotional and eventually affirmed:
“It’s not for me. I’m beautiful inside and out.”
By repeating this affirmation and bringing awareness to the parts of her body she had identified, she reported feeling more relaxed.
Key shift: Client moved from connecting with the word “Ugly” to recognising and affirming her own beauty, both inside and out. She also became aware of the need to take better care of herself through proper rest and to spend more time with her mother.
Loving Being
Client connected with a presence that felt like her grandfather in his younger years. She received the message:
“Wait, it’s almost time.”
She asked when she would meet her person and understood the message as encouragement to be patient. She also received reassurance that she could reach out to her grandfather whenever she needed, as he was always there for her. She felt happy reconnecting with him.
When exploring her life purpose, she received the message that what was meant for her was coming and that she needed to have patience in all aspects of her life. This left her feeling calmer and more relaxed.
Guidance and Learning
When asked what encouragement she needed, she received:
“Keep going. You will reach your destination.”
Client reflected on the obstacles in her life and received the guidance to write them down and let them go. She visualised writing her top three obstacles on pieces of paper and throwing them into the ocean, allowing the waves to carry them away.
During this exercise, she became emotional, with tears, deep breathing and sighs. Afterwards, she shared that she felt:
“Lighter. I threw it into the ocean.”
Key shift: Client moved from questioning the obstacles in her life and feeling unsure how to overcome them, towards receiving messages of patience, encouragement and letting go. She ended the exercise feeling lighter and calmer.
Client was emerged as per guidelines.
Day 4 - Session 4
Progressive Relaxation, Dave Elman, Ball of Light, Staircase, Garden, PL(x3),LT,CO.
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At around 8 or 9 years old, the client recalled going to a museum with her parents. While completing an activity, she wrote only her own name and did not include her father’s name. Although it was not required, her father became angry when they returned home and kicked and scolded her. He told her that not writing his name meant she did not have a father. The client felt scared, sad and guilty. Although she initially knew it was not a big mistake, her father’s reaction made her believe she had done something terribly wrong. Her mother was present and comforted her, but also told her to write her father’s name next time.
As she connected with this memory, she recognised that this was not an isolated experience. She had often felt that her father turned small matters into big issues, making her feel like a bad child despite trying hard to please him. She shared that she tried to be good and listen, but often felt unable to express her own concerns or make decisions for herself. She felt unheard and constricted.
Belief formed: She came to believe that her parents were always right, that she knew nothing and that she could not make good decisions.
Emotional response: She experienced sadness, fear and guilt, which she felt as a heaviness and knot between her chest and stomach. She initially described the emotion as dark orange.
Shift and release: During the session, she recognised the impact these repeated experiences had on her confidence and decision-making. When asked what she wanted moving forward, she expressed a desire to make better decisions for herself and not rely on others. She also chose to release the unwanted emotional burden. With guidance, she visualised the emotion dissolving through the divine light.
By the end of the process, she reported feeling calmer, and the colour she associated with the emotion had shifted from dark orange to light blue.
Inner Child Healing
T: I want you to take a moment and connect to the younger version of you, growing-up that 8-year-old who had to experience the not so nice side of her father. If you get chance to connect with her, what does this younger version of you need right now?
C: Need someone to just embrace her and say that “its okay…. you got this.”
T: Could you do that to her? If you want, you can kneel down, you can even hold her hand, or even give her a hug.
(Allowed some time here for the younger self to get the assurance from her current self)
T: How is she feeling now?
C: She’s feeling better.
T: As the emotion has been released, what do you understand now about your journey? Why your soul carried this sadness, this guilt, as a child?
C: I felt, in multiple occasion, that I’m not good enough, smart enough.
T: Have you felt the same emotion in your adult life? Is this something you’re still carrying with you?
C: With my work. I just feel that I’m not good enough.
(Client was very emotional while sharing this)
T: Take a moment here to connect with your higher-self. Allow what message you could get about this feeling of not being enough?
C: Don’t stop, keep going.
T: Does the message resonate with you?
C: Kind of.
T: Hold-on to the message/guidance you’ve received.
(Once you were ready to proceed you ask for bio break, book marked the last space.)
PL 1
T: Share with me what comes to your awareness?
