Client details
Jahnvi (Name changed), Home maker.
Vitals: F/ 27Y/ HR score: 6/10; ERT score: 2/4/ VAK score:5/8/2
Breathing pattern: Normal Dominant sense: Visual Secondary sense: Auditory
Pain level: 8
This is my second case study. The first 3 sessions were done consecutively and the last session was done after a week’s gap.
Client History:
J is a 27 year old female born in a middle class loving family. She was pampered till 5 until baby sister was born. During teenage, her lies led to trust issues between her and her parents. She gets angry very often when she is made fun of (weak in studies, body weight issues). Life was smooth till she got married. 2 years before she got married, she was in a relationship with S, but didn’t have the courage to inform her parents. They broke up. After that she married V, whom her parents chose for her. Before marriage itself, they had rifts. Both J and V were forced by their parents to get married early- J was 22 and V was 25. They didn’t want to get married, but didn’t have the courage to fight also. Even after 3 years of marriage, it wasn’t consummated. Due to social pressure, J got pregnant and now has a 1 year old daughter. J and V have had constant fights over all these 5 years and now it has come to the point that they can’t be reconciled.
She loves animals, specifically dogs.
Her predominant problem was relationship issues.
The theme was powerless in Session 1-3. We still need a lot of clarifications, so we went for Session 4 with the theme of relationship issues.
Session1:
While relaxing, I asked to imagine a dog and name it, she named Appy.
T: Can we go to a place where you feel powerless?
C: My mom was pregnant. Close to delivery date. She was going to the hospital, I asked for chocolate and she beat me. I felt very powerless.
My dad took me for a long drive and then we came back to the hospital. There was a baby in a glass box. I was worried our baby was in danger, but then I was told it was not our baby. The nurse brought a baby girl, I said, this is not ours. Ours is a boy baby. The nurse said this is yours. I felt powerless then. I thought if I had power I could replace the baby girl with a baby boy.
T: Any other memory you feel powerless?
C: My twelfth exam result came. I have scored very few marks in economics. My family is scolding me. I am thinking, when I can’t score more, why are you forcing me. Dad threatens me to get married. My aunt and cousin are laughing at me. I felt very powerless.
T: Let’s go some other place you feel powerless?
C: When my husband said I am not attracted to you at all. I feel repulsive.
The client was taken to the mountain and reframing was done.
Session 2:
T: Let’s go to a past life which is connected to why being a girl makes you powerless?
C: I am a small girl in a frock. Red color frock. One man is misbehaving with me. I cry. I came back home sad. My grandma (current life grandma) and dad (current life- dad) are asking what’s wrong with me. I didn’t say anything. I go to my room. I have a soft toy. I told all my problems to the toy and slept. In my sleep, somebody is touching me. I am scared. I struggle, throw up. The next day, I am down with a fever. Then my grandpa, he scolds me in a language which I am not familiar with. He is shouting that he had wasted so much money for a dance competition and I am down with a fever.
T: Ok, what happens next?
C: Now, I am 12-14 years old. I have a baby in my hand.
T: Is that your baby?
C: I don’t know. Maybe.
T: What happens now?
C: I am in the light. I see Appy.
T: Very good, what lesson have you learnt in this life?
C: Not to tell lies.
I wanted to go back to this life. But the client said her heart is pounding and she is scared of the dark (night). So, I didn’t force her. She couldn’t identify the man who misbehaved with her. She was scared to go back to this life.
T: Not to worry. You are now in the light with Appy. Let’s go to another life.
C: I am an 18 year old female. I was stabbed by a male in my tummy.
T: Who is that male?
C: I don’t know.
T: Ok, what happens next?
C: I am in the light. I am walking a lot in the light. I see a river. One side of the river my mom (current) and on the other side my grandma (current life, but dead). I am half my mom and half my grandma. I look at my reflection in the river. Then there is no reflection of me in the river.
T: What do they say?
C: My granny says ‘Don’t do the same mistake I did to your mom, your mom did to you and you to your daughter’.
T: What mistake do they talk about?
C: Accept yourself. Only light.
