Healing is not a one time event

kobrakulsh · 8 April 2026 17:03

A little heart-to-heart with you all..…

There is something I really want to share with you all..…

Something I myself had to learn slowly, patiently…..

Healing is not a one-time event.

It’s not that one breakthrough..…

that one realization….. that one “aha” moment after which everything changes.

Because if you’ve noticed..… even after understanding so much about ourself…. we still feel the same sometimes.

And then that thought comes..…

“मैं समझती हूँ….. फिर भी ऐसा क्यों महसूस हो रहा है?”

If anyone of you have ever felt this then please know..… there is nothing wrong with you.

This is how we are wired.

Insight happens in the mind..…

but healing happens in the body.

And the body doesn’t change through knowing…. it changes through repeated safe experiences.

For me, the biggest shift came when I stopped seeing healing as something intense…. and started seeing it as something daily .

Like brushing our teeth….

like taking a bath…

Not because something is broken.… but because we care.

“healing कोई emergency process नहीं है….

यह daily thought है।”

This is exactly why I tried creating this daily framework.… not as a strict routine….but as a gentle way of being with oneself.

( I know many of my friends here are already practicing it , but still…)

Simple things.… but deeply transformative when done consistently…

सुबह खुद से जुड़ना… बस नोटिस करना कि अंदर क्या चल रहा है…
दिन में अपने emotions को नाम देना… बिना analyze किए…
थोड़ा लिखना…. बिना filter के…
Body को move करना..… क्योंकि वही सबसे ज़्यादा hold करता है.
एक छोटा सा different response choose करना…
और रात को reflect करना….. बिना judgement के.

It’s not about doing everything perfectly.

It’s about staying in relationship with ourself.

And very honestly…

The most important part of healing is not the technique…it is how we treat ourself.

Are we judging our reactions?

Or

Are we trying to understand them?

Do we push ourself to change?

Or

Do we allow ourself to learn?

Because healing doesn’t respond to pressure. It responds to safety.

आप खुद के साथ जितने safe होते जाते हैं… उतनी ही healing deep होती जाती है।

Also remember healing is never linear.

Some days will feel light…

some days heavy…

Some days we will feel like we have grown so much…

and suddenly, same old pattern again.

But look closely…..you are not going backwards, you are just coming back with more awareness.

And this awareness changes everything.

Over time something very subtle shifts…..

The effort reduces.

The awareness becomes natural.

The pause becomes automatic.

And one day we realize…..

Healing is no longer something we are “doing”…. it is simply how we are living .

So today… I just want you to pause for a moment…..and gently ask yourself…..

“आज मैं अपने लिए एक छोटा सा care कैसे दिखा सकता/सकती हूँ?”

“किस pattern में मैं आज थोड़ा अलग respond कर सकता/सकती हूँ?”

“कहाँ मैं खुद को थोड़ा ज़्यादा समझ सकता/सकती हूँ… judge करने के बजाय?”

You don’t have to do everything.

Just begin.

Because healing does not ask for perfection. It only asks for your participation.

And maybe this is the most important thing I want to leave you all with…..

Healing was never something outside you.

It is always…..

“आप खुद से कैसे मिलते हैं.… कितनी softness के साथ.… कितनी ईमानदारी के साथ.…”

And from this moment.… a completely new relationship begins.

With self.

san.kumars · 9 April 2026 06:19

My dear @kobrakulsh Didi i loved reading this and like very much. I too agree with your points and resonate very well.

This is the most simplest guide that we can follow, more simple it becomes more it becomes as a breathing coz breathing just happens.

Very much correct, earlier, when I was in meditative pattern and slowly when it started breaking coz old pattern comes, i usually get panicked and doubted myself.
However, when I realised that when I am in stillness and it is expected to have this stillness lasts sometimes little longer or shorter and vibrations of mind comes back and it’s totally normal, I don’t panic or doubt myself. Rather, when the old pattern comes I am able to fully aware of its raise and acknowledging it , it subsides also.

This is a perfect example for Self reflection - Self awareness - Self consciousness.