C: I see a field, I’m in a black milk-maid dress.
T: Look at your feet. What kind of foot-wear are you wearing? Or none at all?
C: Black shoes.
T: How about your clothing?
C: It’s a black dress.
T: How do you look like? Your skin color, your hair?
C: I have two braids. Not very fair, not very dark.
T: What is your surrounding?
C: It’s like a field and I can see hills nearby. The field has greenery.
T: Is it daytime or nighttime?
C: Daytime.
T: How old are you?
C: 20.
T: Just continue being here and share with me what is happening.
C: I keep seeing a man with a black hat, the olden day hat.
T: Where is he, is he nearby? Could you look at him?
C: Yes he’s nearby. He’s a white man.
T: Are you a white lady too?
C: No, feels like I’m an Aboriginal. Like a native.
T: Do you recognize this man, from your current life?
C: I don’t.
T: That’s perfectly fine. Allow and shares with me what happens, next?
C: He’s just talking to me.
T: Do you know what is he talking to you?
C: No.
T: It’s okay, just take your time. If it’s important, it’ll come to your awareness. What are you feeling in this moment?
C: I’m feeling emotional.
T: What is making you to feel emotional?
C: I feel as though I’m leaving my place. I’m leaving that pretty hills and fields. I’m leaving the place to move with the man.
T: You are leaving your place, how do you feel about that?
C: Scared. I don’t trust the man.
T: Is there anyone else around there?
C: It’s just both of us.
T: How is he behaving towards you? Is he like forcefully taking you?
C: No, he’s just calm and composed. But I don’t trust him. There’s no reason not to trust, but I don’t trust him. It’s just the fields, small cottage, hills. Me and the man.
T: Now let’s continue on this and see what happens next. Do you follow him? What continues from here?
C: No, I can’t see.
T: It’s okay, go to the next significant event from this life. Either you can go forward or backwards. Whatever that is important will come to your awareness.
C: I chose to go with him. Because I don’t have anyone there as well, besides him.
T: Let this scene continue and let it complete. Let’s see what happens to you, once you went with him.
C: He’s not really a bad person. He has brought me to live at the countryside. I still have the braids, but I’m wearing better dresses. Good man, but just that I did not accept him, but he accepted me.
T: Are you married?
C: Can’t see marriage, but yes, staying together. He’s a good man.
T: Do you still feel that he’s nobody from your current life?
C: No, I don’t think he is. He’s a good looking man. I don’t feel like we are a match but he still chose me.
T: He is a good looking man and you are not up to his mark. What does this remind you of, in your current life?
C: My insecurities.
T: Your insecurities…..share with me if there is something specifically you are referring to?
C: I always get this…..not wanting someone better looking than me.
(Client was emotional while sharing this line, it meant something deep for her)
T: What are you carrying from this vision to your current life?
C: Bother too much of what the society thinks, even if he was a good man, I can’t never fully accept it. Because of what others said, that I’m not pretty enough for him. I missed out on a good man. Because of my insecurities.
T: What did you start believing from this moment?
C: No matter what, the society is going to say all kind of things about you. So, what I think and the other person think matters the most.
T: What is the learning here?
C: Missed out on a good man because of what the society thinks.
(Upon emerging, you shared that this experience brought awareness to a pattern you have also experienced in your current life. You recognised that when considering a relationship or proposal, you have often felt a block around being with someone who you felt was better looking than you, due to your own insecurities and concerns about how others may perceive the relationship.)
T: Let’s just go to the next significant event in that life.
C: I’m there with him, but I couldn’t fully accept it. We had no children. He’s truthful, but I never trusted him. Because he was a good-looking man.
T: This means you’re insecurity was there, throughout?
C: Yes. Never fully accepted of him
LT
T: Let’s go just moments before your last breath.
C: He’s still there with me till my last breath.
T: How old are you here?
C: 70.
T: What is the reason of your passing?
C: Old age.
T: What are your final thought before you take your last breath?
C: I say I am sorry, we should have lived a better life.
T: You feel guilty towards him or towards yourself?
C: Guilty….sad.
T: If you had a last wish, what would it be?
C: To have a better life with him again.
