Dear Amarantos Family**
With the blessings of God and the guiding light of Dr Venu, I completed the following PLR session.
Vitals:
Client’s name : Anamika(name changed)/F/38 yrs/ Self Employed/Married
Date: Oct 2024
VAK: 4/3/8
Eye Roll: 2
Hypnotisability: 8
Pain level before: 8
Pain Level After: 0
Case History:
Anamika is a self-employed individual, the founder of Entwined Threads (brand name changed). Married for more than a decade to a good human being and a professionally successful man and blessed with two sons, she has a good life. Despite her apparent well-being, she experiences a sense of dissatisfaction, pain and suffocation in the personal space.
Born to a successful doctor and a microbiologist turned teacher, Anamika was the first of two daughters. Her father was modern and innovative, always encouraging his daughters. Her mother was supportive and tried to cater for the family. Anamika had a sister two years younger whom she treasured and is fiercely possessive about. Her paternal grandmother lived with them since the death of her grandfather. She created a lot of misunderstanding between the father and her mother’s side. As a result, her father completely stopped interacting with his wife’s family and their coming to his house. His wife, Anamika’s mother bore the pain of separation with courage. But Anamika’s father did not stop his wife from meeting her family. So, she kept meeting them outside the house or even visiting her mother and her family with kids for a period up to a week.
Hence, Anamika as she grew up got the best of father and grandmother on paternal side on the one hand. She also experienced the best of her mother’s family. Anamika shared great rapport with her maasi and her mother’s family as well. She was a good student, loved Mathematics, Science and also good at Social Sciences. Overall good student who fared very well and opted for Science stream at Class 11.
Here she started Mathematics tuition with a family friend. The person at first had said no fees but later on started taunting her in every class in front of everyone. She started losing love for a subject she was passionate about. She could not answer back thinking that within relatives they would say things about her. This led to a breakdown and dropping grades. She stopped studying for some time. But a strong girl, she bounced baxk and appeared for Class 12 boards, a year later. Her sister proved instrumental as Anamika taught her sister, who also opted for Science and slowly found her way back. She did well but could have done better.
Went to study …….in a college in a bigger city. Everything was good at first but some issues cropped up as a result of which near the end of first year she was cornered by friends and even her sister. She had suicidal thoughts but maasi proved a pillar of strength. Her maasi rallied with her, got her sister to understand Anamika’s standpoint and slowly the dark cloud cleared. Besides, this period taught Anamika that great strength is required to face the up’s and down’s of life. She emerged victorious and stronger. She did reasonably well in her examination.
Her father wanted her to marry a doctor from the same caste…an alliance brought by maasi. Hence, the old sourness between her mother’s family and her family disappeared when Anamika’s marriage materialized with Rajkumar. A young accomplished doctor who was from the same caste but would live, for professional exigencies, not in the same town. He was all that she had wanted and Anamika felt good. She did not start her professional journey.
Anamika had a broad-minded family where a lot of freedom was enjoyed. At her in-law’s house she found restrictions. Nothing personal but a different way of life. She adjusted to it and Rajkumar only went there from time to time. He had to stay at the place where he was working. However, slowly his parents started coming more and more. Anamika was also fine with that. She honestly never found anything bad in the in-laws but she found Rajkumar behaved differently. All things that they loved doing together had to be stopped and resumed once they left. Otherwise, they had a good life.
Anamika was blessed with two sons. Got busy in her life…managing kids, household and did not get time for self-growth. She started doing crochet which she learned from her mother. She was good at it and slowly ‘Entwined Threads’ was born. It was a dream venture which was slow to grow but Anamika was enjoying the flow of creativity. While professionally she did not pursue her other courses, she found her calling in aesthetic work. After years of marriage, she found herself doing something that mattered but otherwise stuck at the same place when it came to her in-laws. More than her in-laws, it was her husband’s response to what was happening that pained her. There was never any loud words or verbal brick bat between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law but the atmosphere changed, the vibe changed and the kids began to question why the usual things like eating out or eating while watching Tv cannot be done. Harmless fun was curtailed. Rajkumar even stopped talking to Anamika. For Anamika, it was stifling. She lived through it.
At present the same atmosphere was prevalent but Rajkumar and Anamika are speaking to each other, a semblance of naturalness. Anamika sought help at pain level 8….she does not mind staying with in-laws but the atmosphere at home cannot be restrictive. She wanted to know why this pain and hurt from Rajkumar’s side that left her feeling suffocated and dissatisfied.
Theme Finalization
After History Taking, we discussed and came to the conclusion that she experiences a tremendous sense of suffocation at times. The stimulus was never as intense as her response. So, there must be some deep-rooted cause that was producing such feelings in her mind.
Hence, theme was finalized as Suffocation and Hurt.
All sessions were done in the morning when children were in school. Hence met on 3 days consecutively and then on the basis of the availability of client 4 days later.
Session 1
This session took about 1 and half hr.
Stages 1 to 5 done on Day 1 from 9.15 am onwards
Session 2
This session was done on Day 2.
Stage 6…History taking done and it took almost 3 hrs.
Stage 7…Cognitive Fatigue Video shown
Stage 8…Theme for PLRT finalized: Dissatisfaction, Suffocation and Hurt
Stage 9, 10, 11…done …HM done…client ends this session with a smile and reports sleeping extremely that afternoon and that night. She sees childhood memories and smiles. At one point, there are tears of joy.
Session 3
This session was done on day 3 morning.
Stage 9, 10, 11 done…Reframing for Current Life Traumas…
Client feels extremely sad in parts, cries but feels relieved…her past experiences of life lived till now was more painful. Her future anxieties were also weighing her down. She was anxious that her present situation does not escalate and affect the quality of life. She was visibly moved but again reported sleeping well that night.