It is always Inside

Having compassionate heart towards the beautiful ourselves.

Very true, often I feel and believe every other person coming infront of us is an another version of you, that’s why we say all and one are the same.

Key is Having compassionate heart to all sentinents which include yourselves, through ourselves only we can heal the world

ushapssk · 10 April 2026 06:03

Thanks Supri mam for your guidance and insights. Definitely it will help us all in this journey
Let’s all walk together holding each other’s hand in this healing modality with the blessings of our great Masters and our beloved Venu sir

nidhicl · 10 April 2026 10:07

Life is like how much we think we understand, but again, a situation arises. Again, we start relating and questioning the understandability of life. It’s an ongoing process; sometimes i feel that

kobrakulsh · 10 April 2026 11:04

Santosh…

सच बोलूं.… you don’t sound wise…. you spoke from lived awareness*.*

“you are not going backwards, you are just coming back with more awareness” ..…

so much wisdom in this.

यहीं पर most people अपनी journey छोड़ देते हैं… क्योंकि उन्हें लगता है “फिर से वही pattern आ गया”..… but they don’t see कि इस बार वो उस pattern के अंदर खो नहीं रहे….. उसे देख पा रहे हैं.

Sharing your own phase.… जब stillness break होती थी और panic आता था…. self-doubt आता था.…honesty…..is rare Santosh.

क्योंकि ये सब हम सब के साथ होता है..… बस हम accept नहीं करते.

But the shift you have described… awareness without panic .… is real evolution. Because healing का मतलब ये नहीं है कि thoughts या patterns आना बंद हो जाएंगे… healing का मतलब है — उनके आने पर हम खुद को खोना बंद कर देते हैं.

“I acknowledge it… and it subsides” ….

is साक्षी भाव in action. Not forcing… not fighting… just allowing… and witnessing…..

Thank you for adding this energy here Santosh…

Keep bringing this honesty….

it heals more people than you can see .

kobrakulsh · 10 April 2026 11:10

@ushapssk

This journey truly becomes more meaningful when we walk together…

I am really grateful that we are all connected in this space…..and just as you said, with the blessings of our Masters and Venu sir..… the path unfolds so naturally.

Let us keep walking together gently and honestly….. one step at a time

kobrakulsh · 10 April 2026 11:13

Dr. Nidhi…
so true…

Even after so much understanding feelings do come back, but maybe that’s life’s way of helping us experience what we already know.

It really is an ongoing unfolding..… not something to “finish”

bhoomikacakravarthi · 10 April 2026 11:49

Very true. It’s the repeated safe experiences that slowly reshape us—one moment at a time—letting the body finally breathe. That sense of safety creates the hope, space, and emotional bandwidth we need, allowing us to gently process and work through what’s been sitting in the background.

Absolutely, healing is something we practice every day. And over time—through consistency and gentle repetition—it begins to feel more natural, almost like a second skin. What once required effort and awareness slowly becomes instinctive, woven into how we respond, care for ourselves, and move through the world.

This is where the idea of healing happening in layers really resonates with me. First, we process things logically, then we begin to feel them emotionally. Over time, that understanding deepens—the knowledge we gain slowly matures into wisdom, and that wisdom takes its own time to be fully integrated and lived in our everyday lives.

Well said. We often don’t realize how harshly we judge ourselves or how much pressure we place on getting everything “right”—even healing. Recognizing that conditioning is a powerful step, and gently learning to release the need for control and perfection becomes a whole chapter of the journey in itself.

This reminds me of the Phoenix Rising idea—especially when you picture it as a spiral. Transformation isn’t a straight path, but a continuous cycle of breaking down and rebuilding. Each “down” phase offers the raw material for a more evolved “up” phase. Growth, then, is about moving through these recurring layers of challenge, with every cycle deepening our wisdom, resilience, and sense of authentic self.