C: I see X place (this is her childhood house). My grandpa is there. He tells me he will take me to a palace through a new route which is underground. It is a dangerous path, but will lead to a palace. I believed him and we both walked for a long time. At the end of the walk, I found myself in the marriage hall. I am getting married. My husband and I are on a bike. He pushes me down. I am alone there. It is very lonely. I am crying. My mom comes there. She takes me with her.
At the end of the session, the client didn’t want to talk. She was very tired. Also, though she got lessons like ‘Not to lie’, ‘Accept yourself’, her failing marriage- things were bit and pieces.
Session 3: We talked a lot for her relaxation. She said when she was sleeping or while thinking about what happened in trance, she could recollect the personalities. The person who stabbed her was her husband. Her husband had hurt her twice. Also, she said she has a scar in her tummy (where she was stabbed). Recently, the scar hurts on and off.
T: Let’s go to the memory where you met V long back. Your higher self knows V for a long time. Let it take you there.
C: I see a dense forest. I look like a princess. I am wearing a satin pink dress. I have long hair. 3 people on horseback are with me. Then, there is another girl with me. Wait, she doesn’t look like a girl. She doesn’t have legs. She is pretty. But she doesn’t have legs. She is floating with me.
T: Ok, what happens
C: The 3 people who are with me for my protection are getting attacked all of a sudden. Then one person who flew from no where- he is flying towards me with a knife and stabs me in my tummy. He is V.
Abreaction - shaking head
Now, I am in a palace. My long hair is combed by an old lady, who reminds me of my aunt. I am wearing a green color engagement ring which Vikram gave me. I tell my aunt that I am going to lead a happy life with Vikram. My aunt tells me, Vikram (V in that life) is in love with Anamika (girl in the forest with J). Until Anamika is there, Vikram won’t love you. I get mad. I rushed to see Anamika. She is my friend. I stab her with a knife. She is dead. I am scared. I go to my dad. My dad says to go to the forest for some time. My dad arranges for security. The 3 people who were with me are those people. Vikram knows I killed Anamika. He takes revenge on me.
I am dead.
T: Ok, let’s go to another life time
C: I am in a red wedding saree. V is sitting beside me. We are in a car. I tell him, I need Appy. V says, no more Appy. I cry. V holds the back of my neck and pushes me towards the front seat. He hits me. He says ‘no more Appy’ and he smiles viciously. I tell him, don’t smile like this. I am scared, don’t smile like this. He throws me out of the car. I am hurt in my head. I am crying.
T: What happens to Appy?
C: V killed Appy. V doesn’t want me to be happy. V crushed Appy using a lorry.
T: Ok, let’s go to another life time
C: I am in a beautiful house- village backdrop- so many animals in my house- I have a son and a daughter. S is my husband. He works in a cement factory. I take care of the house. Everybody says your house is so warming and loving. S calls me Anitha. The name of my house is ‘Nandavanam’ (garden). We have two bulls- Kaalai, and Ram. Laxmi, the cow is about to deliver. My son closes my eyes and he says wake up Amma.
T: What happened?
C: It looks like my dream life has crashed. I am sitting on a stone bench. I am depressed. Looking horrible. Too much weight. Whenever I am stressed, I gain weight. If I don’t have stress, I don’t gain weight. Then my dad comes and tells, ‘Priya, I have spoiled your life by getting you married to Raja. You better leave this life and end your suffering’. My dad tries to kill me, but then Raja (V) comes and kills me again.
I see a blue bird, which is my guardian angel. Bird is with me. It is with all along. It says, I want to save you by warning your dad. I am your grandma. But your dad didn’t understand my message. You are suffering. I die. I am with the light now.
T: Ok, can you now ask why V is doing this to you?
C: I killed his love. He is revenging me.
T: Do you think you were wrong?
C: No.
T: You could have killed Vikram, why did you kill Anamika instead?
C: Because Anamika is my friend. She could have told me. I would have let Vikram marry her. She didn’t tell me, it’s her mistake.
T: Ok, can you ask your higher self how to resolve this?
C: The light now has pushed me to the dark. I am in the dark. I don’t want to be in the dark. Take me out.
The client was taken out of trance. The client was not ready to accept and ask for forgiveness. Until, client is ready, I am not supposed to enforce forgiveness or ask sorry.
During integration, I told the client that it might take some time and to give a gap to process all these events. When the client is ready to ask and give forgiveness, I am always ready to help her.