T: I want you to just float above the scene and take your last breath. Leave that body of the 70-year-old. What do you notice, now? How do you feel, leaving that body?
C: Calmer.
T: What is the surrounding here?
C: I see him holding my hand and crying, he’s old too.
T: How do you feel seeing him crying…..being sincere to you throughout his life. He misses you, when you’re no longer there.
C: I feel sad that I’ve left him alone.
T: As you shared earlier you sense insecurity and guilt from this lifetime. Where do you notice all this in your body?
C: My heart and my skin, I think.
T: Would you like to keep holding-on to it, or allow to release, whatever feels right for you?
C: I want to release it.
T: If your soul could release it, how would it want to do it?
C: I just want it to be sucked-out.
T: Now, allow that emotion to release from you, through your breath, this insecurity/guilt, has served its time. It doesn’t belong to you anymore.
T: Is this insecurity/guilt/sadness had a colour, what would it be?
C: Black.
T: Now, allow that colour black to fade/dissolve or turn into light.
(As we were releasing this unwanted emotion you suddenly said that “I think I know him”)
T: You know him here?
C: Yeah.
T: Who is he?
C: He’s the first guy I dated…… (After long silence you said) “He doesn’t look the same.”
T: What makes you feel, it’s him?
C: The demeanour……tall, height. But they look different.
T: Look into his eyes. Is it him, how do you feel?
C: Yes its him.
T: If you had a chance to connect back with his soul, what would you want to say to him?
C: I’m sorry. I didn’t see the truth.
T: Just take your time and utter whatever you feel you want to, silently to him.
C: He’s just calm, listening and accepting to what I’m saying.
T: How do you feel? That you got a chance to do this?
C: Less guilt and less sadness.
Note: After allowing some quiet time, you transitioned naturally and spontaneously into another lifetime, where you began to see yourself wearing a red sari.
PL2
C: I see myself in a red sari. Very curvaceous, sultry-looking.
T: You’re seeing your current self or in another lifetime?
C: Another lifetime.
T: How old are you?
C: 18 or 20. I’m in India this time. And I’m very confident of how I look. A lot of admirers, a lot of approach from men. Yet I know they don’t want any commitments. They are just in for a good time, don’t want to settle down. They see me as a pass time. Because the way I dress and the way I look. They assume I am just something for a past time.
T: Does anyone stood-out, from this many people?
C: No. I feel very cautious.
T: What is making you to feel that way?
C: I feel that they just want to sleep with me.
T: Is there anyone with you?
C: I see a friend. He’s a friend in this life, and also in that life.
T: Would you want to say his name?
C: D. He’s not alive anymore. He was very protective towards me.
(You were feeling emotional while sharing this)
T: Sorry for your lost…….what is he doing there with you?
C: He protects me like a sister. Keeps away all the wrong people from coming near me.
T: Sounds like he is in a similar role, being a protective friend?
C: Yeah.
T: What is the surrounding? What kind of place are you in?
C: In a village.
T: Would you know what year or era is this?
C: Looks like 1800s. I’m too bold to be a villager. That’s why they look at me in a different way. I’m not like the other girls.
T: Bold in what sense?
C: The way I dress. The colors that I use. They find it very seductive and that I might not be a typical, proper girl. Like not a proper, traditional, wife.
T: That’s what they feel but how do you feel about yourself?
C: I feel confident with long beautiful hair.
T: Now, let’s continue and go to a significant event in this lifetime. Share with me what comes to your awareness.
C: I see a marriage broken.
T: How old are you?
C: 25. My father has no enough money to pay for the wedding. So, the person decided he doesn’t want me as well.
T: Take a moment and try to connect with your father, with the person who you’re supposed to get married to. Do you recognize them from this lifetime?
C: No I don’t.
T: How are you feeling in this moment? What emotions are there?
C: I’m broken. But I’m still a strong woman. (feeling emotional while saying this) I don’t see myself getting married in that life.
T: Are you seeing yourself, older now?
C: Yes.
T: What age?
C: 80.
LT
T: Is this towards your last breath?
C: Yeah.
T: What is the last thought you’re having right now?
C: I still don’t trust men. I was alone, strong and did everything alone to my last breath.