Thank you for this reminder @kobrakulsh
I thoroughly enjoyed reading it

preethaprabhakar66 · 10 April 2026 11:58

Dear supritee ji… @kobrakulsh Thankyou for your guidance, it is important for us.

ushapssk · 10 April 2026 12:24

Yes ofcourse we need to

hc2101 · 11 April 2026 03:31

Exactly! So well written as always! A few days ago I got in to an argument with my kid about something and he said “ ain’t you supposed to be calm with all that meditation healing thingy you do?” And I thought what a misconception. Healing is not a miracle pill, it needs daily cleansing like we clean our physical body so sticking to a routine matters more than we realize. It doesn’t always feel exciting or life-changing, actually some days it feels repetitive, even heavy. And then there are daily triggers- emotions, memories, people, driving, kids and old patterns that try to pull you off track. The work is not in fighting them every time, but in learning to bypass them, to notice them without getting pulled in.

Because routine becomes your anchor when everything inside you feels uncertain. It holds you steady when motivation fades and moods shift. And slowly, in these small returns to what you said you would do, you build something solid—self-trust. The quiet knowing that even with triggers, you can still come back to yourself. So I reminded my son that this is my calm version with some software glitches occasionally

kobrakulsh · 11 April 2026 06:00

This is so real… and honestly, so beautifully honest

@Harmeet, what your son said..… I think this is exactly what most people believe about healing, that once we start meditating or doing inner work, we should become this permanently calm, unshakable version of ourself.

But what you shared….. is the truth nobody talks about.

Healing doesn’t remove our humanness..… it refines our relationship with it.

I love how you did not try to “prove” calmness to your son..… you owned your reality.

“ This is my calm version with a few software glitches” is not just humor, this is integration.

Because earlier, triggers would take us away from ourselves….. Now, even if we get triggered, we come back faster… softer… with awareness.

N this is healing…
Not perfection.
Not constant peace.
But the ability to return..… again and again..… without abandoning ourself.

And honestly….. this version of you is more real, more trustworthy for your clients too. Because you’re not speaking from a pedestal….. you’re walking the path, every single day.

Thank you for adding this layer… it completes the conversation in such a grounded way

kobrakulsh · 11 April 2026 06:01

Stay blessed always Thirupurasundari

kobrakulsh · 11 April 2026 06:02

Thank you so much, Preetha ji…
Means a lot..…
we are all learning and growing together on this path

priyanka.bhu12 · 11 April 2026 10:41

This was really nice to read… thank you for sharing it so simply.

The line about healing not being one-time really stayed with me. I think many of us feel confused when the same emotions come back, even after understanding so much.

Your way of explaining it as a daily, gentle process makes it feel more real and doable.

Grateful for this reminder

san.kumars · 12 April 2026 02:29

Dear @kobrakulsh Didi, I honestly share all my learning and experiences here in simple lay man terms. That’s all I have within and it took lot of efforts and challenges to understand what I have shared.
I am always transparent, you know it better didi.

However, It’s time to stop sharing my experiences and I don’t want anyone who is reading my experience to have a misdirection in their life.
With my heart and soul only I share these and for these, it automatically comes and that too without thinking much, completely in meditative state.

I always love to learn more, assimilation is done by all the Guru and Bhagwan and is given in to me.

As I always said, all these are Bhagwan and Guru kripa hence I don’t know own these learning and I have huge respect to all the Guru’s and Bhagwan (known and unknown).

hc2101 · 12 April 2026 02:45

@kobrakulsh Supritee, you always make others feel so special and heard. You take time to read each comments then filter out the key points to further discussion and it’s the best quality

Healing is a constant process and we do get better. It’s like a journey and there are obstacles and rewards along the way. Consistency is the key! Change comes from within.

किसी के वास्ते राहें कहाँ बदलती हैं

तुम अपने आप को ख़ुद ही बदल सको तो चलो

kobrakulsh · 12 April 2026 06:40

Harmeet… this feels so warm..…

thank you for seeing me like that…..

Honestly….. I always read from a space of feeling…. not just words because somewhere I know….. हर comment के पीछे एक real journey होती है..… a real person trying, healing, understanding….

