I ve a session coming up for a mom with special needs daughter in a couple of days.
I would like to know if anyone has done session for such moms ? Kindly share your experiences and suggestions to help the child by giving a session to her mother. I would like to have more insights before handing her session. Thanks in advance
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@ushapssk Pls refer the following post :-
Proxy regression therapy grants access to healing for contra-indicated clients
I remember Master @venu also told about such a case wherein the child was benefitted through the proxy session of his Mother. Maybe, he can guide us better in your upcoming case.
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Thanks for your response Dr Aayush. Will definitely check
Just wanted to know if anyone has done such cases and get their suggestions
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Dear Tripurasundari ,
Yes, I’ve handled such sessions. With PLRT, I have found it very important not to enter with the intention of healing the child through the mother. Instead, the focus should be on the mother’s subconscious, especially guilt, self-blame, grief of unmet expectations, and chronic stress.
These sessions need a lot of softness, as most mothers of these children have been “strong” for far too long. Inside, there is tiredness, quiet grief and a lot of unspoken guilt.
Before thinking about the child, let the mother feel seen, heard, and safe…as there may be emotional imprints from pregnancy, birth or early caregiving years that the mother has never processed because she’s been in survival mode.
Allow her to rest emotionally in your space. Even if she cries, even if she feels confused…everything is okay. Coz only when a mother’s heart feels lighter, her energy changes… and children respond to that without words.
In my experience once these layers are gently addressed, the emotional field around the child shifts on its own
So, go slowly, gently and with compassion
…minimal probing, more holding.
When the mother heals, her nervous system becomes a regulating anchor for the child.
Trust the process and your intuition.
Wishing you a beautiful session.
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Thanks for your response
What you mentioned about the mother is absolutely true. Definitely will take care of the mother being comfortable giving her space and will keep all your inputs in mind.
Thanks for your wishes and support.
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Proxy regression feels both fascinating and tender work. I’m very curious to hear how the session flowed. Please do write about it—there’s so much we can all learn through shared experiences. Good luck 
@ushapssk
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Thanks for your wishes
Definitely will keep all the inputs from our group
Will update after the session
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So true! Kids are so sensitive to mother’s energy. I can still feel it when I’m with mom and my kids feel the same. Mother-child bond/connection is the most powerful thing. Your whole life shapes on that.
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Absolutely right my blessed ones
But what about the mothers of current ethos who know this and take their children for a ride. (Kind of guilt trapping, blackmailing…) Very complicated to explain but you know what I’m talking about.
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@venu Sir, again a thoughtful invitation to discussion and addressing the underlined issue. I feel In the current ethos, awareness itself can become a tool. When a parent, often a mother knows the language of sacrifice, trauma, and emotional responsibility, it can unconsciously slip into guilt-trapping or emotional blackmail. Not because of malice, but because unhealed needs are still operating. The child then isn’t responding to overt control, but to moral pressure, emotional obligation, and fear of being “ungrateful.” Intent may be loving, but impact can still be entangling. Naming this isn’t about blaming mothers, it’s about acknowledging that emotional awareness doesn’t automatically equal emotional maturity.
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Well said 
@kobrakulsh . Delight to read.
@ushapssk Eagerly waiting for your feedback after the session.
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Yes absolutely true I too have felt the same
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What you have mentioned here is absolutely true
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I am also looking forward for the session waiting for the appointment with the mother hopefully in the next couple of days
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I have spent a lot of quality time with 30 special kids who reside in an orphanage in Bangalore near my home and somehow am sharing what i feel when I am in their presence. These kids are realized beings bcoz they do not pretend as we the so called Normal ones do. I used to take classes in their place. Once when I reached there I saw a 58 year old special girl play in a swing, She was moving so fast and laughing loudly enjoying the moment completely. I simply love swings and its always my dream to play in the swing like she was playing but we have been taught not to laugh loud not to speak loud and how could we even think of playing in swings once we are adults….OMG……But here people called her mentally challenged…..who is actually challenged me or her was the question whenever I saw her.
These kids are always content no demand for food water nothing as such if u give them they will take or just be…….sitting behaving exactly like 3-5 year olds. No jealousy no competition basically no desires. What would be the reason for their sessions they are exactly living the way paramatma has made them desireless contented.
But a session for mothers yes its absolutely necessary for her to come to acceptance from grief., Once I did a session on a client with A SPECIALCHILD…..what she saw was mind blowing.She was a devoted housewife in some village of Maharashtra very pious lady. One day a saint visited their village he went to many houses but did not go to her house for food…..she waited and prayed,cried everyday till she reached her deathbed……..she died waiting…..but she saw the saint in lbl state he promised he will come to her house but she has to take care of everything, he said he will not do anything….she has to feed him clean him take care of all his needs……..when I asked to look into the saints eyes to see who he was…………yes the same special special kid…..
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