T: Now, this emotion of you not trusting men, where is it coming from?
C: Being cheated. Choosing the wrong guy, by thinking he’s the right one.
T: And do you recognize this person, from your current life?
C: I think I do but I’m not sure.
T: It’s okay. If you have to guess, who would it be?
C: X
T: Is this the guy you were supposed to get married to?
C: No.
T: Now, this feeling of not trusting men. Have you felt the same emotion in this life?
C: Yes. The first guy I dated, the last guy I dated and also my ex. In the end he is someone I couldn’t trust as well. My ex-fiancé.
T: Now, just notice this recurring feeling/emotion that you can’t trust. Where do you notice this the most, in your body?
C: In my heart. It’s very heavy.
T: You’re holding on a lot, in your heart.
C: SO MUCH OF FEAR. THAT I WILL ALWAYS BE BETRAYED AND THEY ALWAYS DO.
T: Let’s acknowledge this fear of betrayal you have. Which is very prominent in your current life. You’re doing well, by recognizing this fear, from that life to your current life. Does it carry the same emotional vibration?
C: It feels the same
T: You feel it’s the same. Does this mean this could be the root cause for the feeling of betrayal?
(Note: After the question was asked, you remained silent for some time. I allowed the silence to continue, while noticing that you appeared emotional through your facial expressions, as though you were experiencing or processing something internally.)
T: Remember, this is something which you’ve already lived before. It has already served a purpose in that lifetime. You no longer have to carry that into your current life. Let it be there, release it in that life.
C: How can I do that?
T: Since your soul have shown you this vision today, it probably means there is something you’re carrying from this vision. What color does this emotion feel like?
C: Brown. I’m having a headache at the back of my head.
T: Once you are ready let’s release this emotion which is carrying the color brown.
(We spend some time here allowing you to visualizing, this unwanted energy dissolving and leaving your body)
T: Now I want you to bring your awareness to this discomfort/headache. Get the understanding. Is it coming due to there’s a lot which you’re experiencing? Or is there anything deeper associated with it?
C: It’s coming from the second past life.
T: What happened? Where do you have this pain?
C: I died because I had a fall and hit the back of my head.
T: Have you felt this same discomfort in your current life?
C: On and off. When I have headaches.
T: SMT. How do you feel now?
C: Better.
T: What message or lesson, you feel this life wants to give you?
C: Not all men are bad. But you really have to check first.
T: How is this connected to your current life?
C: I keep choosing the wrong guy.
T: What does this message means to you?
C: I need to be extra cautious.
T: Now, continue being in this space. You already got one message that all men are not bad. What more you need to know?
Note: As we continue to explore here you transitioned naturally into another lifetime, where you began to see yourself as a dancer in Asian country.
PL3
C: I see some Asian countries. China, Japan or Vietnam. I see a dancer, like, the Chinese opera or Japanese dancer. With a lot of makeup. I see a soldier, with the army uniform.
T: You’re the dancer or the soldier?
C: Dancer. I see the soldier as well.
T: How old are you?
C: I feel 16.
T: What is the surrounding?
C: I’m in a place like a palace.
T: What do you do there?
C: I dance. I’m a traditional dancer.
T: Do you stay in the palace?
C: Yes and there are other dancers with me.
T: Do you recognize anyone? Anyone stands-out?
C: My friends. (You sounded so happy here) My best friends.
T: Friends from current life?
C: Yeah
T: What are their names?
C: x, y, and z. these are all my dance class friends.
T: How do you feel that you get to connect back with them?
C: Very nice and fun. I enjoyed what we did together.
T: Does it remind you of anything in your current life? Especially where the dance is concern, are you attracted to any of this?
C: Yeah. I’m a Bharatanatyam dancer in current life.
T: What year or era is this?
C: Late 1700s or early 1800s.
T: You were mentioning earlier about that soldier. What about him? Is he there with you?
C: Yeah.
T: What he does in the palace?
C: He’s a Japanese soldier.
T: How is he connected in this vision?
C: I like him.
T: Do you recognize him?
C: No. I don’t.
T: Just allow for this scene to be complete. See what happens next.
C: He goes to a war and he never comes back. I am sad but I know he went for the country, so, I am ok. I spend my days dancing with my friends.
