Dear Supritee, I like to incorporate goof in almost everything possible! I feel life would be boring without laughter. Sometimes people don’t understand and roll their eyes at me 
and I’m reminded to proceed cautiously. People don’t take you seriously if you try to make things lighter with laughter, somehow it’s labeled as childish and immature. But I care less, and I feel grateful that after moving to North America I finally met others with this carefree attitude, from doctors to teachers and other serious professionals and it has become my second nature now. In India we still have that serious attitude and approach towards things and I like to break that whenever I visit and I love people’s reactions 
that’s my fun! You can be goofy, productive and smart! It’s hard to find people with same vibes and humour 
luckily my kids inherited it from me 
+1
Also Sense of humour is one out of 6 prerequisite for being a good counsellor as well @hc2101
Kudos to you
I too feel that Without laughter and being able to see the humorous side is a boring life
"A good laugh, an arousing even to what might in some be called hilariousness, is good for the body, physically, mentally, and gives the opportunity for greater mental and spiritual awakening. " our love 
Edgar Cayce
But of course theres a fine line between humour and being frivolous, which all my Amarantians know.
Venu sir…
Thanks for bringing humour into the context of counselling as a prerequisite as it really reframes laughter as a therapeutic quality and not a distraction from seriousness.
Sometimes a moment of lightness shifts the entire emotional state of the client.
This discernment is something I feel we keep learning with experience and guidance like yours.
Grateful for the way you hold space for both depth and lightness in the Amarantians community.
My supreme joy to be of any service to this community which is studded with such precious ones as you 
Harmeet… I absolutely loved reading
such a refreshing honesty in the way you expressed yourself.
What you’re saying is so real. Somewhere many of us grew up with this conditioning that serious work must look serious… as if depth and laughter cannot coexist.
But in healing work, I have experienced that lightness sometimes open doors that intensity cannot. A gentle moment of humour can soften defenses, make the nervous system feel safe and allow people to breathe again.
So your “goofiness” is actually a beautiful therapeutic energy in its own way.
The cultural difference you mentioned, yes… is so true. In India. Professionalism is often equated with restraint. Whereas in other spaces, authenticity and lightness are seen as strength.
Maybe we are the bridge generation learning to hold both.
About your kids inheriting this vibe..… is such a gift to pass on. A home where laughter is natural creates emotionally resilient humans.
Please don’t ever dim this spark. The world needs people who can be wise and playful at the same time. And I’m glad you bring that colour even into our professional spaces… it makes our journey more human.
Absolutely! Laughter is good but it must not overshadow the professionalism. Keeping the light mood is fine but there must be a clear line and we never cross and serve insults wrapped up in wit. I hate that! Roasting should be reserved for a few privileged loved ones! Not everyone gets my vibe and roast
@kobrakulsh Yes you said it right. Lightness does take off the invisible layer and people feel easy and comfortable. When I moved here I realized the power of social skills. In India we have such talented people but they have this image of being खरहूस and seem unapproachable. Lots of teachers and doctors and sometimes family members too mostly males. They have such authoritarian personalities for no reason. Here I found the opposite, there’s a a gentle approach here in schools, specially with young kids and this does help to have their own voice at such young age. And at hospitals and doctors clinic too I find every one having this easy feeling and empathy and that truly helps in those hard times. It takes off the burden and hesitation. India is changing slowly. I feel blessed to have such supportive and fun parents who let me be ME! And tradition continues with the next generation 
@venu Sir, you are beyond amazing, introducing and running this community effortlessly comes naturally to you. It feels organic. But I must confess, initially I didn’t like the post approval process, we have to wait for it but now I feel it it’s very important for every post to go through the filter, just to keep the forum going in a dignified manner. I’m amazed at your dedication to keep the community alive and thriving 
kudos! Forever grateful
Harmeet
Lightness is not just a social skill..… it is actually an energetic permission we give to another human being to exist without fear. And mostly healing begins here…n not in techniques, not in theories, but in how safe someone feels in our presence.
You are so right about the “authoritarian personality” pattern. In India it often comes from conditioning, not from lack of goodness. Generations were taught that seriousness equals respect, distance equals authority and emotional softness equals weakness. So many beautiful, intelligent people unknowingly carry a heavy outer shell.
What you are noticing globally is important the shift from control to connection.
From hierarchy to humane interaction. From fear-based respect to heart-based respect.
And when children are given voice early, their nervous system grows differently. They don’t just become confident adults, they become emotionally literate humans. And this change societies…
Also… your gratitude towards your parents shows. People who feel “allowed to be themselves” naturally give that same space to others. That is how emotional evolution actually spreads, not through preaching, but through living example.
India is indeed changing..… slowly, unevenly, but deeply. And conversations like this are part of that change.
Thank you for bringing this warmth into the discussion. It adds a human heartbeat to what could otherwise remain just a therapeutic dialogue
Yeah truly! Times are changing and so do people, it feels okay to ditch the outer shell of rigidness and adapt the softer version, there’s no point in pretending to be strong and losing connection without showing affection. Our generations are changing and it’s very pleasant. We treat people with more warmth and empathy. Slowly we will get there.
lovely way to make them (client) feel safe and secure 
very deep case study each and every crystal-clear step
lovely prayer Amen.
high Hypnositability score
really very well started the case study with the contract and oath-taking… 
sooooooo primitive
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Avanti… Avantika…Avanti’
[/quote]ujjain was known as avantika earlier…
Beautiful Harmeet…
What you said is so very real.
I too feel the shift.…
our generation is quietly unlearning this inherited “armor” of being strong all the time. Earlier, strength meant silence, endurance, holding everything in….. but now it’s slowly becoming about softness, honesty and allowing ourselves to feel without guilt.
Honestly speaking, the moment we drop this rigid outer shell…..connections start breathing again. There is more space for warmth, for real conversations, for those small gestures of affection that actually heal so much within us.
What you said about
“no point in pretending to be strong and losing connection”
is sooo deep, because somewhere, many of us have lived this pattern…… and now we’re consciously choosing differently.
It is a slow evolution…… not loud, not forced..… but very heart-led.
And yes..… slowly, lovingly….. we are getting there
still in our society, any art form is treated as unconventional and uncertain, so for artists, the fight becomes multiplefold.
Very true. In fact, for some people (artists), it’s peace-giving, so for some artists, they just leave the social connections to pursue their passion.