Hi my fellow soulmates,
I am new to PLRT and I don’t have any background in psychology. I would like to get some inputs for my question.
I have tried regressing 4 men in this past 3 months time. During the session, when I ask, let us go to some happy memories. None of this 4 men were able to recollect any incidents. Keep on nudging them, helped to recollect some memories- again it is their memory of achievement. But when I regress women, they are able to go to some happy memories. I tried regressing both my boys ( 10 and 16 year old) and they could recollect some happy memories.
Why were those men couldn’t recollect any happy memories? Though before induction, they speak good about their life generally. No happy childhood memories. No mischiefs with their friends, family members, any happy gatherings, moment when they became father, moment when they married their lover…I am very stunned, why they don’t think those moments as happy at their subconscious level, but at conscious level they do mention those moments.
Does happiness equals to achievements according to men? I shouldn’t generalize, but at subconscious level is that the truth?
Why even a simple term, every day we mention it lot of time, but even with this single word happiness- there is a stark contract in thought process between conscious and subconscious level? What is the truth?
What we see at subconscious level is the truth or is it the conditioning of the mind?
Can someone please help me to understand this?
Very good question my blessed @devithiagarajan, I too have wondered at this phenomenon and glad you brought it up for discussion.
Being in a male body, I can stipulate that may be men are wired to be transactional, while women are emotional. Men are go getter and women are nurturers, the adaptive traits which preserves the species?
While I’d fall back on the mothers in this forum to answer from their point of view.
My humble experience as a PLR therapist has been that the so called achievements of the world doesn’t come up in these elicitations.
It did come to me as a shock, that people at the helm of achievements never come back with the moments when they might have achieved something really big in the world. Just look at Tru mp 
what could be his happiest moment? They are sad and that fear of sadness makes them get out of bed and create the chaos.
I’ll run a data analysis on all the cases I have and come back to highlight a pattern.
But on a very high level, these mostly turn out to be relationships… having that someone with whom they could share the joy. Being a human, most people are chasing someone else’s dreams and upon achieving them seems they see them to be so hollow…
It’s mostly the small uncomplicated joys that count…
@devithiagarajan In my HO- From early life, many men are conditioned to suppress emotional vulnerability. Happiness, joy, sorrow and love- These emotions are often labeled “feminine” to express deeply.
As they say in India “Mard ko dard nahi hota” and “why are you crying like girls”!!
So mostly men’s experiences are dominated by responsibility rather than pleasure. So may be that could be the reason. I’m not sure, this is my personal observation!!
I am in agreement with this. Expression of happy moment has a emotional quotient rather than transactional .
@devithiagarajan Insightful question … it’s possible those men’s subconscious minds associate safety and value with achievement rather than emotion. Society often teaches men to suppress feelings, so their “happy memories” get tied to success, not simple joy.
In my opinion this could be because even at the helm of achievements the person is looking at achieving even more which they think could bring in happiness and hence the moment of experiencing happiness is pushed forward with every achievement. The true essence of happiness is celebrating every smallest of small achievements and acknowledging every speck of joy.