T: Now, let’s continue from here to the next significant event, in this lifetime.
C: I became a dance teacher.
T: How old are you now?
C: Late 40s or early 50s. Not married.
T: You are not married here, how do you feel about it?
C: In this life, I feel okay. I don’t feel betrayed because the guy went to fight for the country. And I was content in doing what I do. Teaching the art. It’s beautiful. (Voice trembling slightly)
T: Something is making you feel emotional. What are you feeling at this moment?
C: Teaching the art was very content. Gave me satisfaction. In this life I wasn’t alone, even if I wasn’t married. I have the children that I taught, and my friends. I didn’t feel very alone. Didn’t feel too sad, although the man I like went away.
T: Now, if this scene has a message for you, what would it be?
C: I’m not alone, you have to look around.
T: How does it resonate with your current life? Or what does it remind you of?
C: THERE ARE PEOPLE AROUND. MAYBE I JUST DON’T SEE THEM THAT THEY’RE THERE FOR ME. NOT TO THINK THAT I AM ALL ALONE ALL THE TIME.
T: This is an important message for you. Hold on to this message. Let it settle-in with you.
(After letting the silence hang for a moment, we moved on.)
T: Let’s move to a next significant event in this life. Share with me what comes to your awareness.
LT
C: I died at 60. Feeling happy, surrounded by the children I have taught.
T: This lifetime you’re leaving with happy emotions.
C: Yes I was more than happy.
T: You’ve visited few lifetimes. What insight feels most important from today’s session?
C: THERE ARE CONTENTMENT IN OTHER THINGS IN LIFE. NOT JUST IN MARRIAGE.
T: How does this shift? How you view your life today?
C: It’s happy and peaceful, even if I’m not married.
T: Does this mean that you’re ready to accept that you can be happy even if there’s no marriage?
C: Maybe. But I want a marriage. If it happens.
T: What quality or energy do you want to bring into your life now?
C: RESILIENCE AND BOLDNESS FROM MY SECOND LIFE. ABILITY TO TRUST MORE, FROM MY FIRST LIFE.
T: What is the recurring pattern you feel you’ve been carrying from the 3 lives into your current life?
C: My distrust in men. That comes strongly.
T: What would you like to do about the insights which you’ve received?
C: To give that person a chance and get to know them fully also overcome my insecurities.
T: We have left behind and released whatever was not wanted, understanding that whatever it was, it served its purpose. Moving forward, carry the positivity and the new you.
(Here I checked with you, if you are okay for us to continue further but you replied saying “I feel that I’m got my answers.
Loving Being
T: Would you describe who or what did you connect with?
C: It feels like a spiritual light, golden light near the beach.
T: That’s great….If this golden light could give you a message, what would it be?
C: You already know what to do. Just start doing.
T: How does it resonates with you?
C: Everything will work out.
T: What does your soul or your higher-self wants you to know about your current path?
C: Choose what your heart wants. It knows.
T: That’s good, let your heart guide you. What feels different about the issue you came in with?
C: I THINK I GOT MY ANSWERS.
T: That’s wonderful. Let it stay with you. Would you want to be in this space a little longer before I bring you out?
C: No.
Emerged as per guidelines
Upon emerging you felt that experiencing the 3rd lifetime was particularly meaningful for you at this stage of your life. It was a lifetime where you got to relax and felt happy reconnecting with dance and being around your friends.
Integration
- You have begun to recognise how fear of betrayal, insecurity and past relationship disappointments may influence the way you approach relationships today.
- When feelings of loneliness arise, remember your own words: “There are people around. Maybe I just don’t see them.” Give yourself the opportunity to recognise and receive support.
- Carry forward the qualities you identified during the sessions: resilience, boldness, greater trust and the willingness to understand someone before deciding whether they are right for you.
Closure
- Take the messages that resonated most deeply with you — “You are there for you,” “You are beautiful inside and out,” and “Choose what your heart wants” — as reminders you can return to when you need them.
Report & Recommendation
- Full report send to client via email.
- When considering a potential partner, give yourself time to know the person through their actions, consistency, values and intentions, rather than making decisions based primarily on appearance, insecurity or others’ opinions.
