At some point in life, a quiet question begins to surface…
Not out loud…
Not dramatically…
But persistently…
“Why does this keep happening to me?”
Different faces.
Different situations.
Different timelines.
And yet…..
the same emotional experience.
The same disappointment.
The same conflict.
The same feeling of being unseen, unsafe or unfulfilled…
Why ?..
may be …may be …
life… in its own way… keeps bringing similar situations—
not to hurt you again,
but to give you another chance to respond differently.
Not from habit…
but from awareness.
That’s why the question
“Why does this keep happening to me?”
slowly evolves into something more powerful:
“What is this trying to teach me about myself?”
And even deeper…
“What part of me is ready to change now?”
and when the I dissolves in to the ever existing SELF which is just the Observer…
when we try to look for that somebody/something on whose behalf
I the dreamer keeps on saying…My Body …my head…my mind …(we never say I body …I head…I mind !!!)
then the magic begins…
thank you for this wonderful ponder !!!
Dear @Monesh_Bathre ji 
,
Instead of bombarding too many question to thought , just ask who is this question for ?
The moment when you ask this question , you are looking it from Ego perspective then how I dissolves. The moment you have this question, it is (become an AI memory) transferred to your body and you starts getting experience on body and which in turn become any psychosomatic issues (when it was originated in your thoughts only).
Everyone has this mentality that we have come here to learn something , We are not here to learn anything new rather remember something which was lost during the vast process of eons of birth-death cycle.
Thoughts are powerful than words.
Power ranking
Thought >Idea>Words>Actions
Hope you got the idea 
Dear @san.kumars
That’s an interesting perspective, and I can see where you’re coming from—especially the emphasis on “who is this question for?” and the idea of moving beyond the ego. There’s definitely truth in the fact that excessive mental questioning can sometimes keep us looping within the same identity we’re trying to transcend.
At the same time, I feel questions like “What is this trying to teach me?” or “What part of me is ready to change?” are not necessarily ego traps—they can also act as bridges. For many people, awareness doesn’t arise instantly; it unfolds gradually. In that journey, such questions can gently shift one from unconscious patterns toward deeper observation.
Perhaps it’s not about the question itself, but the space from which it is asked. If it comes from restlessness, it may reinforce the ego. But if it arises from stillness, it can dissolve into the very inquiry you mentioned—“Who is this for?”
Also, the idea that we are here to “remember” rather than “learn” resonates deeply. Maybe both are just different expressions of the same process—what appears as learning at the surface may actually be remembering at a deeper level.
And yes, thoughts are powerful—but awareness of thought is even more powerful. That silent witnessing you pointed to… that’s where everything begins to shift.
and my all time fall back to is here
Appreciate you sharing this—it adds another dimension to the reflection.
Wishes and Regards
@Monesh_Bathre ji true.
The point is
Above question becomes ego less trap only when you bypass it, remember our training sessions , when we are in deep trance then only we are able to get the answer but still it’s not the solution then our mind brings object and person from subconscious and/or superconcious to get solution.
However, when a person is in absolute stillness then nothing comes to his/her mind.
Just like when we drop a stone on pond of water , it produces waves and the amount of time the waves are present depends upon what we do with pond of water. When the pond water is in still and we are not disturbing it , then how come waves are produced.
Similarly,in stillness without a thought , chitha vrittis will not be present.
Even inNan yaar books also Shri Ramana Maharshi told that, when you are not in stillness and you ask the question “To whom are these questions being asked?” Mind goes back to super source which is absolute stillness. When mind becomes stillness , then no thought arises.
When you are sleeping does all these questions arises ? If it arises then you are not sleeping !
Jai Shree Ram
Arunachal Shivaya Namaha
Why does this keep happening to me?”
Dearest @kobrakulsh mata ji,
Ask these question
“Who is this question for ?”
And yet…..
the same emotional experience.
The same disappointment.
The same conflict.
The same feeling of being unseen, unsafe or unfulfilled…
Why ?..
If all are giving you same experience then what’s the benefit of realising to respond differently. Instead, simply sit back and relax what you are going through.
சும்மா இரு, சொல் அற
அம்மா பொருள் ஒன்றும் அறிந்திலனே
The more you question like
*Why ?
why me ?
why it’s happening to me ? *
The more you get same experience (quoting this from my own life experiences, today also I had this thought) the moment you realised a thought came and once you acknowledge it, it gets us distracted-> you lost . Instead, you recognise the thought and give any response like this below
My Beloved @san.kumars very interesting perspectives.
Nevertheless we must remember that all of us are pointing fingers at the same moon, using our own fingers and calling it what ever name we are accustomed to.
You are in a different mood, which is not so easily attainable to people who are stuck in the demands of day to day life. Our realised masters had worked on this paradox as well, and called it Supreme truth (Paramarthika Satya) beyond name and form, and a lower or mundane truth (Vyavaharika Satya), circumscribed by name and form…
Having read the works of Sri Ramakrishna and Sri Ramana we see that though rooted in the Paramrthika Satya, they were extremely compassionate towards those in Vyavaharika Satya…
Compassion, Love is the sing of enlightenment…
having said that I’m so elated to witness how our beloved Monesh @Monesh_Bathre has come so far away from the one who had asked something in these lines earlier to
an enlightened one who has so beautifully found his way out and guiding someone as enlightened as our beloved Supu, @kobrakulsh
I feel all you Jnani’s are discussing these to enlighten an ignorant person stuck in Maya like me. 
@Monesh…..
I feel like you have literally stepped inside my sessions and listened to what unfolds there every single day.
This exact shift….. from
“Why is this happening to me?”
to
“What is this trying to show me?”
this is the moment where something real begins.
Honestly, this is what most of my clients come with..… not just as a question, but as a quiet exhaustion.
Different stories, different people..… but the same emotional loop playing underneath. And somewhere between their sharing, there comes a pause…..
a very raw, vulnerable pause..…
where they almost whisper,
“Why does this keep repeating…”
And I have also noticed..… the moment they stop fighting the pattern and start looking at it with awareness, something softens. Not because the situation changes instantly….. but because they are no longer the same inside it.
Life brings similar situations not to hurt, but to offer a different response..… I see this unfolding so beautifully in sessions. It’s almost like life is patient….. it keeps knocking with the same lesson….. just waiting for us to open the door differently this time.
About dissolving into the observer is where things become very still. Very real.
Because then it is no longer about fixing the story..… it is about seeing who is the one experiencing the story.
And strangely….. in this seeing….. a lot of the suffering loses its grip.
Thank you for putting this so simply yet so deeply
It’s exactly the space so many people are standing at….. they just don’t always have the words for it.
Dear @kobrakulsh
Thank you so much for the kind words. Do let me know when I can step into your studio and receive a few good learnings. I am not sure if you too reside in Pune.
Thank you and regards.
You have been doing some amazing healings. May masters keep blessing you.
Monesh
Maybe it keeps happening because something within me hasn’t shifted yet, not in awareness, but in choice. I can see it, feel it and still linger a little longer than I should. So is this really about the people I meet or the part of me that hasn’t fully walked away from, that doesn’t honor me anymore and if I already know the feeling, recognize the signs, sense the misalignment early, then what am I waiting for? what is it that I still need to release? or finally accept, before I choose differently without hesitation.
May be it’s not a lack of awareness, may be it’s the moment between awareness and action where I pause. So what I might still be releasing is not people or situations, but the ‘hesitation’ to honour my knowings without negotiating with it.
Beautifully said Harmeet…..
maybe it’s not about learning more, but trusting yourself enough to not pause anymore..… this tiny gap between knowing and choosing…may be this is where everything shifts.