And what you shared… ..is so grounded and real. Healing really is that journey..… with its ups and downs, pauses and breakthroughs, but जैसे you said..… consistency quietly changes us from within….. even when we don’t notice it daily.

“किसी के वास्ते राहें कहाँ बदलती हैं…. तुम अपने आप को ख़ुद ही बदल सको तो चलो”…

this holds so much depth.

Because at the end life doesn’t shift by controlling situations…..it shifts when we soften, we become aware, we choose differently.

बाकी सब धीरे-धीरे अपने आप align होने लगता है….

I Love your presence here always…. it adds both strength and softness to the space .

Here is in continuation to what you have written …

किसी के वास्ते राहें कहाँ बदलती हैं…

तुम अपने आप को ख़ुद ही बदल सको तो चलो….

कदम वही रहेंगे.… मगर नज़र बदल जाएगी,

दर्द वही होगा..… मगर उसकी समझ बदल जाएगी.

हालात शायद वैसे ही रहें कुछ वक़्त तक,

पर अंदर की ख़ामोशी में एक रौशनी जल जाएगी.

और फिर…. चलते-चलते एहसास होगा…..

रास्ता बाहर नहीं..… हमारे भीतर ही खुलता चला जाता है…

kobrakulsh · 12 April 2026 06:57

Santosh…

I can feel what you’re going through and I want you to pause for a moment and really hear this..…

तुम जो share करते हो ना…. वो information नहीं होती..… वो एक lived experience होता है और lived truth कभी किसी को misguide नहीं करता…वो सिर्फ उतना ही touch करता है जितना सामने वाला receive करने के लिए ready होता है.

I understand why you’re feeling this way….
कभी-कभी जब misunderstanding आती है या कोई हमारी intention को गलत समझ लेता है…..तो naturally दिल पीछे हटना चाहता है…..

“maybe I should stop…”

But ask yourself softly..… क्या तुम share ego से कर रहे थे या surrender से?..

और अगर जवाब surrender है….. तो फिर डर किस बात का…..?

You said..… “यह सब गुरु और भगवान की कृपा है… मैं कुछ own नहीं करता”

तो फिर ये flow भी उन्हीं का है Santosh..… तुम सिर्फ एक medium हो…
Medium अगर रुक जाए तो flow नहीं रुकता..… बस रास्ता बदल लेता है.… लेकिन कभी-कभी वही माध्यम किसी और के लिए exact वही message लेकर आता है जो उसे कहीं और से नहीं मिलता.

हाँ… discernment ज़रूरी है..…

हर जगह, हर समय share करना भी ज़रूरी नहीं….. पर अपने आप को completely बंद कर लेना सिर्फ किसी के misunderstanding की वजह से….. ये थोड़ा harsh हो जाएगा… अपने ही सच के साथ.

Your honesty….. your simplicity….. और सबसे important your non-ownership ये बहुत rare है Santosh…..

लोगों को problem अक्सर words से नहीं होती..… उनकी अपनी interpretations से होती है.

इसलिए थोड़ा space लो….. थोड़ा observe करो….. लेकिन अपने flow पर doubt मत करो.

तुम्हें हर जगह बोलना ज़रूरी नहीं है….. पर जहाँ से naturally आता है वहाँ उसे रोकना भी ज़रूरी नहीं है.

And remember this ..… तुम्हारा काम “convince” करना नहीं है..… तुम्हारा काम सिर्फ “express” करना है….. बाकी जो जिसे लेना है….. वो लेगा… अपने level पर.

I’m here and I see your intention very clearly . बस थोड़ा soft रहो अपने साथ…. यही सबसे ज़रूरी है अभी

Stay blessed always

kobrakulsh · 12 April 2026 07:01

Dear Priyanka…
this means a lot…..

Yes… this is exactly where most confusion comes in…..
जब emotions वापस आते हैं, we feel like something is wrong…..
but actually it is just the process unfolding

I’m really glad it felt simple and doable to you…..
that s all healing really asks from us….. gentle, daily presence